F Buddy - summer sex tips

The summer sun brings out all the hotties

EdBennett — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 17:12:26 +0000

18 Jun 2022 - 18:12 | Tags: summer increases sex drive, sex in the summer, summer sex tips

Sometimes it can be really hard to get motivated enough to find a fuck buddy, even when you know you want one. If you have been out of the marketplace for a while this can make it even harder. It is easy to get into the habit of being alone, and by “alone” I don’t mean bereft of people entirely, I just mean without a friends with benefits or someone you can hook up with easily and pleasurably. If it has been more than 6 months since you booty called someone (or were the recipient of a booty call) the you are also likely out of the habit. We are creatures of habit by our very nature. We get accustomed to certain things or certain ways of living. After 6 months without sex it is very easy to be in the habit of not having sex and that can further reduce your desire or motivation to have sex. Luckily for you, that is all about to change. Why you might ask me? Allow me to answer you in one word. Summer.

Summer is coming in and very soon all the hotties will be out on the streets. Summer is an amazing time for meeting members of the opposite sex, having hook ups or other sexual encounters. Subjectively, it also feels like all the hotties come out in the summer. Suddenly the streets, beaches and parties are all filled with people who ooze sex. It feels like the number of hot people has increased… but where have all these hotties been hiding for the rest of the year? They weren’t there just a few months ago, so where did they come from? Do they spend the winter months hiding or in another country, only to then arrive by plane/train/magic carpet to remind us that it is worth the effort? Not at all! They have been there all the time, it is just in the presentation.

The summer sun and the summer heat mean that we all wear less clothing. We all switch to having our arms, shoulders sometimes midriffs on display. For some people, knowing that this is what will happen causes an increased motivation to work out, go to the gym, lose weight and generally be healthier. This in turn means that they look better, increasing the overall hotness. Ultimately, putting more skin on display makes you look open to sex, which is why the summer seems like all the hotties come out to play. They have been there the whole time, but we have failed to notice them.

So, if you are currently single or without a fuck buddy, get out there and find a fuck buddy this summer. Now is the perfect time to start.

Top three tips to improve your sex life this August

EdBennett — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 20:50:58 +0000

31 Aug 2021 - 21:50 | Tags: tips for casual sex, summer sex tips, top tips for being sexy

August is a great time to be having sex. The body’s natural hormones are in a good place, generally, work is a little slower this time of year which means you have less pressure on other fronts leaving you more time to focus on your personal life, and the global coronavirus pandemic is calming down. So, if you have had a dry few months, or you just want more sex, now is a great time to find a fuck buddy.

Once you have sorted your friends with benefits relationship, or you find yourself hooking up again, you might want to start thinking about how to make the most of that. Spending a little time and effort to improve your sex life this August is a great investment. With only a little time and effort, you can reap great rewards in the bedroom! To help get you started, here are my top tips on how to improve your sex life this August.

Relax before sex

Whilst it is true that generally speaking August is slower at work for many people, that is not true for everyone. Stress and tension are inhibitors in the bedroom, and you will both have a better time if you are relaxed. Stress is the sex killer! There are some great ways of doing this, some of which will also help you in your outside-of-the-bedroom life too!

Meditation and mindfulness exercises can help you better control your stress. Doing this regularly is, or course, ideal but if you find you do not have time to do this every day they before embarking on a seduction consider taking just 5 or 10 minutes of you time. Focus in on your breathing, allow the body to relax, listen to yourself. This simple 5 minutes can make the world of difference in the bedroom!

Do Kegel exercises

If you want to be a better runner you exercise your legs. If you want to be a better weight lifter you work your arms. Do you want to have better sex? Do kegel exercises. Taking just a few minutes a day to work out the kegel muscles, which engage during sex can improve performance for both men and women. For men it can help you control your orgasm, and when you do come, have stronger long orgasms. I once heard of a man who could propel his seamen across a room because he had really worked his kegel muscles! For women, working and controlling your kegel muscles will allow you to flip the script and go from being fucked to really fucking the guy back. It is amazing for both of you.

