Hard to believe but this is actually a lot easier when people start being more honest with what they want. On a site like ours you’d think having sex the first time you meet up with a potential fuck buddy is almost a guarantee. Well even though your chances of having sex with someone the first time you meet up with them from f-buddy are high, they’re not 100%. You need to play the game and follow a few guidance notes first.
Rule 1: This is not a date
The first thing you need to drill into your head when meeting up is to treat it like an average friendly meet up. It’s not a date, and if you think of it as a date then you’re not going to get laid. Be casual with each other. Go run some errands together and treat the encounter like a standard fun time…but the key is to make it fun! Traditional ‘let's have dinner’ dating is a massive sex killer. Why? Because there is always an implied potential behind it: sex. Instead go do something fun! Do something you would do normally and treat it as you normally would. Your potential fuck buddy just happens to be coming along for the ride, and as long you keep treating it in this way; they won’t want to get off.
Rule 2: Romantic Comedies Don’t Work
Love Actually, Notting Hill, You’ve got Mail and about a trillion other crappy romantic comedies might be enjoyable to watch, but they bear no relation to real life dating whatsoever. So ditch the romantic comedy notion of a date you might have in your head and get real. At some point in the date you might want to kiss your date. If this is the case do it when you first feel like doing it, not when you think it’s appropriate. Sometimes the best times to kiss are when they least expect it. Just don’t leave it till the end of the date.
Rule 3: Avoid going anywhere expensive
Ask yourself a simple question: Would you spend upwards of £50 of your own money on a business client you had just met for the first time? Of course you wouldn’t! So why the hell would you spend upwards of the same on a person you have just met for a date? It’s insane. You don’t even know if you like this person yet. Go somewhere cheap but cool. A wonder around a Museum gives you both time to chat and get to know one another and most of the time it’s free. Same is true of most tourist spots.
Rule 4: Bring the party
If you turn up to your date relaxed, calm and totally comfortable with yourself, it will paint you in a far better way than if you turn up nervous, mute and uncomfortable. You’re going out to have fun! Be the fun and you’ll find your potential fuck buddy will want to jump your bones before you even realise what’s going on.
Rule 5: Pay Attention
Sexual cues are often given out subtly without any verbal communication. You have to be aware of them when they arrive and reciprocate accordingly. If he keeps touching your arm and his hand brushes up against your leg, then he’s letting you know he’s into you. Similarly if she’s touching your arm regularly, laughing and maintaining strong eye contact with you then the chances are she’s into you. Pay attention and you’ll be burning calories the fun way in no time at all.
Follow these rules and you’ll be surprised how quickly coffee turns into a 3 hour sex session.
Happy fucking!
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