Is it normal to want sex all the time?

EdBennett — Fri, 13 Feb 2015 11:18:33 +0000

How much sex is too much sex? When should you call time on 69? When should you plough on (no pun intended)? Thinking with our nether regions is perfectly natural. However there are times when allowing our sexual appetites to take control of our lives can be damaging. Continually acting on our sexual urges whilst work and laundry piles up can be where problems begin. Having sex is one of the great benefits of adult life. So what is the ideal amount of sex?

How often should we be having sex?
People’s sex drives can vary. Research originally conducted by the Kinsey Institute concluded that 18-29 year olds have sex on average 112 times a year whilst 30-39 year olds have sex an average of 69 times a year. That makes the average amount of sex people under the age of 40 should be having is just over once a week. Many psychologists believe that anyone in a relationship should be having sex at least once a week to maintain physical and emotional intimacy. We would agree with this. But what about those of us in casual relationships?

How much sex in casual relationships?
You’ve probably seen various people posting different levels of sexual desire and fetish on the site. Some claim they want it all the time. Some claim they want a discreet ‘once in a while’ type of partner. All this proves that everyone has a different level of libido. Some will be higher and some will be lower. The trick is to finding someone who matches your own level if you can. If you can satisfy both parties than that is the level of sex you should be having. If however you are enjoying yourself less than your f-buddy, it’s nicer to let them go and try and match up with someone else.

The beauty of casual sex is that there is not as much emotional worry as there is in a serious relationship. Always be respectful of your partners – treat them as you would expect yourself to be treated. Just remember that sex is something to be enjoyed. If you’re getting stressed about it, walk away for a bit and redress other areas of your life. Something else might be causing your problem.

Is there such a thing as too much sex?

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Jan 2014 09:00:00 +0000

20 Jan 2014 - 09:00 | Tags: too much sex

Don’t get us wrong; sex is great! We love it and we know you do too. But how much sex should we be having? According to several medical studies which we have cited in this blog, sex should be conducted on a daily basis to ensure a long and healthy life. However at the other end of the scale there are things to consider. Are you skipping meals and other important (read: essential) activities in order to get your end away?

Ian Kerner, a sex therapist in the US, suggests that sexual attraction and sexual compatibility are the basis of the best relationships. No shit Sherlock. However sex is a physical activity as well as a mental one and if overdone, can lead to injury, obsession and fuck ups.

What are we saying?
Look, we’re just trying to be honest. We know you’re on this site to fuck each other’s brains out to your hearts collective content and we wholeheartedly support you doing that. However we would be pretty irresponsible if we didn’t discuss the negative effects as well as the positives that sex can bring.

Many sex therapists including Ian Kerner believe that having sex several times a week is healthy and doesn’t place an unnecessary burden on either party. Having loads of sex is fine; as long as both partners enjoy it. However we all know that as human beings we get tired mentally and physically and because of this if we have too much sex it’s easy to stop enjoying it and actually start dreading it.

And that’s the last thing you want.

So how much should we have to keep it enjoyable?
As much as you’re both comfortable with. If one partner feels they aren’t getting enough, but the other partner feels it’s too much then you need to talk about it with each other. There’s nothing worse (or more dishonest) then someone suffering in silence as that’s when the sex stops being enjoyable.

Ideally you need to find a healthy balance that’s right for you. If having sex everyday really suits your needs then great! If sex once or twice a week suits your needs, great! If sex a couple of times a month suits your needs, great too!

Just make sure the partner of fuck buddy you hook up with is on the same wave length as you. Once you are, you’ll both be enjoying sex the way it’s meant to be enjoyed: together.

Happy fucking!

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Is it normal to want sex all the time?

Is there such a thing as too much sex?