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How to be a god in bed – top sex advice for men (part 5)

EdBennett — Fri, 21 Jan 2022 20:41:24 +0000

21 Jan 2022 - 20:41 | Tags: how to be a sex god, British sex advice, sex advice, getting good in bed

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, where we help like minded adults find each other for some no strings attached fun. We have been running a series of sex advice articles aimed at men who want to be a god in bed. When I say god, I do mean “god” and not just “good”. Most sex is already “good” by virtue of the fact that you are having it. The best sex is the sex that you are having right now! Want to take your good, to great and eventually to god? You have come to the right website! Whilst our primary purpose is to help people find a fuck buddy or a no strings attached relationship, we also pride ourselves on helping people stay in those relationships or, at the least, make the most of them when they are happening. One of the ways we can help you do that is by helping you to be better in bed. Following on from our last article on how to be a god in bed, here are some more of our top tips to help you excel when it matters.

Talk dirty to your fuck buddy

It is a simple thing to do yet a daunting one for a lot of people. Talking dirty can take you out of your comfort zone if you are unused to doing it. A lot of people can get quite nervous when trying to talk dirty. We wrote a longer article on dirty talk here which you can read, but in short talking dirty really can lead to bigger and harder orgasms. It can deepen the pleasure, strengthen the bond. If you are not sure where to start, the easiest thing to do is to tell the person what you are going to do to them before you do it. Then tell them what you are doing as you are doing it. The extra engagement verbally can really take things to the next level.

Get a sex toy for her

Stimulating the clitoris is a really important part of bringing a woman to orgasm. If you want to be a sex god then you have to do this. Some women need really strong stimulation and some women need machine levels of stimulation! So get involved and get a sex toy. A small vibrator in a drawer, ready for the right moment, can go a long way.

Get a sex toy for yourself

Gods have a great time in bed themselves. Gods have a great time, so consider getting yourself a sex toy to spice up your own sex life. Show your fuck buddy how to use it. If it makes you come, she will feel all the better for bringing you to orgasm.

How to have amazing sex part 5: Change something to make sex better or rekindle a dying fire

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Nov 2016 19:50:18 +0000

20 Nov 2016 - 19:50 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, good sex guide, sex advice

Okay so we all love sex. Even the people that say they don’t are lying. They do like sex, they just don’t want to say it. This could be for a number of reasons. Some people have real trouble getting laid so they want to lie to themselves about not wanting it in the first place, that way they are not a failure because they “didn’t want it anyway”. This is a little like being back in the playground at school when you didn’t want the ball anyway - just after someone stole the ball you were really enjoying playing with. It is a lie, but you go with it because it is better than the reality.

Some people have a partner, and the sex has gotten boring or worse still it is no longer even happening because things have gotten mundane. They have gotten so boring you both gave up. When this happens people are trapped in their situation, and they start to feel like maybe they didn’t really want to have sex anyway. Same lie, different reason. When this happens you have 3 choices:

Fix the problem somehow and start having great sex together

Start sleeping with someone else, either as an affair or you can be open about it and get a fuck buddy or another no strings attached relationship. If you take this route, I would go for the later of these two options. It always works out better in the longer term.

Break up.

What you can not do is stay where you are. Do not, under any circumstances stay still. That is ot a good place for either of you to be, so man up and do something about it, even though what you have to do may be one of the hardest things you have done in your life.

How to rekindle the fire / have better sex

So one of the top tips to have better sex – which can also be used to re kindle a dying fire, is change something. We all like stuff to be different, to change. We all like new things and variation. It is amazing what a difference even the smallest change can make. Buy a new outfit – don’t let her see – then take her out to dinner before fucking her brains out. Even you looking different to how she is used to can help you to stir things up. Making her look at you differently in any way will do the same thing – because it is different, it shakes things up. Don’t worry about the change being too small – anything will have an effect. The bigger the change, the larger it will stoke the sexual heat.

So go ahead and mix it up a little, you won’t regret it. More articles on how to have amazing sex here.