Plan your sex

A spontaneous late-night booty call is great, and one of the lovely things that come with the friends with benefits agreement. Planning your sex in advance can also be good. It means that you both know it is happening, if allows you to look forward to it during the day (sexting or talking dirty in the run-up), and it allows you to prepare. That could be cleaning your space, making sure you are well-rested and have the appropriate paraphernalia, and perhaps give you time to slot in some meditation beforehand. Setting yourself up for success is always a good choice.

So here are my top three tips to help you improve your sex life. Go forth and remember, the most important thing is to have fun!

How to have sex in hot weather

EdBennett — Fri, 20 May 2016 11:36:34 +0000

20 May 2016 - 12:36 | Tags: hot body = hot sex, hot stuff, sex in the summer, summer sex, summer sex tips

It is amazing how much the temperature can affect us in all sorts of ways. As humans we are really susceptible to the heat and the cold. Too cold and we freeze up, unable to function. We loose our co ordination, our fingers become fumbly and are limbs stiff (and not in a sexy good way!). The funny thing is that too hot and the same thing happens in terms of debilitation! Too hot and we want to lie around and do nothing, our motivation drops to an all time low and all we really want to do is sit around and not move. It is really hard to get anything involving physical labour done – even when it is something super fun like sex! What fickle picky creatures we are! We really need the exact right temperature in order to survive.

So summer rolls in and everything gets a little too warm what with global warming kicking in. You don’t want your sex life to diminish, so what do you do in order to keep things hot in the bedroom without them being so hot you do nothing at all!? Here are some top tips to get around it!

How Low can you go!

Did you ever do fire safety? Remember all that stuff about dropping to the ground because heat rises?! Well this is a universal truth! If things are getting hot upstairs in the bedroom, consider taking it downstairs to where it is much cooler! Not only can you benefit from the cooler temperatures lower down, if you are able to, taking it into the kitchen onto a naturally cool surface like the tiled floor will quickly drop things to where you can get to it!

Avoid skin contact

So much of sex is rubbing up and down each other... but this both generates a lot of heat, and you are also sharing your natural body warmth with the other person. Great for winter, bad for summer! Consider playing a game – sex with minimum contact! Doing it doggy style whilst standing up is particularly great for this.

Time to get her wet!

Take it to the water! The romantic “film” thing to do is have sex in a lake in the mountains, but failing that you have a shower you can do it in, a bath will also provide the same temperature drop, and for those of you looking for some frisky outdoor fun, a garden watering system like a sprinkler or a hose left on can be really rather exciting!

So don’t let the heat dampen your sexual spirits, take one of these tips and get straight back on with it!

Top three fuck buddy Sex Tips

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Feb 2016 19:31:24 +0000

28 Feb 2016 - 19:31 | Tags: summer sex tips, sex tips, sex advice

Lets presume you have already gone through the process of finding your fuck buddy. You got your act together and decided you wanted one. So you wrote a profile, put some pics of you with your best side on the site, and then you took the initiative to contact some people. You messaged more people than you thought you would have to (it is always that way!) and you didn’t want to sleep with the first person you met up with in person. Then you found someone you liked that was on the same wave length and suddenly BAM you are having all the sex. Lets presume you are there! Here are some top fuck buddy sex tips to see you through!

Make a sex bucket list
A lot of us have a life bucket list filled with places to travel and usually a bungee jump or something equally dangerous, so why don’t we do this with sex? If you make a list of the things that you want do, the things that you want to try, that will help to keep the sexual journey moving. As well as it helping the sex for both of you, the best part is you get to do the things that you really want to do! Thinking about it doesn’t work. Write it down and you will find that it is more likely to happen.

Have a secret booty call phrase
In jokes are a great way of building rapport between people, we use them with our friends, family and at work. Developing a personal shared language between two people helps build closeness... so start to do that with your fuck buddy. If you want to text them for a botoy call, rather than say it explicitly, what is much more fun and would bring better results is a shared phrase that you both use. I have spoken to people that have used everything from “you wanna go bowling tonight” through to “I need to borrow a cup of sugar”. Texting this keeps the secret between the two of you (should anyone else read the text message) and will increase excitement between the two of you.

