sexual connection

“It’s not you, it’s me.” I feel like all of us have heard that phrase at some point, either verbatim, or using different language but with the same sense behind it. Whether it comes from someone you had been sleeping with for years, or from someone who you only hooked up with the night before, it really doesn’t matter. The phrase sums up that they don’t want to see you again, and that will never be something that we want to hear from another person. We take it personally, it hurts.

When we first got together with that person, or get together with anyone for that matter, we think...