You want to have sex. You know you want to get laid, and you are super keen on finding someone you can fuck... but you have done nothing about it for some reason. Why? You ask yourself? Well you have all the reasons to hand. You haven’t gotten around to signing up to an online dating site, or you mean to book into a dating event or singles night, but you are going to do it next month rather than this month as you are busy with work. There are a string of quick to quote reasons why you are currently not having sex, but the real reason is simpler. You are procrastinating from taking action. If you are doing this right now, let me talk you through what is going on in your head, because we have all been there and it is time to get out the woods and get laid.
So its been a bit since you had sex, and you decide to be smart and do something about it. No one else can do anything about it for you, you know this, so you are going to sort it out yourself like everyone else has. You go online and make the smart decision to do some online hook ups. SO far you are doing great – meeting someone online is one of the smartest fastest ways to meet someone these days. The systems are great, the girls are hot and actually real, and its worked for a bunch of other people so you know it can also work for you. You make it as far as f-buddy and so far so good, you maybe even set up a profile... but you never get to the stage where you start messaging people, and without this crucial last step you have zero chance of meeting someone. So why not?
The procrastination monkey has come and kicked in. It doesn’t want you to do anything but play and do things that bring instant gratification – things that make you feel good now. It can not see into the future at all. So it distracts you, makes you do other things, tells you that your profile isn’t ready yet, or better to do it next week, or no one ever responds to a message sent on a Friday. It will say anything to keep you from taking action. In other parts of your life like work, you have a deadline to force you to do something. You may take action and do something only just before the deadline looms in a panic, but you take action. With this there is no deadline – and here in lies your issue! There will never be a deadline to get laid.
So recognise this and take action now. The way to get over it is to take a small step. Send one message, one message is all it takes. That becomes 2, then 3 and before you know you have a naked girl in your bedroom bent over in front of you and you are fucking her from behind... but it all starts with a first step. Send a message, stop procrastinating. Do it now.
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