No matter what the situation it is always best to come in with confidence. Now as will anything this is all too much easier to say than it is to do. In fact forcing oneself to be confident is one of the hardest things for anyone to do in life. It is such a complicated and multifaceted state of mind that takes so much effort and time to build up and foster and not very much at all to shatter into a thousand pieces all at once.
No confidence is far from an easy thing to control but the silver lining that we all much remember is that we can control it. Unlike our physical and mental limitations that we were born with that we can do nothing about bar cosmetic surgery, our level of confidence and self esteem are things that we can actively improve through our actions and habits and ultimately make our lives better for ourselves. We can do all of this by the choices that we make and the way that we think about our lives.
So as previously mentioned confidence affects everything we do, and therefore the success rates of everything that we do. This includes sex and attainment of sexual attraction. So if you are looking for a fuck buddy and you are worried that your appearance that you can do little to control is holding you back. Remember there is nothing more important in sexual attraction than confidence level. ie that means that of all the factors that you can influence the single most effective is confidence.
So what is the take away from this conclusion? Look after yourself, love yourself, and you will draw people to you. You will draw professional connections, you will draw friendly connections and you will draw sexual connections to you. Everyone without exception is drawn to confidence and self esteem. That is not to say all of your problems will go away if you are confident and have high self esteem but they will be less problematic.
The reason confident people get more sex is that they seem like they do not need it. That they could easily get laid and therefore are high value to potential partners, they have chosen you, or you have chosen them, and that makes the chosen person feel special. Whereas if someone seems desperate then the partner of the desperate person feels they are low value and undesirable because of that.
Finally I want to tackle a fine point on the topic of confidence and that is that confidence comes from knowing your weaknesses and pain and letting it flow through you and feeling it and then letting it go again. There is nothing attractive about repressed emotions and in the long run these will always bite back at you and possibly the ones you love. So remember true confidence comes from loving yourself, the real imperfect, fallible you. Loving you and sharing that love with everyone else through your attitude and actions.
Confidence is not easy to gain nor maintain but it fuels the acquisition of everything worth having in life, so give yourself a break and love yourself.
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