F Buddy - turn on techniques

Why getting good as sex is a life investment

EdBennett — Fri, 20 Jul 2018 13:15:06 +0000

20 Jul 2018 - 14:15 | Tags: getting good at sex, turn on techniques

As we grow older we get better at nearly everything that we do. When we are first born we can’t even walk, but as adults we are so good at it we never even have to think about walking! There are many things that we master to a high skill level without consciously having to make an effort to get good at it, not just walking. Talking, eating with cutlery, making “niceties” with other people. There are also some things that we can learn to do at a functional level without active effort, but without deciding to get better at them, we rarely make it past the “okay” rating. These include playing sports, doing our jobs, and yes, you guessed it, sex.

We can all have functional sex, and once you have had sex a few times, you start to get better at it. The initial nervousness drops away, you become more confident in both your own body and what you are chosing to do with it. The feels, actions and hormones all become more familiar to you, and as that happens you begin to refine your technique. You start to learn what really works and what doesn’t, and you develop your own personal tastes on what your preferences are. However, without making a decision to want to get good at sex, you will rarely make it past this stage. It does not matter how many hooks ups you have, or the number of fuck buddies you have slept with, unless you are trying to get better, you will simply enjoy it for what it is without advancing your skill level.

Why get better at sex?

There are many things that you will want to do for most of your life, and so it is worth getting good at these things. You are probably going to drive for 40 years, so it is worth spending the effort learning to do it well. You are going to be doing your job to earn money for decades, so getting better at it so you can earn more money makes sense. You are going to want to have sex for a long time, whether you are sleeping with a friend with benefits or you end up in a long term relationship, being good at sex will enhance the time that you spend with that other person for both you and your sexual partner. The rewards that you reap in the long term will be tangible.

So make an effort and get better at sex. Talk to your fuck buddy about what they are enjoying, or things that they think you are doing well. Next time you have a hook up be really sensitive to the other person, and also use it as an opportunity to try new things. Most importantly, always remember to have fun!

How to make her scream in bed: Part 1

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Aug 2017 15:41:44 +0000

12 Aug 2017 - 16:41 | Tags: how to make her scream in bed, sex tips, turn on techniques

We all want to be gods in bed. We want to take the other person and make them scream with pleasure, to spasm uncontrollably as the pleasure of what you're doing to them completely controls every movement of their body. There is nothing that turns you on more than having other paths become sexual will explain. There is nothing like it, there is nothing that can replace it. It is unique and wonderful. So the question hear it, how do you make her scream. In this article we're going to go over a few top tips on how to leave her shuddering with pleasure begging for more.

Sex is not a race

Sex is not a race, and whilst with most things in life we may be doing them to reach the end, the pleasure in sex is in the journey. Getting to the orgasm quickly, it's not the gold when having sex. In fact, trying to get a orgasm quickly may result in you never getting there at all. So my advice to you is this, take your time. Take time to explore her body and to allow her to explore your body. Really being mindful and in the moment, storing and legs feet and back. Her breasts and bum really obvious places to go to think about exploring other parts of the body and long sight. The more time you spent the joint at the body and the more time you give her to export your body the better than sex will be. Remember it takes time to get to orgasm, so and now that time and enjoy yourself.

Feedback is important, so make some noise!

Sex is gentle, hard, and intricate as well as intimate. Sometimes you're trying to express the most precise of instructions, however all you're allowed to do is make grunts! Trying to express phrases like”a little to the left and slightly more gentle please” through the medium of grunts is incredibly difficult. Yet somehow have to make it work. My primary advice is considered talking to the other person. Take away the taboo of giving specific instructions. The advantage to this is if you're allowed her to tell you exactly what she wants to do, you get to tell her exactly what you want her to do to you. This can be the greatest b****** your life so think about that isn't it when you consider trying to get over this. Feedback is extremely important to make some noise. If you don't feel you could do this, at the very least don't be silent. Grunt, groan, do anything as long as you're showing your appreciation whilst having sex.

