It’s a bit like a revolving subject this one, but the reason we and so many other blogs keep talking about it is because people (guys mostly I’m afraid) don’t seem to know what to say on their first message. Many people seem to think that the best way to grab a potential f-buddy’s attention is to talk about their penis or be unable to say anything other than ‘Hi Babe’. If you haven’t already figured it out, messages like these just go straight in the bin. Below we run through the top 5 mistakes people (mostly guys - sorry guys but its true!) make when sending their first message.
1. Sending a Wink
So you decide you like the look of someone’s profile. Great! But instead of messaging, you send a shitty little emoticon instead. Because you’ve done this your message will now be binned. Goodbye Captain Can’t-be-arsed-to-write-a-proper message.
2. Saying ‘Hi Babe, you’re gorgeous!’
Really, people still send these messages. Not only is it boring, dull and insulting, it’s just pathetic. Again this kind of message will be going straight into the bin.
3. ‘Hi’
Possibly the stupidest message to send to someone. Okay so you want to say hello, but what else? Like who you are? Why you decided to message? Come on people! It’s really not that hard to think of something more interesting than ‘Hi’.
4. Taking too long to respond to her message
Guys do this more than women. Taking long to respond to someone’s message is not only rude, it’s stupid. Guess what hot shot? The chances of her messaging you back after you’ve done something like this are literally zero. Why? Because she thinks you’ve lost interest. It doesn’t make you seem cool or mysterious or busy if you don’t message back within a reasonable time. It just makes you look like a dick. Which you are if you do this.
5. Asking for personal information too soon
Red alert! This is by far the biggest mistake a lot of people (guys again!) make when sending a first message. Would you give out all your personal details to a complete stranger? No? So why ask someone you haven’t even met yet for theirs? Wake up!
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