Opening lines are always hard to come up with. You see someone you like the look of from across the bar, you pluck up the courage to go up and say hello, and for reasons unknown your mouth goes dry, your throat seizes up and you just stand there gurgling awkwardly. Worse; you say something really stupid or insane that makes the person look at you oddly and walk away. Theoretically speaking it should be easier to come up with a really good opening line online! After all you have more time to think about what you’re going to say to a prospective f-buddy. Yet a lot of our users constantly bemoan the fact that they keep getting messages like “Hey sexy. Fancy a shag?” or “WOW! U r hot!”
Definitely not Shakespeare and definitely not impressing a lot of our members who receive this Casanova-lite nonsense. There are simple and effective methods in communicating with someone for the first time. We’re now going to show you how to write a really good opening message without sounding like either a total dick head or a snobby bitch. You want to get a new f-buddy? Pay attention.
The DOs
1.DO be creative
Nothing says ‘I haven’t thought about this at all’ like ‘Hey babe!’ or ‘Hi’ Be a little more creative with your opening message. You are trying to introduce yourself to someone you fancy for crying out loud. They’re not going to remember lame opening lines. They will remember creative and cleverly worded sentences.
2.DO look at the profile
Once you’ve finished ogling the photos don’t just speed right into messaging. Have a look at the f-buddy’s profile. Are you a match for them? When someone says they’re not interested in people sending them cock pictures, they actually mean it. It’s not an invitation for you to do so. Pay attention to the profile.
3.DO be aware that you’re messaging a real human being
It’s easy to be drawn into objectifying every single profile you browse. After all you’re both here to shag right? Yes, but remember that like you, this other person is a human being and is just as fallible as you. Don’t be a dick or a bitch with your messaging. Be nice and be understanding.
The DON’Ts
1.DON’T message someone you’re not a match with
When someone says they’re not interested in men older than 50 – guess what? They mean it!
2.DON’T text speak someone
Unless someone has written their profile in text speak, you should try and use correct spelling and punctuation in your messaging. Things like ‘LOL U R SXY’ will get you nowhere if the profile you message has bothered to spell and construct proper sentences.
3.DON’T get frustrated or angry if someone doesn’t respond to your message
Just like in a bar or a club or anywhere in the real world, not everyone is going to want to talk to you. It’s a fact of life! So don’t get upset, down or angry if you don’t receive a reply from someone you messaged. They might be busy or you just might not be their type.
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