Dirty talk is something that different people are comfortable to such different extents. We all come from such varied backgrounds when it comes to this one matter of the bedroom. I know some people that love it. They talk dirty to their partner all the time, and they do so with great gusto and confidence. Often in these cases the partner more than willingly joins in and dirty talks back to them as well - and so they bounce off each other until they get so horney that before they know it they are bouncing on top of each other!
Other people come from a much more reserved and shy background. They are unused to talking dirty and so they approach it with much trepidation and fear. What if they say the wrong things? What if what they say turns the other person off, or insults them or makes you sound stupid in some way? We all have a front of sorts that we erect in front of the other person, a version of ourselves that we put up and portray. If we are having sex with that person then we know for sure that this version of ourselves is one that is attractive and much liked... why would we risk that by trying something that we have never done before, something that we are not very good at, and something that almost guaranteed that we will do badly to begin with until we get to the point of actually becoming good at it? This is the point that I would like to address in this article. The why.
Why do dirty talk despite any fear
The reason is because of where it might take you. We all have a lot of fear when it comes to sharing our innermost desires & wishes. We put ourselves on the line when it comes to being vulnerable with the other person and we leave ourselves open to having our hearts ripped out... so why do it? Well the answer is the reward. The gain.
Dirty talk can lead you from playfully saying the odd word or whispering the odd known desire, to whispering the unknown desires. Once you have shared and gotten used to saying what you want to do, what you are going to do that they are comfortable with, you can then step forward to saying the things that you want to do that perhaps you are unsure that they are going to be up for. You can start sharing the things you really really want to do but have never done before. When said in the setting of dirty talk they are more likely to be accepted and carried out.
So dirty talk, because you don’t know where that might lead you – and you might find that it leads you both to extremely exciting places!
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