Get Hot and Sweaty for Sex!
When you sweat you smell more – part of that is increased pheromone production. This increased pheromones will mean that your sexual partner will be more attracted to you. You think you ought to shower after a big work out? No! Work out and get your f-buddy to come meet you at the end with a special reward for working out so hard. They will actually enjoy it and be more turned on than you will!

Go forth and fuck.

Costume: Dress Dirty for a deliciously hard time

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Feb 2016 10:28:07 +0000

20 Feb 2016 - 10:28 | Tags: cosplay, fetish, summer sex tips

So you have a booty call all ready and in the bag. Maybe it is a long term partner or maybe it is someone new whom you have never slept with before. It might be inside a monogamous relationship or it could be a nice relaxed fuck buddy type set up. It doesn't really matter. What you need to remember is that the clothing counts. Think about it

The first time you met a girl with the intention of seducing her, the first time you arrived filled with lust ready to express your desire for each other, you did not turn up wearing your big brothers cast offs! You dressed to impress. That is not to say you did a James Bond, a tuxedo and tie are not necessary. I just mean you really thought about what you were wearing. It was your style, but damn you looked stylish wearing whatever you were... and the best bit was that she did the same. She made an effort, she looked hot, and when you removed each other’s clothes from each others bodies your expectation was that they would look amazing naked because damn they looked fucking great clothed. So what changed?

Why did you start making less of an effort as time went on? Why did you think you could have as good sex by turning up with no thought as when you arrived having prepared for the seduction? What idiocy is this?! And why did the same thing happen to her?

What you look like when you arrive can make a huge difference, and rather than make less effort I would suggest the opposite is true. To combat the fact you know each other, making more effort to look good is the way to go with this.

Obvious ways to go are events where you have a good excuse to do this. Go to a formal event so you *can* James Bond it if that's your thing. If it is not consider a CosPlay event, I can guarantee that the woman look particularly amazing at these things! If that seems a little Vanilla to you go check out a more risky fetish type party – Torture Garden is a great place to start for anyone new to this. The environment of everyone getting dressed sexy normalises it, and the results are you and your f-buddy remembering al the reasons that you are in lust with each other. The results? Great sex!

So have a think and consider doing something to kick the costume up a notch. You won’t regret it.

Sexy Summer Tips

EdBennett — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 07:35:29 +0000

1 Jul 2015 - 08:35 | Tags: summer sex tips, casual sex, threesomes, fetish, dressing up, swimwear

Now that the mercury has climbed the peaks and hit the +30 degree mark, it’s time to start thinking about all the ways you can enjoy your sex life this summer. You only have to walk down the streets in the south of England at the moment to see that people are wearing less and smiling more. And what’s not to smile about? With skin on display and hormones revving, summer is one of the best times of the year to enjoy casual sex with new people and old partners. With this in mind we’ve prepared a few guidance tips to get your mind in the mood and your chances a boost.

1. Smile when you’re out
It sounds simple, but you only have to take a look around on the bus or the train to see how little people seem to smile. But we should! Okay, so the train or the bus might be hot, but a smile can go a long way to showing someone that not all is lost. It’s also a great way to let someone you fancy know you that you’ve noticed them. As long as you don’t come off all creepy you should be in a prime position to make the most of an ingratiating smile this summer.

2. Take a chance
They say summer lowers the inhibitions. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but it certainly can make you feel more relaxed and friendly. Why not take a chance and message that person you’ve been too afraid to try talking to? What’s the worst that can happen? They don’t reply. And if that’s the worst that can happen than you’ve lost nothing. Hoorah!

3. Socialise more
Summer leaves you no excuse not to socialise. Now is not the season for staying in and watching DVDs. Summer is the season to get out there and greet the world and have some fun. You’re more likely to hook up with someone if you socialise more. It’s simple mathematics people.

4. Go swimming
Okay you know how girls and guys claim that a swimming pool is not the place to check people out? Do you also know that everyone lies? Of course a swimming pool is often where people check one another out. Why else do you think men and women wear such revealing costumes?

5. Stay out a bit later
Summer allows us more chances to stay up and out a little later than usual. Not only is it warmer, it’s lighter too and people don’t want to go to sleep right away. Why miss the chance of a casual encounter by going home early?