F Buddy - safe sex

All I want for Christmas is an STD... on no wait a minute I really DON’T want that!

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Jan 2017 19:09:20 +0000

12 Jan 2017 - 19:09 | Tags: STDs, safe sex, safe sex rules

Welcome to January 2017, the New Year has come in and you have just had what I hope was an excellent Christmas. Christmas brought with it a host of presents. You probably got a jumper that you don’t really want to wear, have been fed mince pies whether you actually like them or not, and you know that thing you really wanted as a Christmas present? Well that is the one thing that you probably didn’t get!

Christmas was also a great time to get laid. When new year comes around, no one wants to be that person who has no one to kiss at midnight or under the mistletoe. This means that getting laid of the Christmas and New Year period was always easier than at other times, and this leads to access to an easy flow of sex. Part of that is an abundant amount of sex too! So sleeping with more than one person over the month of December is something happens a lot. If it didn’t happen for you, it is probably because you didn’t get online and send enough messages out. All it really took was being a little bit proactive about making sure that enough girls new that you were available and ready to out. What this can mean however is that you have picked up an extra present that you may not have actually wanted! A hidden visitor may be piggy backing his way across the world right now by attaching himself to your balls. This is great for him, but bad for you, and if you have him, you want to do something about him ASAP.

Most people who pick up an STD (or often called STI now – sexually transmitted infections) have just been a little unlucky. I mean no one goes out of their way to get one – they just get unlucky. If you think you have one you really need to get tested, the sooner you find out the sooner you can get it treated and get back to having a normal sex life. I mean why deny the girls a little action with you just because you are too lazy to go to the doctors. Most STD’s can be quickly cleaned up and cured with a simple bit of medication that is fast acting and has no side effects.

So if you think you may have picked something up. Do something about putting it back down again. You really don’t want to be carrying that around with you. It is one of the few guaranteed sexy mood killers!

Why you need to use Condoms

EdBennett — Sun, 10 May 2015 10:44:37 +0000

10 May 2015 - 11:44 | Tags: safe sex, condoms, good casual sex

Only 19% of single women between the ages of 20 and 44 used condoms in 2008 according to a study by the Guttmacher Institute. In 2012 STI diagnoses rose in the UK by 5%. Instead of more people using contraceptives, more people are using it less and less. The idea of bareback sex is so attractive now; that we no longer seem to think that it carries any risk. Most of us using this site are after all, middle class and holding down a decent job. Yet we are at a higher risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection/disease (STI/STD) than any other social group.

Strap it up before Hopping On
More and more men are going out unequipped. Women seem to have inherited the responsibility of going out prepared for sex with a stranger, yet both sexes are using condoms less and less. You would think that in an age where the world has experienced a massive HIV outbreak, unplanned pregnancies are still at a high rate and many STIs are virulent (Chlamydia and HPV are not pleasant – Google them if you don’t believe me), that we would all be exercising more caution when it comes to shagging around.

Yet we are not.

More young women admitted to having sex without a condom in 2014 in the UK than at any other time in the past decade. Excuses ranged from ‘it doesn’t feel as good with a condom on’ to ‘I think I might just be infertile so I might as well enjoy the sex as much as possible’. How smart, intelligent people can delude themselves so easily just frightens the crap out of me.

We all need to be safer when it comes to sex. Condoms do not prevent enjoyment; in fact they can enhance it with men managing to come later and women being able to experience different sensations depending on the condom. If it’s the feeling of skin on skin you’re after then you can even buy condoms that are designed to feel like you’re shagging without one.

We have never been in an age where contraception and protection against sexually transmitted diseases is so available, yet we choose not to use the protection available.

Think before you fuck
Having sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures. However it can also be the cause of some of life’s greatest problems. You don’t have to feel pressured to have unprotected sex. You have control over your body so look after it. Think of it this way; would you shake hands with somebody you know had just dipped their hands into the toilet? No of course you wouldn’t. So why have sex with somebody who wants to have unprotected sex with you for the first time when you don’t know who else they’ve been having sex with?

Sex & Alcohol this Spring

EdBennett — Sat, 11 Apr 2015 13:23:20 +0000

11 Apr 2015 - 14:23 | Tags: sex and alcohol, casual sex, STDs, safe sex

Whether you want to believe it or not; alcohol does affect your libido in both positive and negative ways. As booze culture has become so negatively associated with young singeltons in the UK, we thought it might be worth exploring the ups and downs of how drinking will affect your dating and sex life. Pay attention people as it’s time to find out just what a bottle of wine or ten pints of beer can do to your libido.