Vary what you are doing

When you go to a restaurant, no matter how good the soup it's no one wants to have 3 courses of just soup. Everyone wants to have a starter, then a mains, then dessert. If you had a starter, followed by the same starter, and then finished with a starter for dessert you would be rather dissatisfied at the end of your meal. The same is true with sex. Variation Key element when having good sex. If you find yourself doing the same thing multiple times, don't matter how good you are at it and no matter how much enjoys it, after a first few times she won't enjoy it as much. So mix it up. If there's something she particularly likes having done to her, think about doing different things first and building up to that thing. As long as you mix it up you will do a better job, and have more fun in bed then if you just repeat the same thing again and again.

With Sex - A simple grunt can mean a thousand things!

EdBennett — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 09:45:25 +0000

6 Dec 2015 - 09:45 | Tags: turn on techniques, dirty talk

When it comes to having sex here in the UK, we are a fairly reserved people. We have a bit of a history of not wanting to talk about sex, about it being a bit of a fo pa, and especially for women there was a concept that t enjoy sex was a negative thing. If you were a man and you slept with a lot of people you were a bit of a Cad or a rouge, if you were a girl and you slept with a lot of people you were a slut. This is something that I am glad is quickly being rooted out here in the UK, and the more time passes the more the truth becomes the normal attitude. Sex is normal, everyone has it, and everyone should enjoy it. It’s not a difficult concept – and by virtue of the fact you are reading this article on this site it is very likely that you are already aware of this – so apologies for preaching to the converted.

So when you finally make it to the bedroom – with the usual British stiff upper lip firmly in place on your face, you start to have sex with your partner. You want it to be good, both for you and for your partner. In the early days you are getting to know each other; you are learning each others likes and dislikes, the parts of their bodies that when stoked light them up like a fire fly, and the parts that gain a reaction similar to that of dropping a sexual-bucket-of-water on their heads. And all the time you are doing this, you are communicating through the language of... grunts?

Grunting in the bedroom is a time honoured tradition, and I am in no way knocking it... I am simply stating that it is a little bit of a clumsy form of communication. That trying to tell someone to slow down, or speed up through the form of a grunt is a little bit difficult to decipher, especially in the heat of the moment whilst wrapped up in the desire for the other person.

You are there – (s)he grunts... did that mean harder or softer? Faster or slower? (S)he likes it or hates it?

I have a suggestion for you – trying using words once in a while. You will both benefit from the additional meaning you will be able to convey from the switch in language.

Dirty Talk for bigger harder Orgasms

EdBennett — Wed, 28 Oct 2015 16:22:27 +0000

28 Oct 2015 - 16:22 | Tags: turn on techniques, how to have better orgasms, dirty talk

If you are really comfortable with dirty talking – skip this article now, I am preaching to the congregation. If you are not – read on, for your life may be on the moment of changing forever!

Dirty talk – it is something that most people are uncomfortable with. They are not used to doing it, it is not something that is taught in schools, you don’t get to practice it with your friends. Dirty talk comes natural to *no one*. Remember this. No one is naturally good at it – the only way is to practice a little, get it wrong sometimes, then improve over time.

So why bother you ask? Why make the effort to get good at something that is so outside of your comfort zone that it is almost painful to try to start with? Why push through the pain and possible embarrassment of saying words that have rarely left your mouth, and never in that order? Two words: Great Sex.

Higher Horney = Bigger Orgasms

The more turned on you are the bigger your orgasms get. The more you are crazy with lust at the moment of coming the hard you will come and more you catapult yourself into the nothing of ecstasy that you seek. So the more turned on you can get the better it is for you and your partner. So what is the solution to this problem of increasing how horny you and your partner are... DIRTY TALK!

Excitement happens in the mind. One of the things about excitement is that it is really similar to fear. Fear is excitement without the breath... so if the thought of dirty talk makes you nervous then great! It means that you are likely to be able to really benefit from the sex boost that it can provide.

Where to start

• Start simple. The easiest way to begin is to text your partner during the daytime that you are thinking about them, then build from there.
• Go first: Always be brave and go first. You have to be willing to make yourself vulnerable if you want the other person to match what you do. It is human instinct to reciprocate what one person does, so if you put yourself out there first – they will likely follow
• Say what you feel. The more congruent you are with what you say the easier it is to say it, so be brave and say what you actually feel / think
• Be bold and strong with the way you say it. If you say it with confidence you are going to be well received. If you are timid and nervous with the way you say it, it will be a lot less sexy.

