When we think about sex, we generally think of it in physical terms. You meet someone, you get hard, you start to think that you really want to fuck them... then hopefully you end up fucking them. I mean that’s certainly what generally happens here at f-buddy, because everyone is here for the same thing, they all want to get laid, it generally results in everyone, well, getting laid!
So when people think about the times they have great sex, they remember it being good, but they rarely think about why it was good. What made it really good sex, as opposed to the times when sex was simply just alright, okay, or felling good but not great. This is what I am going to be talking about right now.
So let’s think back to the times that the sex was really good, and I mean better than good, I am talking the times you had great sex. What are the consistent regular factors? What are the elements that are the same every time, the things that are always there... because these are the ingredients that make up great sex for you. They are different for everyone, however there are some really common ones that cross over to many people. So here are some of the common things:
Emotion
This is the biggest one. There was a strong emotion at the time that you had the sex. I say this carefully, because it does not have to be an emotion that is on the theoretical list of “good” emotions. Most people think only “good emotions” build connections, important memories, strong experiences that we crave... actually this is incorrect. It is not good emotions that build it, it is more simply strong emotions. If when you have sex there is a strong emotion of *any* kind, this will make the sex feel stronger – and therefore contribute towards having great sex. For some people this can mean the emotion is “love” or extreme “lust” or any other more positive emotion. However it can equally be angry, pain driven, or even a desire to hurt or whilst feeling hurt by the other person. This is one of the reasons break up sex can be so amazing. The emotions are so high, the strength of feeling is so strong, that the sex is inevitably more likely to be great sex. When the emotion is high, the sex is likely to be better.
Want to know more? Read the other parts of this series of articles on this blog!
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