How to have amazing sex part 4: Emotional Release

EdBennett — Sun, 13 Nov 2016 11:45:38 +0000

13 Nov 2016 - 11:45 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex advice

We all want to have amazing sex. I mean really, really great sex.... and the reason is that it is so good to start with. Even what one might consider to be “bad” sex is actually quite good in comparison to other activities because sex itself is great! We were born to have sex, the way we have evolved is to help us have more sex. If someone had a trait that meant they were going to get laid less, then that would quickly be bread out of the human race... because that person wouldn’t get laid and so they would have no kids! Even the way that we build the world we live in today is partly sex driven. The earning of money, the desire for cool clothes, the fast cars, the nice watches... all of it serves to allow people to show how valuable they are – and therefore get laid! Now we live in a more enlightened society, the introduction of the contraceptive pill along with the acceptance of sex outside of marriage means that we can now get laid whenever we like with little to no negative repercussions. In fact, most people have a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits on the side in cases of sexual emergency already! If they don’t then they come here and grab one. So since sex is so easily available now, here is top tip number 4 on how to have amazing sex.

Go for the emotional release

Sex is great for a lot of things. It is good for your health, releases happy hormones; it even burns calories which helps you loose weight! Included in this is a release of tension. In our day to day lives we can get filled up with tension, muscles can tighten, heads get stressed out, emotions get bound up into a tight knotted ball. How can we release this? Why have sex of course. Here’s the best part – it makes the sex better!

The emotional build makes it better

It’s not just about using the sex as a vehicle to release emotional tension; it is also about using the tension as a vehicle to make the sex better! This really does work! All the tension balled up inside inspires a driving desire for the sex, which means that when it actually happens, the sex is amazing! Water to a thirsty man always tastes better than to a man who has drunk his fill.

So next time you are feeing stressed out, het up, frustrated – consider using that and getting laid immediately! You might find it not only helps the issues, but that the sex is brilliant.

Consider your angle of approach

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Apr 2016 14:29:26 +0000

28 Apr 2016 - 15:29 | Tags: sex tips, sex advice, better sex guide

There are so many factors to having a great sex life. The most obvious is how much you want the other person. How much you fancy them dictates the amount you will want them, the amount you want their body, and of course the more you want them the better the sex will be. Desire plays a huge part in our happiness. So for example, if you really want a pizza one evening, getting one will make you really happy. If you don’t really fancy a pizza it won’t have that great an effect on how you feel. The same is true for how good the sex is. You really want sex you will have a great time. You really want sex with a particular person for some reason it will have a huge effect on your happiness levels.

So let’s assume that you like the person that you are sleeping with, that you are having a good time with them, that all the other elements are good. Let’s talk about the specifics of the sex technique.

There are many things that you probably take into account in order to make yourself a good lover. You might look after your body and preserve your stamina. Perhaps you do Kegel exercises in order to make sure that you are strong and have muscles developed in places where it matters. You are aware of your own body and how to use it, and the body of your partner. One thing that is sometimes over looked – have you considered your angle of approach?

Let’s talk about the vagina as if you have a woman lying on her back facing up at you, missionary style. The vaginal opening has a top and a bottom. It is a sensitive organ, soft and welcoming when wet, and deliciously seductive. Did you know that the “bottom” of the opening is particularly sensitive and that it can be easily damaged? If you poke quite hard you can easily tear or rip the bottom, and that is going to make sex painful and probably nonexistent for some time.

More than that, the angle of penetration can make a really big difference to how pleasurable it is for the girl that you are with. Missionary position standardly isn’t actually that great an angle. Taking a girl from behind gives a great angle quite naturally and provides a good result without really having to think about it too much. If you want the girl on her back so that you can see her whilst you are fucking her then consider pulling her to the edge of the bed, with you stand on the floor so that you are coming in at a more straight or even upward angle.

The angle can make all the difference and it is such an easy thing to alter, consider playing around with it.

The assumption of sex can be a killer

EdBennett — Wed, 20 Apr 2016 08:26:18 +0000

20 Apr 2016 - 09:26 | Tags: sex advice, sex tips

Sex assumption can completely kill your chances and ability of having amazing sex. I’d like to first paint a picture of where amazing sex happens *without* the assumption in order to better highlight where the assumption of sex can be a killer.

