F Buddy - fetish

What’s the deal with foot fetishes?

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Dec 2016 19:01:14 +0000

12 Dec 2016 - 19:01 | Tags: fetish, foot fetish, BDSM

There are many people out there with a lot of different fetishes. In our creator’s infinite wisdom (or the randomness of evolution) we were all made to be different. We are different heights, different weights. Some of us are more academically intelligent than others of us. Some of us are built big and strong, able to carry large weights and manoeuvre objects with ease. A whole bunch of people are good at thinking tasks, and they spend their days sat in front of computer screens in offices dreaming of their wet dream of someone secretly crawly between their legs from under the table and giving them oral sex. Other people are good with their hands and have taken jobs that mean they work on their feet working physically. These jobs include mechanics, builders, plumbers, electricians. Their wet dream fantasy tends to be very different, usually them visiting a client or customer and then that somehow ending in them having sex with the customer. Different scenario, but just as raunchy. With so many natural differences between people, it seems natural and normal to me that of course people have different things that turn them on.

Sexual variety is bigger than you think

You know that there are different people with different fetishes. To be clear for a moment, when I say “fetish” I mean it in the colloquial sense. I say it to mean “things that turn people on”. The word fetish can actually mean something that is mandatory to coming, something someone *needs* in order to be sexually turned on. The number of different fetishes out there is shockingly big and they go from simple to being more complex.

They include:

Group sex – wanting lots of people involved
Water Sports – also known as being urinated on!
Cross Dressing – is a big turn on for a lot of people
Spanking – this is a really common one, if you haven’t tried it, give it a go!
Sub/Dom – having someone in charge of everything that takes place in the bedroom – and in charge of the other person

Variation is beautiful

...but what is the deal with feet?

The one I do not understand, is the foot fetish thing. What is it with feet that turn people on? Why is it that some people not only find feet a huge turn on, but actually will take it a step further and near worship peoples feet as part of their sexual expression? Is it that the foot represents the human body so it’s like holding the whole person in your hand? Is it that they are rarely seen in life as they are usually covered? Is it that they are considered dirty in some cultures and therefore a little taboo?

I have no idea, but I would love to find out. If you have a foot fetish, drop us a message via the website, and I will follow up this article with an answer to the question of: Feet – why?!

Costume: Dress Dirty for a deliciously hard time

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Feb 2016 10:28:07 +0000

20 Feb 2016 - 10:28 | Tags: cosplay, fetish, summer sex tips

So you have a booty call all ready and in the bag. Maybe it is a long term partner or maybe it is someone new whom you have never slept with before. It might be inside a monogamous relationship or it could be a nice relaxed fuck buddy type set up. It doesn't really matter. What you need to remember is that the clothing counts. Think about it

The first time you met a girl with the intention of seducing her, the first time you arrived filled with lust ready to express your desire for each other, you did not turn up wearing your big brothers cast offs! You dressed to impress. That is not to say you did a James Bond, a tuxedo and tie are not necessary. I just mean you really thought about what you were wearing. It was your style, but damn you looked stylish wearing whatever you were... and the best bit was that she did the same. She made an effort, she looked hot, and when you removed each other’s clothes from each others bodies your expectation was that they would look amazing naked because damn they looked fucking great clothed. So what changed?

Why did you start making less of an effort as time went on? Why did you think you could have as good sex by turning up with no thought as when you arrived having prepared for the seduction? What idiocy is this?! And why did the same thing happen to her?

What you look like when you arrive can make a huge difference, and rather than make less effort I would suggest the opposite is true. To combat the fact you know each other, making more effort to look good is the way to go with this.

Obvious ways to go are events where you have a good excuse to do this. Go to a formal event so you *can* James Bond it if that's your thing. If it is not consider a CosPlay event, I can guarantee that the woman look particularly amazing at these things! If that seems a little Vanilla to you go check out a more risky fetish type party – Torture Garden is a great place to start for anyone new to this. The environment of everyone getting dressed sexy normalises it, and the results are you and your f-buddy remembering al the reasons that you are in lust with each other. The results? Great sex!

