Everyone has different timescales about how quickly they will or will not sleep with someone. Some people will have sex on the first date without thought, others will want to be married in a church before even considering having sex with the other person. There are extremes on both sides, and everyone is different. I think it is important to be really non judgemental about this, whatever you want is okay, there is no right and wrong with this. However one of the things affecting this is the combination of how quickly you are willing to have sex, and how quickly the other person is willing to have sex. If one person is a first date sex guy, and the girl a 4th date sex person, it is likely that you may meet at the 3rd date instead (note that it does generally favour the girl with these things. I make no comment as to why, but it does seem that way).
How waiting affects things
The wait time can really affect things. If one person is a sex on the first date, and the other person wants to wait for months before having sex, the relationship between the two of them is unlikely to last long enough for them to sleep together. One of them will lose interest far too soon for the other persons timescales, it is a simple as that. It doesn’t matter how sexually compatible you are, you will never find out!
Why 5 days is dicing with death
Whether you are seeing someone with a view to having a relationship with them, or you are just looking for a fuck buddy, 5 days really is dicing with death in both cases. Let me take them one by one.
Fuck-buddy dating: If you are looking for a fuck buddy and you wait 5 days, I guarantee that they will lose interest and leave. If they are looking for a casual relationship, they are not going to be willing to wait that long, and you will lose them. It is dead.
Relationship: If you are looking for a relationship and the connection is building between the two of you, by the time you get to 5th day the connection is strong. If you then have sex and realise that you are sexually incompatible you are already too invested! If you then break up with them immediately because the sex is bad, this makes you a terrible person and most people would not be able to do it. You are risking it all on the fact that the sex will be good – but there is no way of knowing!
Just remember, you are playing with fire the longer you wait.
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