When you first are seeing someone *before* you have had sex for the first time, no matter how clear it is that you are going to sleep together, there is always a little doubt, the possibility that things are going to change and that the sex will not happen. Let’s take a near iron clad example. You meet someone through f-buddy and you have chatted online. You decide to meet in person – and in this case you already know that s/he is up for sex because frankly everyone on this website wants to get laid. You meet in person and you get on great! You fancy them and they fancy you – all good. You talk, have a few drinks, and when you then invite them back to yours for a coffee – they say yes. So you walk through your front door...

...now at this point you can be 99.9% certain that you are getting laid. You met them on a “get sex” website, you fancy each other and s/he has come back to yours for “coffee”. Despite all of this, on some level you do not assume that it is definitely going to happen, there is time for it to change.

Fast forward 6 months, and you are seeing the person regularly, it is still new and exciting. You have slept together multiple times, you are super comfortable with each other, and when you send a booty call text message out, and they respond positively, you *know* that you are getting laid that night. Yet when you meet, the sex is still not assumed. There is still an excitement at having it, attentiveness to the other person that you are having it with. This helps to keep it good.

2 years later and now real assumption has kicked in. You meet, before going to the bedroom you have a bedtime routine, you brush your teeth, set the alarm, you tidy your stuff. You climb into bed with the person next to you... and you so easily could just go to sleep. Perhaps you do sleep with each other or not, but if you do it is just an assumption because you happen to be in the same bed together. The sex takes place out of circumstance, convenience, the logistics make it happen. They are no longer the person you started having sex with, and nor are you.

Watch out for the assumption it will kill your sex life.

How to better in Bed as a man

EdBennett — Sun, 27 Mar 2016 18:10:40 +0000

27 Mar 2016 - 19:10 | Tags: sex advice, better in bed, being attractive

You want an amazing sex life, and you have most of the hard work already. You have gotten your act together, fought through your nerves etc and got on this site and messaged some women. You then realised that you weren’t getting as good a response as you would like to, so you improved your profile. You got some great pictures taken, got a mate to re write your description, and things got better. You still had to message quite a few people before starting to meet people, and it didn’t quite end there! The first few people you met, it just wasn’t there. I mean this is f-buddy not some hippy website ike e-harmony, so you still slept with them and had sex. It just you didn’t like them enough to meet up and do it again. So you kept going... and then it happened! You met the perfect fuck buddy.

The new fuck buddy was pretty in your eyes. She had all the things in the right places, and there was actual vibe between you. She was someone you could get behind, I mean that literally as well as metaphorically! You started having sex, you started booty calling each other, it’s all great! Then you woke up one morning and decided it was so good, that you wanted more. You wanted to be better in bed, and you did it from a strong place. You decided you wanted to do it for you more than for her. So where do you go from here? There is a ton of information on the internet about this – and a lot of it is a bunch of baloney. Here are my top tips to making permanent sustainable change to how you have sex.

Kegel exercises

These are an absolute must. They take so little effort for the results that they can bring. They are a foundation stone for being great in bed. Kegel exercises strengthen the core muscles that you need in order to come harder, and also control when you come. Without strong muscles it doesn’t matter how good your technique is, you won’t have the strength to follow though. More on this in another article. For now, just do them.

Take your focus away from you to the other person

When we are focused on ourselves, as men we tend to come quicker. There is an old joke that if you feel yourself coming to fast to think of something non sexy – Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day. However this also pulls you out of the moment and is not good for long term presence. So instead focus on the other person. This brings you away from yourself whilst keeping you present in the moment. If they are having a good time, you will have a better time. Trust me on this.

Consider using stimulants

I am not talking about illegal ones, I am talking about legal ones. Read more about his here and get involved.