So have a think and consider doing something to kick the costume up a notch. You won’t regret it.

Why Vanilla Sex Works

EdBennett — Wed, 02 Sep 2015 19:20:45 +0000

2 Sep 2015 - 20:20 | Tags: vanilla sex, Kink, bondage, fetish, casual sex, BDSM

"I wish [BDSM folks] would stop referring to me as 'vanilla.' If you're making the case that everyone should be free to do what they like without being judged, why call non-BDSM people a derogatory name that implies they're all prudish bores?" – Anonymous, commenter on Bitch.

You read a lot online and off about vanilla sex vs kinky sex. It seems to me that if you’re not that interested in the more heavy kinky stuff, you get judged for either being a prude or just inexperienced. As you can see from the comment above, I’m not alone in my theory. I’m here to tell you that vanilla sex is okay. I’m here to tell you that vanilla sex is good. I’m here to tell you that vanilla sex is fun! So why do the BDSM Brigade insist on sneering at and dismissing anyone who’s into vanilla sex? It’s especially annoying when you take into account this remark from Andrea Dworkin.

"Those of us who have different notions of eroticism and sensuality are simply dismissed. The pejorative word [being] 'vanilla,' which is ironically, one of the most sensual aromas."

Andrea is right. Vanilla has lasted for a good reason: people like it.

Don’t judge

If you are into BDSM or extremely kinky sex, that’s great! In my view whatever helps you enjoy your time in the bedroom without hurting anyone is fine by me. But if you insist on judging other people by your own sexual standards, then I’m afraid you need to take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. People are different and have different ways of enjoying sex. So what if I don’t like being tied up and hung from a ceiling? At least I can have an orgasm without the need for dozens of chains, whips, bull gags and ropes. You see how the insults can work both ways?

So to the BDSM groupies I have one message for you; what you do is great! I admire it and I respect you for it. But please remember that not everyone is like you and ‘vanilla sex’ is more enjoyable for some people then kinky sex.

Sexy Summer Tips

EdBennett — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 07:35:29 +0000

1 Jul 2015 - 08:35 | Tags: summer sex tips, casual sex, threesomes, fetish, dressing up, swimwear

Now that the mercury has climbed the peaks and hit the +30 degree mark, it’s time to start thinking about all the ways you can enjoy your sex life this summer. You only have to walk down the streets in the south of England at the moment to see that people are wearing less and smiling more. And what’s not to smile about? With skin on display and hormones revving, summer is one of the best times of the year to enjoy casual sex with new people and old partners. With this in mind we’ve prepared a few guidance tips to get your mind in the mood and your chances a boost.

1. Smile when you’re out
It sounds simple, but you only have to take a look around on the bus or the train to see how little people seem to smile. But we should! Okay, so the train or the bus might be hot, but a smile can go a long way to showing someone that not all is lost. It’s also a great way to let someone you fancy know you that you’ve noticed them. As long as you don’t come off all creepy you should be in a prime position to make the most of an ingratiating smile this summer.

2. Take a chance
They say summer lowers the inhibitions. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but it certainly can make you feel more relaxed and friendly. Why not take a chance and message that person you’ve been too afraid to try talking to? What’s the worst that can happen? They don’t reply. And if that’s the worst that can happen than you’ve lost nothing. Hoorah!

3. Socialise more
Summer leaves you no excuse not to socialise. Now is not the season for staying in and watching DVDs. Summer is the season to get out there and greet the world and have some fun. You’re more likely to hook up with someone if you socialise more. It’s simple mathematics people.

4. Go swimming
Okay you know how girls and guys claim that a swimming pool is not the place to check people out? Do you also know that everyone lies? Of course a swimming pool is often where people check one another out. Why else do you think men and women wear such revealing costumes?

5. Stay out a bit later
Summer allows us more chances to stay up and out a little later than usual. Not only is it warmer, it’s lighter too and people don’t want to go to sleep right away. Why miss the chance of a casual encounter by going home early?