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Top three tips to improve your sex life this August

EdBennett — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 20:50:58 +0000

August is a great time to be having sex. The body’s natural hormones are in a good place, generally, work is a little slower this time of year which means you have less pressure on other fronts leaving you more time to focus on your personal life, and the global coronavirus pandemic is calming down. So, if you have had a dry few months, or you just want more sex, now is a great time to find a fuck buddy.

Once you have sorted your friends with benefits relationship, or you find yourself hooking up again, you might want to start thinking about how to make the most of that. Spending a little time and effort to improve your sex life this August is a great investment. With only a little time and effort, you can reap great rewards in the bedroom! To help get you started, here are my top tips on how to improve your sex life this August.

Relax before sex

Whilst it is true that generally speaking August is slower at work for many people, that is not true for everyone. Stress and tension are inhibitors in the bedroom, and you will both have a better time if you are relaxed. Stress is the sex killer! There are some great ways of doing this, some of which will also help you in your outside-of-the-bedroom life too!

Meditation and mindfulness exercises can help you better control your stress. Doing this regularly is, or course, ideal but if you find you do not have time to do this every day they before embarking on a seduction consider taking just 5 or 10 minutes of you time. Focus in on your breathing, allow the body to relax, listen to yourself. This simple 5 minutes can make the world of difference in the bedroom!

Do Kegel exercises

If you want to be a better runner you exercise your legs. If you want to be a better weight lifter you work your arms. Do you want to have better sex? Do kegel exercises. Taking just a few minutes a day to work out the kegel muscles, which engage during sex can improve performance for both men and women. For men it can help you control your orgasm, and when you do come, have stronger long orgasms. I once heard of a man who could propel his seamen across a room because he had really worked his kegel muscles! For women, working and controlling your kegel muscles will allow you to flip the script and go from being fucked to really fucking the guy back. It is amazing for both of you.

Plan your sex

A spontaneous late-night booty call is great, and one of the lovely things that come with the friends with benefits agreement. Planning your sex in advance can also be good. It means that you both know it is happening, if allows you to look forward to it during the day (sexting or talking dirty in the run-up), and it allows you to prepare. That could be cleaning your space, making sure you are well-rested and have the appropriate paraphernalia, and perhaps give you time to slot in some meditation beforehand. Setting yourself up for success is always a good choice.

So here are my top three tips to help you improve your sex life. Go forth and remember, the most important thing is to have fun!

Leave the lights on for your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Sep 2020 23:37:10 +0000

21 Sep 2020 - 00:37 | Tags: fucking fun, tips for casual sex

Sex is great. Having someone to have sex with on a regular basis is even better! I honestly feel that if everyone had a fuck buddy, not only would the world be a better place but we might actually have a chance at world peace! One of the main reasons people do not have the amount of sex that they would like is because they are coupled with a partner for the medium term and the sex just died off after a while. With a fuck buddy that just doesn’t happen. The sex is the main reason that you are together so if it dies the relationship that you have dies and you will both quickly replace the other with a fuck buddy that is much more willing.

So you have a fuck buddy, but what about when you want to spice things up in the bedroom? Well to help you with that, here is one of the best sex tips of all time.

Leave the lights on

Yes there is a tendency to turn the lights off, it makes a lot of people feel more comfortable and there is an element of body consciousness that darkness deals with. However, if you want to have amazing sex, leave the lights on! As humans we are extremely reliant on our eyesight. Most of our input comes from what we see, we navigate our day to day lives with our sight… so why would that suddenly change when we are in the bedroom? It doesn’t! Leaving the lights on allows you to navigate your fuck buddies body with a greater level of skill and ease. We all get a kick out of seeing that pleasure in the other person's eyes, and that happens more easily with a lighted room. You can also respond to the subconscious visual signals that your fuck buddy will be sending you with their body if you can see them.

If you want to go slow, try lighting a few candles, soft lighting has always been a big win! It leaves you and your fuck buddy looking better in the soft glow lighting whilst also heating the room with the flame which makes it more comfortable when you undress each other (ideally with your teeth!). For those of you who like to push things in the bedroom, hot wax can also be a fun thing to play with if you are feeling a bit kinky!

