Is it wrong just to want to have sex with someone?

EdBennett — Tue, 25 Feb 2014 12:49:53 +0000

25 Feb 2014 - 12:49 | Tags: is it okay to just want to fuck someone

This probably sounds really daft considering f-buddy is all about just wanting to hook up and fuck someone, but I have been asking myself this question a lot over the past weeks.

Basically not too long ago I went out with a girl on a first date (I met her in a bar not on a website) and we ended up back at her place the same night going at it like rabbits on acid. Now clearly we were both as horny as hell and fancied one another enough to want to have sex on the first date. That I saw no issue with at all and clearly neither did she. Even Cosmopolitan has recently published an article commending sex on a first date (finally women can stop feeling guilty about this) and the author has ended up marrying the guy she slept with on her first date.

No, what I want to know is that if you can’t see anything beyond the sex, does that make it wrong?

The Mental Barriers
We are hard wired to mate and propagate the species. It is Darwinian at its most basic. But we are more evolved then other animals on this planet so does that not mean we should be more evolved in our attitudes towards sex?

I would argue that we already are.

For too long we have trapped ourselves in societal constraints (a lot of them from unhealthy religious attitudes towards sex) that dictate how we should act around each other and when we should and shouldn’t have sex with each other. These attitudes have simultaneously aided yet stunted our sexual growth as a species. On one hand preaching to hold off having sex until within a committed relationship is a good thing, not least because it decreases the risk of unwanted pregnancy and more importantly STDs. On the other hand preaching to hold off having sex until within a committed relationship is bad because it limits your sexual experience and can cause severe psychological hang ups over sex. This can negatively impact any relationship you wish to form with someone and can take years…if ever… to overcome.

So what’s the answer to my original question?

No, I do not believe that it is wrong to want to just have sex with someone. I believe it is wrong to not be honest with the person you just want to have sex with, but as long as you are both on the same page and respect each other’s feelings then how can it be wrong?

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Is it wrong just to want to have sex with someone?