1. Dutch Courage
An old cliché for a reason; it’s true. We don’t encourage you to drink in order to get up the courage to ask someone out, but we do recognise that some people get extremely nervous when trying to chat up the object of their desire. One or two drinks is usually okay as an aid, but if you’re already slurring your words by the time you go over to say hello, it’s time to call a cab and head home.

2. Moderation Over Excess
Drinking in moderation is less likely to affect your libido in a negative way. Whereas excess drinking can cause erectile dysfunction, vomiting and lead to forgetting to use contraceptives, drinking in moderation can add a little extra vibe to proceedings. It’s all about moderation people!

3. Alcohol is a depressant
This is not really good for your sex life. If you already suffer from mild or clinical depression than you need to stay well away from alcohol this spring! If you drink in moderation then there is no reason for you to cut off alcohol from your diet completely. Medical research shows that a glass of red wine every day can actually clear blocked arteries over a period of time, which is good for the heart. Again it is all about knowing your limits.

4. Can lead to bad decisions
The more you drink, the more likely you are to make poor decision when it comes to your sex life. What sounds amazing after a bottle or 2 of wine may cause you a lot of aggravation and stress in the days and months to follow. As our inhibitions lower with alcohol, so too do our cognitive abilities. This leads to us taking unnecessary risks when it comes to sex. Moderation is key.

5. Champagne Aphrodisiac
Whilst alcohol does have many negative aspects, it also can be used to create a romantic atmosphere. You’ll be hard pushed to find a woman who doesn’t like a glass of champagne so bear that in mind when meeting up with an f-buddy.

The key to all this is moderation. If you drink in moderation this spring, you’re more likely to enjoy a healthy and fulfilling sex life. If you drink to excess, you’re highly likely to become one of those depressing UK statistics on the NHS. Be aware and be safe!

Great Sex is Safe Sex

EdBennett — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 11:47:51 +0000

15 Oct 2014 - 12:47 | Tags: safe sex

You may or may not have heard about the casual sex project. In brief it is an online portal for people to share their casual sex stories for people to read with no bias or judgement. Some of the stories are fascinating, others are sad and many are hilarious. However there was one common thread running through about 80-90% of all the stories posted. Hardly anyone was practising safe sex and there were many tales of unwanted pregnancies and STI contractions.

Why is this happening?
In addition to the lack of contraceptives and condoms being used, women and men were admitting to feelings of lust and spontaneity. It seems that many of us are allowing sexual attraction to override our better judgement.

How can we practise casual sex whilst being safe?
Pack condoms. It’s such a simple basic thing to do that I am surprised that so many people admit to not using them. Yes they’re not 100% effective but the chances of you contracting an STI or STD are greatly reduced. They provide protection against the HIV and Herpes Simplex viruses in addition to protecting against genital warts, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and more. Condoms are 98% effective against unplanned pregnancy.

Can you retain that ‘heat of the moment’ feeling?
Of course you can. You should treat condoms like an everyday essential. Carry them around with you like you would your bank cards, wallet or mobile phone. That way if you suddenly find yourself in a situation where you’re about to have sex, you have them ready to use. People worry about losing that ‘spur of the moment’ feelings when it comes to using condoms. Many men and women cite them as being awkward to put on. However the truth of the matter is that if you know how to put a condom on it should only take you between 5 and 10 seconds to do. You can even have your partner do it for you for added stimulation and work it into your sex play.

How do you put a condom on?
1. Take the condom out of the packet being sure not to tear it with your fingernails
2. Don’t blow it up (yes there are stories of people doing this)
3. Squeeze the teat at the end to get rid of any excess air
4. Roll the condom down over the head of the penis until it fully encloses the penis to the base.
5. Have sex
6. As soon as you’ve come hold the base of the condom before withdrawing from your partner.
7. Wash your cock and start again!

It really is that simple.

Still not convinced?
We’re not here to tell you what to do but we do have a responsibility to encourage safe sex wherever possible. We want all our members to enjoy their fuck buddies. We don’t want to hear tales of STIs or STDs or unplanned pregnancies because one or both of you couldn’t be bothered to wear a condom. Also for those who claim that it reduces sensitivity I have this to say: Yes they can do, but there are makes available that retain or increase sensitivity. So please don’t be a prick, put a Johnnie on your dick!