So next time you get your friends with benefits to pay you a visit, leave the lights on!

Put away the smart phone to have more sex

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 21:32:58 +0000

31 Jan 2020 - 21:32 | Tags: having more sex, tips for casual sex, how to get more sex

We are now in the year 2020. The new decade has arrived and things have permanently changed in the way that we communicate in comparison to a couple of decades ago. The number of phone calls that we make has dropped dramatically, replaced by other forms of communication. The number of emails we send has jumped. Easy access to data now means that the number of SMS messages that are sent have also dropped having been replaced by messaging via apps such as Facebook messenger or WhatsApp (which is also owned by Facebook). People are reaching out to other services, such as Telegram or Signal, but essentially these are simply a more secure form of WhatApp.

The expectations of these forms of messaging has also changed. We are now connected 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to all our digital forms of communication via our smart phones. This means that people always expect a prompt reply… which always pushes us to also feel obliged to give a prompt reply. This is particularly difficult when it comes to work emails, which leaves us checking work emails even at weekends and evenings. Work emails generally come alongside a certain amount of pressure and stress. Depending on your work, this could be just a very small amount of stress, or if you are in a fast paced high pressure city job, this could be a lot more. Stress is one of the things that supress out libido and desire for sex, so regularly dosing yourself with stress in this way is not helpful to your sex life.

More that this, using your phone takes you away from being in the moment and with the people that you are with. You may be flirting with someone and things are all going well. Checking your phone regularly tells the person that someone who isn’t even there is more interesting than them. It is not a good way to build rapport!

Even in a long-term relationship or with an established fuck buddy, pulling out your phone pulls your consciousness to another place, to somewhere else. It is hard to build up a sexy vibe with someone when you are checking Facebook every few minutes.

So, try putting your phone away if you want to have more sex. Pressing the off button on your phone for an evening is a great way to bring you back into the moment. The more you are truly present with the other person, the more you can and will build intimacy with them and the more likely you are to have sex.

How to get better at Casual Sex

EdBennett — Sat, 07 Dec 2013 09:00:00 +0000

7 Dec 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: tips for casual sex

We’ve all been a situation at some point in our lives where either we have had very little sexual experience, or we haven’t had sex for so long we find we’re pretty rusty when we finally get back in the saddle.

So what are you to do when you find yourself in these situations?

The answers are surprisingly simple.

1. Release the shame
We live in a perverse society that on the one hand indoctrinates us to believe that sex can only be enjoyed in a long term relationship, then on the other slam us with a variety of sexualised imagery and content designed to get us hot and horny and wanting to fuck a complete stranger. The first thing you need to do to get better at enjoying casual sex is to simply let go of the shame you have about it. Sex is supposed to be fun…not something to be ashamed and scared of.

2. Experiment
The great thing about having sex with someone you’re not in a committed relationship with is that it doesn’t matter so much if you fuck up. Use the opportunity to try things you’ve never tried but wanted to, find out more about yourself and what you like and don’t worry so much about what your fuck buddy might think.

3. Exercise
A classic recommendation for a reason; it’s scientifically proven that people who are in better shape are far more likely to have a higher libido and be more likely to enjoy powerhouse sex sessions. More endorphins are released into the bloodstream when you exercise and these same endorphins are released when you have sex. The body then creates a connection between sex and exercise allowing you to enjoy both far more.

4. Surprise each other
Springing a pleasant surprise on someone doesn’t have to be limited to a long term relationship. Surprise your fuck buddy by taking them out to dinner before fucking them. Buying someone a sexy gift (see lingerie and sex toys) can also go a long way to making casual sex a lot better.

5. Practice Practice Practice
Finally as with virtually everything in life, the more you do something, the better you get at it. So the more sex you have, the better you will get at it. Casual sex removes a lot of the embarrassment you may have with a long term partner when the sex isn’t quite as mind blowing as you hoped. You can use it to hone your sexual prowess so that when and if you want to enter into a long term commitment, you don’t have to worry about whether or not the sex will be good.

Happy fucking!