F Buddy - break up sex

Why we feel sexual loss

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Nov 2017 07:50:54 +0000

20 Nov 2017 - 07:50 | Tags: losing sex, break up sex, sex is a right

Whenever we break up with any kind of romantic partner, whether that is a full on relationship that lasted for years, or perhaps just a fuck buddy that we hooked up with from time to time, there is something about the ending that intrinsically brings a loss. There is always a loss, always a feeling of a lack, something missing and something gone. This can occur even when you do not even like the person that much. It is regardless of how much you were into them, irrespective of the depth to which you liked them. I have spoken to people that have ended a coupling with someone that they really didn’t like that much, someone that they were both happy to see the back of, and were pleased to never have to sleep with ever again… yet even for those people there is a feeling of loss. That loss can have many side effects in the short term, and one of the most common ones is that of driving you back to sleep with you ex.

One of the foundational reasons for this comes from the inbuilt basic need that we all have for sex. It is hard coded into us, and it comes under the rare category of a “need”. Many people don’t like to think about it this way, but it is true. We all need certain things. We need air to breath, we need food to eat, and we need clothes to wear. Once that has been taken care of, very close on the list above that is a biologically driven need to have sex. To procreate, to spread out seed and our gene pool as best we can to ensure that our line does not end with us. We do that in the most fun way ever – by having sex!

What this means is that no matter who it is that you end the relationship/sexual hook up with, simply because you are going to be having less sex, you feel a loss. This is why it occurs even when you didn’t like the other person, even when all you were doing was hooking up with them occasionally. Whether it was a no strings attached relationship, or a regular fuck buddy, because your sex counter will drop, you will feel that loss.

The best way to get over it? Well what do you do when you loose your favourite coat? You go shopping for a new one!

Sex – the best break up cure

EdBennett — Wed, 21 Sep 2016 12:33:16 +0000

21 Sep 2016 - 13:33 | Tags: break up sex, sex cures all

So you had a girlfriend/boyfriend that you were serious about, or maybe a casual one. Perhaps you had a husband or wife, or maybe it was a holiday fling. Perhaps we are talking about a fuck buddy. Even when there is a no strings attached relationship in place and both sides know it is temporary, even then parting can hurt sometimes. So whether it was a full on monogamous relationship or someone you slept with only a few times a year and even then only during an orgy when there are a minimum of 10 other people involved, if you have parted company permanently and are feeling bad about it, then this article is for you. Remember, there is zero judgement about the whys and hows of the parting, or even the nature of the relationship, it actually doesn’t matter. Sometimes the most surprising of partings can leave you in a funk.

So you are feeling bad at the moment, and this is something that needs to be addressed and changed as soon as possible. There will be a natural amount of time that is required for you to bounce back / recover, and that time will be based on the relationship that you got out of, how many times you slept with each other, how intense things were. So these tops tips will function to help accelerate and speed up you recovery process, aiming to get you back to your A game as quickly as possible.

Have Sex with someone else – NOW

This is without a doubt the most powerful way to help you bounce back. People talk commonly about a “rebound” relationship – their mistake is talking about it negatively. A rebound is a great thing, and will help you recover fast. Remember the other person also wins – they got laid didn’t they? Win win!

Remember the bad times

They always say remember the good times. I call bullshit. Remember the bad times is what I reckon. Think about all the reasons that *you* were originally doubting the relationship, all the reasons that you might have chosen to end it and move on. No coupling is perfect so I *know* that there are a bunch of things you can think of. Remember these, and thus remind yourself that the parting is also a hugely positive thing for you.

Enjoy the freedom

There is a bunch of freedoms that come with the parting. You also gain back a bunch of time and energy that you can spend elsewhere on other parts of your life. Use these immediately. The sooner you take advantage of them, the sooner you will feel the benefits of the parting.

So get out there and get on with your life. It is yours to lead – so enjoy it.

Sex degrees of separation: Break up sex

EdBennett — Sat, 23 Aug 2014 12:53:49 +0000

23 Aug 2014 - 13:53 | Tags: break up sex

Is break up sex good or bad?

This is an interesting subject and one that has many different opinions. We believe there are 2 main elements to sex:

1. Physical
2. Emotional

These components can be treated separately or together. Depending on which element or combination you experience when having break up sex will determine how much you enjoy it.

Break up sex – Physical
This is usually when people report break up sex as being ‘amazing’. In fact 1 in 3 men in the UK describe their break up sex experiences as being amongst the best sexual experiences of their adult life. The reason is down to the acceptance that the emotional relationship with their partner is over. Once that acceptance is reached between both parties the initial physical attraction is allowed to take over completely. Arousal transfer occurs creating an increase in hormonal attraction between men and women.

As a result men make more of an effort to be attentive to their soon to be ex-partner in the bedroom and women have described themselves as being able to let go completely and just enjoy the physical experience a lot more.

Break up sex – Emotional
On the other side of the coin is the emotional impact of break up sex. This is when break up sex can be extremely damaging to one or both parties. It usually occurs when the break up has been particularly painful or hurtful to one or both parties. A good example is when someone has cheated on the other. Break up sex in this instance is rarely described as satisfying. Feelings of betrayal, jealously and anger all crop up leading the sex to be extremely negative.

Break up sex – Emotional and Physical
There is a third side to this coin. It is possible to have an emotional and physical connection during break up sex. If the break up is amicable and reached simply as a mutual statement that you are just not right for each other, then the goodbye sex can be amongst the best in the world! This is because you are both eager to leave positive memories in the mind of your partner. Sort of like ‘here’s something to remember me by’

Should you do it?
Hopefully by reading this you should now be able to tell whether or not break up sex is for you. Always think before you do it and as long as you think you can handle it, go for it!