Show me a man with a project, and I will show you a man women will fight to fuck

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Mar 2016 13:06:35 +0000

20 Mar 2016 - 13:06 | Tags: too many fuck buddies, being attractive, how to be hot

As men, when we look to increase our attractiveness to the opposite sex, the first thing that springs to our mind is always physical appearance. How do I look? Am I handsome? Am I muscled? If I am over weight then can I loose the fat? Now I have to be careful here, physical attractiveness plays its part in the dating market place for sure. If you are so over weight you need a fork lift truck to leave the house you aren’t going to be very attractive and ought to do something about it. However, spending time and effort to get a six pack is just not worth it – unless you are doing it purely for yourself of course. Once you are looking lets say reasonable, the best thing you can do is find a project.

As a man in the sexual market place, as long as you look “alright” or above, the big thing that is going to make you attractive to women is if you have agency. If you are someone who can make things happen, someone who appears to be in control of their life, is pursuing the things that they want to pursue and is driving towards a goal of their choosing. The best way of doing this is to have a project.

A modern day philosopher once said “show me a man with a project, and there I will show you a happy man”. The act of having a project does a multitude of positive things for your life and your sex life. When you have a project, you are someone who is driving towards something. You become a man that knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to pursue it. When you have a project you often end up finding friends through it either because you approach them to help you, or because you have joined a bigger team to make the project happen. It brings a social group with it, and that makes you more attractive. You often may meet people through this that because they specifically also share a love for the project, will be even more gagging to jump your bones because you embody this. Having a project fends of depression, inactivity, laziness and a whole host of unwanted qualities that could other wise illuminate your eligibility as a fuck buddy in the eyes of a potential suitor. It is the rudder with which you can use to guide yourself through bad times, the foundation that gives you something solid to stand on during your inevitable life storms.

If you want to have women banging at your door – consider finding a project, if you don’t already have one. It will genuinely make your life better as well as make you more attractive.

Is there such a thing as too many fuck buddies?

EdBennett — Sat, 24 May 2014 09:00:00 +0000

24 May 2014 - 10:00 | Tags: too many fuck buddies

Following a cock up last year by yours truly, (2 women I was seeing met each other but didn’t know I was seeing them both – I was actually going out with 7 at the same time) I was left ‘sans sex’ for quite a while. It took me a while to figure out where I had gone so wrong. Both women told me I was a dick for not telling them I was seeing other women at the same time.

They were right.

I was a dick.

But not for seeing more than one woman at a time.

Honesty with your partners
The mistake I had made and I warn all members not to make, is that I wasn’t honest with my girlfriends. Instead of trusting them, I was stupid, selfish and scared enough to not be honest with them from the get go. It was that breach of trust that proved to be my downfall. Worse, I had taken away their open opportunity to be seeing other people like I was.

They weren’t angry at the other women. They weren’t even that angry about me seeing other women at the same time. They were angry that I hadn’t told them I was seeing other women. One actually told me that if I had been more honest with her she would’ve known where she stood and been able to explore more sexual partners. I had selfishly misled her into believing that I wanted to be monogamous when monogamy was the furthest thing on my mind!

I assumed women would be jealous and controlling if they ever found out I was sleeping around. The truth was so far opposite it gave me a huge kick in the face with its brutal honesty. Women and men both enjoy sex a great deal – women often more than men. If you’re going to be in any sort of open relationship then you can’t play by some rules and not others. By not being honest with the women I was seeing, I was trying to deny them the option of sleeping with other men.

I was the jealous one; not them.

I have since learnt my lesson and have tried to always be as open and honest with all my sexual partners if I’m not in a monogamous relationship. It is easier then you think. And women will respect you a lot more for it.

They might also surprise you by how fine they are with it.

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Show me a man with a project, and I will show you a man women will fight to fuck

Is there such a thing as too many fuck buddies?