How to approach a fuck buddy online

13 Aug 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: approaching, messaging, texting

We’ve talked about how to text a fuck buddy before, but lately we’ve been getting a lot of questions on how to actually go from messaging someone you like the look of online to someone you can actually fuck in person.

Even though this is a site designed to hook people up for casual sex, the last thing we want is for you to flounder about like a dying fish because you don’t know how to raise attraction in a profile or text message. So pay close attention sex freaks as we try and make this as simple as possible for you.

The Rules
Before you start texting and messaging lets go over a few of the rules you need to be aware of beforehand.
1. Be honest – don’t lie about what you want and who you are
2. This is casual sex - not a site to find a future partner. If you do well done, but do not forget this cardinal rule
3. If you’ve been rejected, do not start stalking – Not only is it deeply unattractive but you will be found out and banned from the site.
4. Be Safe – That means condoms, honesty about past and prior sexual partners and letting a friend or partner you trust to know what you’re doing just in case.

Got all that? Good. Now it’s time to move onto how you actually raise attraction in your messaging.

1. Your Profile
This is your CV. If you write a bad one, then you’re going to be tossed into the slush pile. If you write a good one, you’ll be invited for an interview. You won’t get a second look from a potential fuck buddy if you have either not bothered to fill out your profile properly or worse, have lied within it. Hot Tip: People like to see a face in the profile, so if you’re too embarrassed to put a picture of your own face on this site then you need to ask yourself if this is the right site for you. Girls and guys both make this mistake. Don’t be one of them.

2. Before you message READ THEIR PROFILE
This is so basic we can’t believe the number of men and women who still fuck this up. Messaging someone based purely on a photo will only get you so far. 9 times out of 10 there needs to be a personality in your messages. If you haven’t bothered to read what someone else is looking for in a fuck buddy then why the hell should they bother replying to your ill thought out message? Get it right the first time and READ THE PROFILE.

3. Say something original
Guys are more responsible for bad messaging then girls so listen up men: writing stuff like ‘You’re so hot’ accompanied by a picture of your cock 9 times out of 10 will get you sent straight to the slush pile. Writing a teasing message with a hint of humour will more likely provide a response from a potential fuck buddy. How do you do this? Well, read about what they’re looking for in their profile and start from there. For example, if a girl says she is looking for NSA with a guy with a good sense of humour don’t send her a message asking her ‘if she fancies a fuck?’ Try being silly and challenging, maybe even a little sarcastic.

4. Don’t be insulting
Being a dick and acting like a petulant child makes you look like a petulant child. Don’t start insulting someone if they don’t message you back or you don’t get the response you were hoping for. Move on. Acting like a prick makes you a prick and highly unattractive. Also if you start getting abusive you will be reported to the site administrator and be banned from the site. Just don’t do it!

5. Do be exciting!
The whole point of casual sex is that it is something exciting and fun to engage in. If you approach someone from a really dull and basic angle, then you’ll have no success. Be fun in your messaging; ask a potential fuck buddy how they like to have sex, what kind of games they are interested in playing…anything that makes you sound like a real human being and not a robot.
Follow these rules and you can’t go far wrong. Remember; this is supposed to be fun, so have fun and be the best that you can be.

Happy fucking!

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