When it comes to having sex here in the UK, we are a fairly reserved people. We have a bit of a history of not wanting to talk about sex, about it being a bit of a fo pa, and especially for women there was a concept that t enjoy sex was a negative thing. If you were a man and you slept with a lot of people you were a bit of a Cad or a rouge, if you were a girl and you slept with a lot of people you were a slut. This is something that I am glad is quickly being rooted out here in the UK, and the more time passes the more the truth becomes the normal attitude. Sex is normal, everyone has it, and everyone should enjoy it. It’s not a difficult concept – and by virtue of the fact you are reading this article on this site it is very likely that you are already aware of this – so apologies for preaching to the converted.
So when you finally make it to the bedroom – with the usual British stiff upper lip firmly in place on your face, you start to have sex with your partner. You want it to be good, both for you and for your partner. In the early days you are getting to know each other; you are learning each others likes and dislikes, the parts of their bodies that when stoked light them up like a fire fly, and the parts that gain a reaction similar to that of dropping a sexual-bucket-of-water on their heads. And all the time you are doing this, you are communicating through the language of... grunts?
Grunting in the bedroom is a time honoured tradition, and I am in no way knocking it... I am simply stating that it is a little bit of a clumsy form of communication. That trying to tell someone to slow down, or speed up through the form of a grunt is a little bit difficult to decipher, especially in the heat of the moment whilst wrapped up in the desire for the other person.
You are there – (s)he grunts... did that mean harder or softer? Faster or slower? (S)he likes it or hates it?
I have a suggestion for you – trying using words once in a while. You will both benefit from the additional meaning you will be able to convey from the switch in language.
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