F Buddy - sex is great

Have sex like its your last night on earth

EdBennett — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 19:49:02 +0000

29 Jul 2019 - 20:49 | Tags: sex and death, how to get more sex, sex is great

What if you had a serious illness? Something incurable, degenerative and something that was ultimately going to kill you? How would you change your life? Different people react very differently to this. Some people go on a “Fuck it” style spending spree. They throw all caution to the wind, they quit their jobs, they give their stuff away and they focus solely on having a great time. Fair play I say. Other people go the other way. They drive really hard at work to make money fast whilst they have time, they set up their money in funds and structure things so that when they die, they have a legacy that gets passed on. They become super sensible about everything, and their ambition, compressed into a shorter time, causes their trajectory to become somewhat off the charts. The third category of people are those that deny it. They ignore it and live like it is not happening. I think that this is the only choice that is a poor one.
There is something that we can learn from these people, regardless of whether they take the fuck it option or the grown-up option. They all have better sex lives. Let us talk about this now.

The limited life span drives them to have better sex, now. In life we put so many things off. We think we want to change something and we think that we will do it later or another time. What illness brings is an awareness that you time is limited, so you have to do it now. So they set aside their inhibitions and they embrace their sexuality in a way that few of us do. If they have a fuck buddy they are brave and bold with that person. If they do not have a fuck buddy and want one, they just take the step to go and do it. The illness lends them a courage and bravery to do the things that they want to do because they have nothing to lose. Is this not the same for us in reality? The talk to their fuck buddy partners about their sexual fantasies and they try them out. The listen to their hook up’s fantasies and give that a go too! If they are feeling like spontaneous sex, they go for it, and spontaneous sex is some of the best sex that can be had!

When the have sex, they have it like it could be the last time, which lends them a passion and reckless release that drives the sex to a whole new level. What if we could capture and replicate this? Well, we can.

The brain can not tell the difference between imagination and reality in terms of its chemical reactions. Watching sport makes the brain release the same chemicals as doing sport. So if you think, in your mind, what if this was the last time, it can help you make the same decisions and take the same steps.

The proof is easy. Try is with your fuck buddy. You can tell them you are doing it or you can keep it to yourself, but you will find it gives you that playful reckless edge that will kick the sex up a notch.

How to have amazing sex: Part 1 – emotion

EdBennett — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 18:59:13 +0000

11 Oct 2016 - 19:59 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex is great, great sex, getting good at sex

When we think about sex, we generally think of it in physical terms. You meet someone, you get hard, you start to think that you really want to fuck them... then hopefully you end up fucking them. I mean that’s certainly what generally happens here at f-buddy, because everyone is here for the same thing, they all want to get laid, it generally results in everyone, well, getting laid!

So when people think about the times they have great sex, they remember it being good, but they rarely think about why it was good. What made it really good sex, as opposed to the times when sex was simply just alright, okay, or felling good but not great. This is what I am going to be talking about right now.

So let’s think back to the times that the sex was really good, and I mean better than good, I am talking the times you had great sex. What are the consistent regular factors? What are the elements that are the same every time, the things that are always there... because these are the ingredients that make up great sex for you. They are different for everyone, however there are some really common ones that cross over to many people. So here are some of the common things:

Emotion

This is the biggest one. There was a strong emotion at the time that you had the sex. I say this carefully, because it does not have to be an emotion that is on the theoretical list of “good” emotions. Most people think only “good emotions” build connections, important memories, strong experiences that we crave... actually this is incorrect. It is not good emotions that build it, it is more simply strong emotions. If when you have sex there is a strong emotion of *any* kind, this will make the sex feel stronger – and therefore contribute towards having great sex. For some people this can mean the emotion is “love” or extreme “lust” or any other more positive emotion. However it can equally be angry, pain driven, or even a desire to hurt or whilst feeling hurt by the other person. This is one of the reasons break up sex can be so amazing. The emotions are so high, the strength of feeling is so strong, that the sex is inevitably more likely to be great sex. When the emotion is high, the sex is likely to be better.

Want to know more? Read the other parts of this series of articles on this blog!

Learn Language through Sex

EdBennett — Tue, 13 Sep 2016 14:41:17 +0000

13 Sep 2016 - 15:41 | Tags: sex education, sex is great, sex is a teacher

Sex is great in all its forms, and for any reason. Whether you have taken the more mainstream choice of sleeping with just one person in a committed relationship, or whether you took the more enlightened path of have sex with true freedom through a fuck buddy, several fuck buddies, or just a more no strings attached relationship, the sex is still good for you. There are a number of things that orgasm does that are healthy for both the body and the mind, and ultimately the increased sense of self worth and esteem that sex brings has a fundamental change to your attitude and state in the moment that will make you more successful and happy. Sex makes you better, at everything. This can include the learning of a language given the right partner.

Learning to speak in a language is one of the most difficult things that the brain can do as an adult. As a child your mind is like a sponge, you are absorbing and soaking up every little thing about the world that you are exposed to. Things you take for granted now as “easy” are actually complex processes that your child brain greedily learns. How to walk, how to go to the toilet, and of course how to speak. Communication is at the core of how we live, work and make love to each other. Sex itself is an act of communication... but I am jumping ahead a little here. We will come to this.

