F Buddy - messaging

Top 5 Mistakes People Make on the 1st Message

EdBennett — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 14:42:08 +0000

13 Aug 2015 - 15:42 | Tags: casual sex, messaging, sexting

It’s a bit like a revolving subject this one, but the reason we and so many other blogs keep talking about it is because people (guys mostly I’m afraid) don’t seem to know what to say on their first message. Many people seem to think that the best way to grab a potential f-buddy’s attention is to talk about their penis or be unable to say anything other than ‘Hi Babe’. If you haven’t already figured it out, messages like these just go straight in the bin. Below we run through the top 5 mistakes people (mostly guys - sorry guys but its true!) make when sending their first message.

1. Sending a Wink

So you decide you like the look of someone’s profile. Great! But instead of messaging, you send a shitty little emoticon instead. Because you’ve done this your message will now be binned. Goodbye Captain Can’t-be-arsed-to-write-a-proper message.

2. Saying ‘Hi Babe, you’re gorgeous!’

Really, people still send these messages. Not only is it boring, dull and insulting, it’s just pathetic. Again this kind of message will be going straight into the bin.

3. ‘Hi’

Possibly the stupidest message to send to someone. Okay so you want to say hello, but what else? Like who you are? Why you decided to message? Come on people! It’s really not that hard to think of something more interesting than ‘Hi’.

4. Taking too long to respond to her message

Guys do this more than women. Taking long to respond to someone’s message is not only rude, it’s stupid. Guess what hot shot? The chances of her messaging you back after you’ve done something like this are literally zero. Why? Because she thinks you’ve lost interest. It doesn’t make you seem cool or mysterious or busy if you don’t message back within a reasonable time. It just makes you look like a dick. Which you are if you do this.

5. Asking for personal information too soon

Red alert! This is by far the biggest mistake a lot of people (guys again!) make when sending a first message. Would you give out all your personal details to a complete stranger? No? So why ask someone you haven’t even met yet for theirs? Wake up!

How to write a killer opening message

EdBennett — Thu, 23 Jul 2015 11:37:47 +0000

23 Jul 2015 - 12:37 | Tags: messaging, first message, opening lines, casual sex, F-buddy, adult dating

Opening lines are always hard to come up with. You see someone you like the look of from across the bar, you pluck up the courage to go up and say hello, and for reasons unknown your mouth goes dry, your throat seizes up and you just stand there gurgling awkwardly. Worse; you say something really stupid or insane that makes the person look at you oddly and walk away. Theoretically speaking it should be easier to come up with a really good opening line online! After all you have more time to think about what you’re going to say to a prospective f-buddy. Yet a lot of our users constantly bemoan the fact that they keep getting messages like “Hey sexy. Fancy a shag?” or “WOW! U r hot!”

Definitely not Shakespeare and definitely not impressing a lot of our members who receive this Casanova-lite nonsense. There are simple and effective methods in communicating with someone for the first time. We’re now going to show you how to write a really good opening message without sounding like either a total dick head or a snobby bitch. You want to get a new f-buddy? Pay attention.

The DOs

1. DO be creative
Nothing says ‘I haven’t thought about this at all’ like ‘Hey babe!’ or ‘Hi’ Be a little more creative with your opening message. You are trying to introduce yourself to someone you fancy for crying out loud. They’re not going to remember lame opening lines. They will remember creative and cleverly worded sentences.

2. DO look at the profile
Once you’ve finished ogling the photos don’t just speed right into messaging. Have a look at the f-buddy’s profile. Are you a match for them? When someone says they’re not interested in people sending them cock pictures, they actually mean it. It’s not an invitation for you to do so. Pay attention to the profile.

3. DO be aware that you’re messaging a real human being
It’s easy to be drawn into objectifying every single profile you browse. After all you’re both here to shag right? Yes, but remember that like you, this other person is a human being and is just as fallible as you. Don’t be a dick or a bitch with your messaging. Be nice and be understanding.

