We’ve all been a situation at some point in our lives where either we have had very little sexual experience, or we haven’t had sex for so long we find we’re pretty rusty when we finally get back in the saddle.
So what are you to do when you find yourself in these situations?
The answers are surprisingly simple.
1. Release the shame
We live in a perverse society that on the one hand indoctrinates us to believe that sex can only be enjoyed in a long term relationship, then on the other slam us with a variety of sexualised imagery and content designed to get us hot and horny and wanting to fuck a complete stranger. The first thing you need to do to get better at enjoying casual sex is to simply let go of the shame you have about it. Sex is supposed to be fun…not something to be ashamed and scared of.
The great thing about having sex with someone you’re not in a committed relationship with is that it doesn’t matter so much if you fuck up. Use the opportunity to try things you’ve never tried but wanted to, find out more about yourself and what you like and don’t worry so much about what your fuck buddy might think.
A classic recommendation for a reason; it’s scientifically proven that people who are in better shape are far more likely to have a higher libido and be more likely to enjoy powerhouse sex sessions. More endorphins are released into the bloodstream when you exercise and these same endorphins are released when you have sex. The body then creates a connection between sex and exercise allowing you to enjoy both far more.
4. Surprise each other
Springing a pleasant surprise on someone doesn’t have to be limited to a long term relationship. Surprise your fuck buddy by taking them out to dinner before fucking them. Buying someone a sexy gift (see lingerie and sex toys) can also go a long way to making casual sex a lot better.
5. Practice Practice Practice
Finally as with virtually everything in life, the more you do something, the better you get at it. So the more sex you have, the better you will get at it. Casual sex removes a lot of the embarrassment you may have with a long term partner when the sex isn’t quite as mind blowing as you hoped. You can use it to hone your sexual prowess so that when and if you want to enter into a long term commitment, you don’t have to worry about whether or not the sex will be good.