How cheating can help a relationship

9 Sep 2014 - 14:39 | Tags: cheating can help sometimes

I bet you did a double take when you read that title. With cheating generally considered to be the morally wrong thing to do to someone how can anyone think it can be beneficial? I’ll start by making a few points for context:

1. Cheating can be very hurtful to the person it’s being done to and should therefore be resisted where possible
2. Cheating is disrespectful towards the person you’re cheating on
3. We do not advocate you cheating on a partner or spouse if you have one

With those points made clear the next question has to be asked. Why do people still cheat knowing these facts?

The Painful Truth
When a man starts to think about cheating on his girlfriend or spouse it is due to one of a number of factors:

a) They feel they are missing out on something
b) They take their significant other for granted
c) They realise their relationship is no longer nurturing and they are seeking a way out

There are benefits to each of these factors. In the case of the man feeling like he’s missing out on something the benefit is the realisation that in fact he’s not. Usually huge feelings of regret occur once the man realises his girlfriend or spouse is in actual fact pretty fucking great compared to the one night stand he’s just explored. In the case of the man taking his significant other for granted the benefit is the reminder that their partner is great. They get a huge reminder of why they are with their partner in the first place. In the case of the man realising their relationship is no longer nurturing cheating is the subconscious recognition that something needs to be done to get out. There is no benefit to remaining in a relationship that is not satisfying emotionally or sexually.

What about a woman who starts to think about cheating?

Similar reasons with variations
Women cheat often for the same reasons that men do; they take their partner for granted or they feel they’ve missed out on other opportunities. There is one major difference however and that is that sometimes women cheat more often because they are not getting the emotional and/or sexual satisfaction they need from their partner. This reason more then any other is given by women who cheat on their partners.

Conclusion
In short cheating can help people define or redefine the relationships they have with their partners. It also can help people decide whether or not they are with the right person. Cheating should not be encouraged but it is understandable in many cases.

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