As men, when we look to increase our attractiveness to the opposite sex, the first thing that springs to our mind is always physical appearance. How do I look? Am I handsome? Am I muscled? If I am over weight then can I loose the fat? Now I have to be careful here, physical attractiveness plays its part in the dating market place for sure. If you are so over weight you need a fork lift truck to leave the house you aren’t going to be very attractive and ought to do something about it. However, spending time and effort to get a six pack is just not worth it – unless you are doing it purely for yourself of course. Once you are looking lets say reasonable, the best thing you can do is find a project.
As a man in the sexual market place, as long as you look “alright” or above, the big thing that is going to make you attractive to women is if you have agency. If you are someone who can make things happen, someone who appears to be in control of their life, is pursuing the things that they want to pursue and is driving towards a goal of their choosing. The best way of doing this is to have a project.
A modern day philosopher once said “show me a man with a project, and there I will show you a happy man”. The act of having a project does a multitude of positive things for your life and your sex life. When you have a project, you are someone who is driving towards something. You become a man that knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to pursue it. When you have a project you often end up finding friends through it either because you approach them to help you, or because you have joined a bigger team to make the project happen. It brings a social group with it, and that makes you more attractive. You often may meet people through this that because they specifically also share a love for the project, will be even more gagging to jump your bones because you embody this. Having a project fends of depression, inactivity, laziness and a whole host of unwanted qualities that could other wise illuminate your eligibility as a fuck buddy in the eyes of a potential suitor. It is the rudder with which you can use to guide yourself through bad times, the foundation that gives you something solid to stand on during your inevitable life storms.
If you want to have women banging at your door – consider finding a project, if you don’t already have one. It will genuinely make your life better as well as make you more attractive.
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