Our modern day lives are so far removed from how we lived just one or two generations ago. Your grandparents lived in smaller communities. This could have manifested in the obvious way, they perhaps lived in smaller villages or hamlets, some of them may have lived more remotely in the country where you know everyone living in a 10 mile radius because there are so few of them! Even those living in the cities whether it be Birmingham or Manchester, they still lived with tighter grouped communities. The possible exception to this is London, which has been a sprawling place for so long now that if you lived in the dense central part you were probably a couple of generations ahead in terms of losing your tight community. This has now all changed.
In today’s world our personal “communities” are no longer “tight” simply because they are spread over a larger geographical area! Modern day living means that people travel more for work, their circumstances mean that they end up spreading out over the country over the course of their lives. The presence of the internet means that they remain “friends” with people from across the country more easily (using things like facebook) and thus their friends and family becomes physically removed them. So how does this affect people’s sex lives?
Once you would have looked to people from within your friendship circle to find sexual partners. You certainly would have chosen partners from within your chosen community because that is the pool you have easy access to. However now your community is spread across the country, which means having to travel distances to meet up with / see various people. Traveling is a hassle though, it takes time and effort. So how far are you willing to travel for a potential snog or lay? It all comes down to how horny you are.
If you are really horny, you will travel the globe for a lay! If you haven’t had sex for an eon, like a thirsty man to water, you will travel the earth itself if needs be in order to get your end away. We a know that it is true, and there is no shame in it. If you need it less, your sphere of how far you will go will shrink right down to a much smaller distance! So how is this useful?
Neediness is a bit of a killer when it comes to attraction. So if you do end up travelling a great distance to see a girl, play it down. Don’t make a big deal out of it, you were in the area “anyway” it is no biggy. Just play it cool, no need for them to know this.
There is no shame to travelling a distance to see someone, but if you do it, make sure you don’t make a big deal out of it.
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