The DON’Ts

1. DON’T message someone you’re not a match with
When someone says they’re not interested in men older than 50 – guess what? They mean it!

2. DON’T text speak someone
Unless someone has written their profile in text speak, you should try and use correct spelling and punctuation in your messaging. Things like ‘LOL U R SXY’ will get you nowhere if the profile you message has bothered to spell and construct proper sentences.

3. DON’T get frustrated or angry if someone doesn’t respond to your message
Just like in a bar or a club or anywhere in the real world, not everyone is going to want to talk to you. It’s a fact of life! So don’t get upset, down or angry if you don’t receive a reply from someone you messaged. They might be busy or you just might not be their type.

How to approach a fuck buddy online

jeni — Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:00:00 +0000

13 Aug 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: approaching, messaging, texting

We’ve talked about how to text a fuck buddy before, but lately we’ve been getting a lot of questions on how to actually go from messaging someone you like the look of online to someone you can actually fuck in person.

Even though this is a site designed to hook people up for casual sex, the last thing we want is for you to flounder about like a dying fish because you don’t know how to raise attraction in a profile or text message. So pay close attention sex freaks as we try and make this as simple as possible for you.

The Rules
Before you start texting and messaging lets go over a few of the rules you need to be aware of beforehand.
1. Be honest – don’t lie about what you want and who you are
2. This is casual sex - not a site to find a future partner. If you do well done, but do not forget this cardinal rule
3. If you’ve been rejected, do not start stalking – Not only is it deeply unattractive but you will be found out and banned from the site.
4. Be Safe – That means condoms, honesty about past and prior sexual partners and letting a friend or partner you trust to know what you’re doing just in case.

Got all that? Good. Now it’s time to move onto how you actually raise attraction in your messaging.

1. Your Profile
This is your CV. If you write a bad one, then you’re going to be tossed into the slush pile. If you write a good one, you’ll be invited for an interview. You won’t get a second look from a potential fuck buddy if you have either not bothered to fill out your profile properly or worse, have lied within it. Hot Tip: People like to see a face in the profile, so if you’re too embarrassed to put a picture of your own face on this site then you need to ask yourself if this is the right site for you. Girls and guys both make this mistake. Don’t be one of them.

2. Before you message READ THEIR PROFILE
This is so basic we can’t believe the number of men and women who still fuck this up. Messaging someone based purely on a photo will only get you so far. 9 times out of 10 there needs to be a personality in your messages. If you haven’t bothered to read what someone else is looking for in a fuck buddy then why the hell should they bother replying to your ill thought out message? Get it right the first time and READ THE PROFILE.

3. Say something original
Guys are more responsible for bad messaging then girls so listen up men: writing stuff like ‘You’re so hot’ accompanied by a picture of your cock 9 times out of 10 will get you sent straight to the slush pile. Writing a teasing message with a hint of humour will more likely provide a response from a potential fuck buddy. How do you do this? Well, read about what they’re looking for in their profile and start from there. For example, if a girl says she is looking for NSA with a guy with a good sense of humour don’t send her a message asking her ‘if she fancies a fuck?’ Try being silly and challenging, maybe even a little sarcastic.

4. Don’t be insulting
Being a dick and acting like a petulant child makes you look like a petulant child. Don’t start insulting someone if they don’t message you back or you don’t get the response you were hoping for. Move on. Acting like a prick makes you a prick and highly unattractive. Also if you start getting abusive you will be reported to the site administrator and be banned from the site. Just don’t do it!

5. Do be exciting!
The whole point of casual sex is that it is something exciting and fun to engage in. If you approach someone from a really dull and basic angle, then you’ll have no success. Be fun in your messaging; ask a potential fuck buddy how they like to have sex, what kind of games they are interested in playing…anything that makes you sound like a real human being and not a robot.
Follow these rules and you can’t go far wrong. Remember; this is supposed to be fun, so have fun and be the best that you can be.

Happy fucking!