Trying to learn to speak a language in a classroom will work, but when you are learning a language you are learning to communicate, to exchange thoughts and emotions. Having strong emotion when learning is key to learning quickly and at depth... and these are things that are sorely lacking from a classroom environment, however, they are things that are most definitely present when you are with someone that you are fucking.

Sleeping with someone who is fluent in another language will give you a state to learn that language at an accelerated rate. You have a practice partner all the time, you have someone who can guide you... but more than that you have the emotion that the sex brings to drive you. You have the lust fuelled desire that will cause your brain to really soak up the information, to store it, to get a handle on how to use it for expression. Fucking someone is to (for a moment at the least) be immersed in them, with them. Immersion learning is the fastest way to grasp anything... and this is no exception.

So if you ever fancied learning a language, find someone who comes from the country and grab them as a fuck buddy. You will grasp the language quickly, and all through the fun medium of sleeping with them! Orgasms for education!

Celebrate Sex

EdBennett — Mon, 11 Jan 2016 09:39:58 +0000

11 Jan 2016 - 09:39 | Tags: sex is great, fucking fun, casual sex definitions

We celebrate many thing in our lives. We celebrate certain times of the year, birthdays, anniversaries, we’ve just had Christmas and New years, one of the biggest in our culture! We also celebrate achievement and actions of a certain kind. Making lots of money is applauded, getting good grades at school gets you lots of attention, we celebrate those people who make other peoples lives better and happier. One of the things that we rarely celebrate here in the UK is the achievement of getting sex.

Whilst we have over recent years thrown off the shackles that sex is bad and all of that stiff upper lip nonsense, we still have remnants of it which haunt us, and one of those affects how we see sex, and specifically, the pursuit of it.

If someone is without a job, they will take action to get a job. They will make a CV, contact employers and when they do get a job they will be patted on the back by their friends and family and applauded for their efforts.
When someone is without sex, taking these steps are seen as a negative thing. Taking positive action to remedy the situation of being without someone to share an intimate moment with is not celebrated, and sometimes the opposite is true, it can be condemned. Lets look at online websites for example.

I am glad to say that things have changed massively in the last 10 years. For a long time even the most basic and badly run of internet dating sites was seen as bad thing. If you were internet dating 10 years ago you were seen as “sad”, someone who couldn’t find someone through more “normal” means and therefore as a last resort had to fall back on going to in the internet in order to be able to find someone willing to put up with them. This is so far from the truth, and I am glad to say that attitudes have massively changed here in the UK. Now to use the internet to find a match for what you are looking for is just seen as smart! It is using modern advances to help you make your life better... and likely the life of the person that you end up sleeping with!

We need a major attitude change here still on sex. We need to be celebrating people more when they get laid. They are improving their own lives and the life of the person that they just slept with.
So next time you know someone who is taking positive action to improve their sexual set up, celebrate them for taking action.

Remember: The best sex (s)he has ever had is the sex (s)he is having with you right now

EdBennett — Sat, 28 Nov 2015 10:24:39 +0000

28 Nov 2015 - 10:24 | Tags: best sex, best oral sex, sex is great

There are so many times and reasons that people feel don’t feel great about their sex life – and quite often a lot of these issues are in people’s minds. They carry them into the situation / relationship of their own accord and the other person is then saddled with trying to help deal with them or alleviate them. This is bad for *both* parties. So I hope to help alleviate some of these right now. Read this, and believe me, your life is about to be made much better.

Oh no - They didn't orgasm!

This is 95% when you are sleeping with a girl. You have sex, you come and they don’t orgasm. You feel terrible, you feel like you cheated them, and you feel all insecure about the fact that they didn’t orgasm. Get over it! It is in your head! They probably had a really good time, and even if they didn’t orgasm, remember the best sex you can have is the sex you are having right now – so they still had a better night than if you weren’t there at all.

Oh no – you are terrible at sex

You have all sorts of logical reasons to tell yourself you are terrible at sex. You are less experienced, you don’t know what you are doing with your hands and your fingers, you are a bad kisser, you come really quickly... the list is endless. This manifests itself when you are actually having sex. You are in the moment and you blow your own enjoyment because you are worried they are not going to be having as good a time as they could be. Nonsense! Remember. The best sex they have ever had is the sex they are having right now with you. So relax and enjoy yourself.

Oh no – they slept with loads more people before meeting you

Everyone has a history. Everyone has slept with someone before they met you. Maybe it is just one, or maybe it is one hundred, but likely they have had experiences with others. Do no get paranoid about it – this is the big orgasm killer! So they have slept with other people, so what? The sex with you out punches any sex they had previously... and do you know why? I can tell you if you haven’t already understood this – the best sex they have ever had is the sex that they are having right now! Even if they slept with a Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, they are having the best sex of their life with you because it is now, and nothing in the past exists anymore.

Remember this – and go forth and be confident!