When is the best time to start?

NOW! So get out there and start talking dirty.

Know that no means no for less fear in the bedroom

EdBennett — Tue, 20 Oct 2015 12:18:31 +0000

20 Oct 2015 - 13:18 | Tags: rules of sex, turn on techniques

Sometimes when things are getting heated in the bedroom, feelings can get out of control. In many ways, a sign of how well things are going is when you get sexually out of control. The best orgasms happen when you really truly let go, when you and the person you are with allow your carnal desires to really come out, to be unleashed till all there remains is your body, their body, and an indefinable need to have each other in an extreme a way as possible.

One of the paradox’s with this is that to reach this stage of total wanting-longing-having-taking, you have to just give in to your urges and let go of control... and this is where there is a danger zone. Sometimes, for what ever reason, the other person may decide that regardless of build up, that they don’t want to have sex with you, or that they wish to stop. At this point they will make this clear by saying this. If this happens at a point where the build up has been huge and you are ready to just let go and give in to the need, the exercising of will power to pull back can take quite a lot of effort.

It may feel like you are losing out, you may be made to feel insecure by this, insulted, and ultimately left frustrated. However the presence of the “no” as an absolute is a crucial ingredient that is necessary in to order to reach the point of total abandonment. See here is how it works.

In order to be able to totally let go and just do what you want with your partner you need to know 100% that they are consenting and on board with this. You need to be sure. As things progress you may move to doing more interesting or unusual things in the bedroom. Whether that is playing around with some rope and tying the other person, or more hard core BDSM. Whatever you are doing, you want to be able to push the boundaries into fantasy with confidence, and without fear that you are doing something without consent. This is where the power of “no” comes into its own and works hard for you.

When you both know that no means no, the other person can more readily be presented with new things with out fear – they know they can stop it at any time. As for you, when you know that they can say “no” – you can push things as hard or as fast as you like, because you also know that if they are uncomfortable, they can stop things at any time.

The presence of the word “no” serves both parties! Embrace it!

Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom, it just ends there

EdBennett — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 15:46:12 +0000

13 Oct 2015 - 16:46 | Tags: Sex, turn on techniques, hot stuff

Sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It usually happens in the bedroom, but good sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It starts in the minds of the two people that are about to have sex. The anticipation that leads up to the act, the planning, the time that is spent desiring it, wanting it, waiting for it...

The build up is as important to a good session as the session itself. Everyone loves a decent main course, but when you go out for the experience of having dinner, you go out not just to satisfy your carnal desire to consume, but to be able to enjoy the time spent on the eating. There is the choosing of the restaurant, the sitting down and pre chat, the looking over the menu, the ordering of drinks, then three courses of the meal before the meal is done. People enjoy their starters as much as their mains... and they enjoy the desert even more because it was preceded by the starter and the main course. It is the whole experience that they enjoy – not just the quelling of their hunger. If they simply wanted to not be hungry they could have more easily stayed at home and eaten an oven pizza.

Sex is the same. It is not just the act of coming that makes it the amazing experience that everyone desires so much. It is everything in the run up to it that really makes it. It is the anticipation, the wanting of it, the enforced waiting for it, the build up to it.

So how can you enhance this for both yourself and your f-buddy? Play to the anticipation. Rather than focus on the actual act of having sex, make time, effort and head space to think about and take action *doing* the stuff in the run up to the sex. So text your partner the night before assuring them that the following night they are not going to want to go to sleep. Message them again in the morning something with a little tease for the evening. Make sure that they spend the day thinking about what is going to happen that night.

If you meet them in a restaurant or do something before going back to yours/theirs, make sure you flirt. Make lots of physical contact without doing anything, tease them and allow yourself to be teased. The occasional brush of your arm or body against an inappropriate part of their body can do wonders if done then ignored by yourself.

Make sure the run up to the sex has the sub-text of the coming sex planted in it. If you do, you will have a much more electric night for it – which is something that will be good for the both of you.