Using stimulants for better sex

EdBennett — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 11:02:07 +0000

11 Mar 2016 - 11:02 | Tags: better sex guide, sex advice

We all want to have an amazing sex life – and the best thing is that this is achievable for all of us. I really mean that - *all* of us. So yes some of us are starting in different places than each other, some of us will be “naturally” better lovers, or come more or less easily, or be able to last longer / shorter times. Whilst we all “start” at different places, we also all can change this. With the wonders of modern thought, technology, *technique* we are all able to adjust where ever we are in order to have a better sex life.

There are many paths to improve our sex – in this article I want to talk about the use of stimulants. I am going to restrict myself to only legal stimulants in this case... I’ll save the more difficult to acquire stuff for another day.

Caffeine

This is a much underrated drug... and it is indeed a drug. Dosage is very much on a case by case basis depending on the amount that the person already drinks – but caffeine can make a really big difference. To have the best sex, you want to be energetic and energised. Body builders have long used caffeine in order to work out harder and lift heavier during their sessions. The same can be used with sex. A quick shot of caffeine before a sex session can ensure that both of you are truly “up for it” and ready to go.

The effects are small but noticeable – most effectively used when tired. When vibed up this will make no difference as it is primarily used to counteract tiredness rather than boost an already awake and excited sex session.

Alcohol

Now this is a much misunderstood substance. As Shakespeare once pointed out so eloquently “it increases the will but not the way”. Drinking will make you hornier – but actually reduce the ability to orgasm – and as a man it will also make it more difficult to both get and maintain an erection. So how can we best use Alcohol?

During the run up to sex a drink can make a big difference in dropping inhibitions. This is a psychological effect as well as an actually biological effect – so you have to drink only a very small amount in order to achieve the inhibition dropping effect. As a man a very small amount will also reduce the speed of coming, so if you have trouble in that area a little can go a long way!

Use with care boys! Small amounts only!

Nicotine:

We remember most strongly how we start and how we finish. When we see a comedy night if the first act and the last act are good we consider it a good night. The same is true for sex. If you start well and finish strong you are in for someone who will come back. A cigarette at the end can be a perfect post sex stimulant. NOTE: you only actually need a couple of drags to have the effect – the rest is just putting crap into your body so the best way to do this is to share the cigarette! It is also a cool thing you end up doing together this way.

So think about using a stimulant in the mix to better your sex life. The right thing used in the right way could add to a smashing night.

Top three fuck buddy Sex Tips

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Feb 2016 19:31:24 +0000

28 Feb 2016 - 19:31 | Tags: summer sex tips, sex tips, sex advice

Lets presume you have already gone through the process of finding your fuck buddy. You got your act together and decided you wanted one. So you wrote a profile, put some pics of you with your best side on the site, and then you took the initiative to contact some people. You messaged more people than you thought you would have to (it is always that way!) and you didn’t want to sleep with the first person you met up with in person. Then you found someone you liked that was on the same wave length and suddenly BAM you are having all the sex. Lets presume you are there! Here are some top fuck buddy sex tips to see you through!

Make a sex bucket list
A lot of us have a life bucket list filled with places to travel and usually a bungee jump or something equally dangerous, so why don’t we do this with sex? If you make a list of the things that you want do, the things that you want to try, that will help to keep the sexual journey moving. As well as it helping the sex for both of you, the best part is you get to do the things that you really want to do! Thinking about it doesn’t work. Write it down and you will find that it is more likely to happen.

Have a secret booty call phrase
In jokes are a great way of building rapport between people, we use them with our friends, family and at work. Developing a personal shared language between two people helps build closeness... so start to do that with your fuck buddy. If you want to text them for a botoy call, rather than say it explicitly, what is much more fun and would bring better results is a shared phrase that you both use. I have spoken to people that have used everything from “you wanna go bowling tonight” through to “I need to borrow a cup of sugar”. Texting this keeps the secret between the two of you (should anyone else read the text message) and will increase excitement between the two of you.

Get Hot and Sweaty for Sex!
When you sweat you smell more – part of that is increased pheromone production. This increased pheromones will mean that your sexual partner will be more attracted to you. You think you ought to shower after a big work out? No! Work out and get your f-buddy to come meet you at the end with a special reward for working out so hard. They will actually enjoy it and be more turned on than you will!

Go forth and fuck.