Multiple Venues – the golden rule of a night out to end with Sex

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 18:29:50 +0000

28 Jun 2016 - 19:29 | Tags: getting laid, how to have sex on the first date

There is a lot of rubbish that you don’t have to deal with when it comes to having an f-buddy. You don’t have to lie about anything – you have a clear agreement that means you can be super honest with each other about everything. You don’t have the commitment, which means you can spend your time and resource wherever you want to regardless of the other person. You haven’t close the door on anything, if you go on holiday and meet someone you are free and able to do whatever you want. As there is no long term commitment in place you also don’t actually stop making an effort. When you are married you are locked in, so if you are a bit shit to the other person they have to stick around. When you are a fuck buddy, if you are a bit shit then the other person will leave. This ensures that both sides are good to each other. The set up is fantastic.

One of things you don’t have to mess about with if you don’t want to is the whole dating thing. There is a whole lot of uncertainty and smoke and mirrors with dating. You never know how it is going to end, how it pans out, and you certainly don’t know if sex is waiting for you on the other side of things. So in a situation where you are on a night out and you want to get laid, how can you make this happen? There are lots of really good things you can do to help ensure this – but there is one golden rule that I swear by.

Multiple venues – 3 is the charm
Whether you are out in a traditional dating set up, or you are meeting an old or new potential fuck buddy, you know you want to have sex at the end of the night. The one thing you can do is do 3 venues. See everytime you change venue, the brain sees it as a new experience. The new place brings with it a sense of a new day, a new thing, a new experience. Even moving from one pub to the next has this effect. What that leaves you with is a change to make one night out feel like 3 nights out, and everyone knows what happens on the third date... right?!

Always do 3 venues, and your chances of ending the night in bed are more than tripled.

Sex on the first date: How?

jeni — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 09:00:00 +0000

5 Nov 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: how to have sex on the first date

Hard to believe but this is actually a lot easier when people start being more honest with what they want. On a site like ours you’d think having sex the first time you meet up with a potential fuck buddy is almost a guarantee. Well even though your chances of having sex with someone the first time you meet up with them from f-buddy are high, they’re not 100%. You need to play the game and follow a few guidance notes first.

Rule 1: This is not a date
The first thing you need to drill into your head when meeting up is to treat it like an average friendly meet up. It’s not a date, and if you think of it as a date then you’re not going to get laid. Be casual with each other. Go run some errands together and treat the encounter like a standard fun time…but the key is to make it fun! Traditional ‘let's have dinner’ dating is a massive sex killer. Why? Because there is always an implied potential behind it: sex. Instead go do something fun! Do something you would do normally and treat it as you normally would. Your potential fuck buddy just happens to be coming along for the ride, and as long you keep treating it in this way; they won’t want to get off.

Rule 2: Romantic Comedies Don’t Work
Love Actually, Notting Hill, You’ve got Mail and about a trillion other crappy romantic comedies might be enjoyable to watch, but they bear no relation to real life dating whatsoever. So ditch the romantic comedy notion of a date you might have in your head and get real. At some point in the date you might want to kiss your date. If this is the case do it when you first feel like doing it, not when you think it’s appropriate. Sometimes the best times to kiss are when they least expect it. Just don’t leave it till the end of the date.

Rule 3: Avoid going anywhere expensive
Ask yourself a simple question: Would you spend upwards of £50 of your own money on a business client you had just met for the first time? Of course you wouldn’t! So why the hell would you spend upwards of the same on a person you have just met for a date? It’s insane. You don’t even know if you like this person yet. Go somewhere cheap but cool. A wonder around a Museum gives you both time to chat and get to know one another and most of the time it’s free. Same is true of most tourist spots.

Rule 4: Bring the party
If you turn up to your date relaxed, calm and totally comfortable with yourself, it will paint you in a far better way than if you turn up nervous, mute and uncomfortable. You’re going out to have fun! Be the fun and you’ll find your potential fuck buddy will want to jump your bones before you even realise what’s going on.

Rule 5: Pay Attention
Sexual cues are often given out subtly without any verbal communication. You have to be aware of them when they arrive and reciprocate accordingly. If he keeps touching your arm and his hand brushes up against your leg, then he’s letting you know he’s into you. Similarly if she’s touching your arm regularly, laughing and maintaining strong eye contact with you then the chances are she’s into you. Pay attention and you’ll be burning calories the fun way in no time at all.

Follow these rules and you’ll be surprised how quickly coffee turns into a 3 hour sex session.

Happy fucking!

F Buddy - how to have sex on the first date

Multiple Venues – the golden rule of a night out to end with Sex

Sex on the first date: How?