F Buddy - being attractive

What makes a man sexy

EdBennett — Tue, 22 Jan 2019 14:39:02 +0000

22 Jan 2019 - 14:39 | Tags: being attractive, being sexy, how to be sexy

As humans, we judge people by very different standards depending on the environment that we meet them. For example, when we meet someone in the work place, we are looking for something that is polite, courteous and helpful. We look for someone that is competent as this is often important as well. Primarily, the “nice guy” will do well in the workplace. When it comes to choosing a fuck buddy, however, the rules are completely different to at work or anywhere else for that matter. What makes someone likeable to someone’s parents is very different to what makes them attractive to a potential sex partner. For a woman this is judged heavily on how they look, but also on how affectionate they are as people. Being kind and caring, and coming across as such, is a really great trait when it comes to the sexual marketplace. In this article I would like to talk about what makes a man sex in order to help all those guys out there get the fuck buddy of their dreams!

Appearance

Yes, appearance can make a difference, but this really only at the extreme ends. If you are 6 foot 5 and have a 6 pack, yes you are going to get a lot of interest from potential friends with benefits. On the other end of the scale, if you are short, extremely over weight and smell like you haven’t washed for days, then yes you are likely to be quickly excluded as a potential sex partner. However, if you are somewhere in the middle, then becoming better looking is not something that is going to make much of a difference to your life. You should focus on the element below to up your fuck buddy hit ratio.

Being dominant

Being dominant and displaying signs of being dominant are a definite turn on. Scientists say this comes from our cave man days when being dominant meant you were better able to protect your partner. This still works to date but is now judged differently. It is now more important to do things like dress smartly, having a high-powered job displays dominance as well. You can also do it in your actions. Order at the bar, make decisions when hanging out. Choose the place you are going to eat. It is small but simple steps that display dominance. This is not about being a nasty person, it is just about being someone who is able to know you are mind and carry out your desires. It is about being able to walk and move in the world in the way that you want to.

This also translates to the bedroom. Most women want a man who is able to take charge within the confines of full consent of course. So if you want to be more sexy, try taking charge a little more, you will find it really helps.

What makes a woman sexy

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 14:51:09 +0000

30 Sep 2018 - 15:51 | Tags: being sexy, being attractive, hot woman

When it comes to the sexual marketplace, our individual value is completely defined based on how sexy you are. All other elements are said to play a part, but the truth is they are meaningless. They are all seen through the lens of how sexy you are. If you are sexy, then they will be seen a positive. If you are not sexy then they will be seen as negative, it really is as simple as that.

So in our quest to secure the most desirable mate, the most successful and prosperous partner with whom to couple with and have children, our natural instincts try and push us to become sexier. The real question is, what makes someone sexy? This is different depending on if you are a man or a woman, and in this article I will focus solely on what makes a woman sexy.

Looks

For a woman, the biggest thing they are judged on is their looks. I am making no judgement here on whether this is a good or bad thing, and in this article, I will stay well away from any politics surrounding this matter. All I will say is that currently, in the world that we live in and the way that we raise our children, the way a woman looks is of paramount importance to their value in the sexual marketplace. If a woman is fat or overweight this can plummet their stock hugely, whilst a woman who is in reasonable shape for her natural size and build will have far more options when it comes to choosing a fuck buddy. If a woman wants to increase sexiness, one of the best things she can do is lose weight. This is simply true.

Dress

How a woman dresses is also important. Interestingly this is so closely linked to looks, that it could have been included above. I keep it separate because how you alter this is different. To change your physical looks, you have to work on your body. To change your dress code, you go shopping and spend money. You can throw money at this at make yourself sexier, with physical looks you have to do exercise and control your diet, a much harder task indeed.

Conduct

How you carry yourself, of course, affects how sexy you are, but note that this comes third. It is not the primary thing. Being good looking is more important than acting sexy, so bear this in mind when you are deciding what to work on. Start with how you look over how you are.

Good luck finding your fuck buddy!

How to appear more attractive to the opposite sex

EdBennett — Thu, 20 Jul 2017 20:27:58 +0000

20 Jul 2017 - 21:27 | Tags: being attractive, hot body = hot sex, hooking up

When people want to get laid more, there are a number of things that they immediately think of doing, all of which have a varying degree of effectiveness. In this article we are going to focus on attraction. So here are some top tips on how to appear more attractive to the opposite sex.

Losing weight is a big one – and an effective one. Dropping a few excess pounds will make you more attractive to the opposite sex. Period.
Hitting the gym. Building lean muscles again will make you more attractive to the opposite sex. Everyone loves someone with a great body – and everyone can do something about improving their body, so why not do this?
Go clothes shopping for a new wardrobe. Again this can drastically alter ones appearance so that you can instantly look better and more attractive as a sexual partner.
Buy a new watch or car. The extravagant spending of money in order to quickly display that you have a large disposable income is a very old way of trying to attract a sex partner. This absolutely works – bear in mind that it attracts a certain type of person however. Great for finding a hookup or a fuck buddy, probably not such a good choice if you want a lasting monogamous relationship.
Change jobs. This again can be really effective, it has the triple effect of raising your income, giving you new status as long as you move to bigger company or a better job title, and you meet a whole bunch of new people amongst which may well be your next fuck buddy. This is a pretty great choice – though it is also a lot of effort.
Pay for a professional photo shoot. This is a really great investment! Given how much dating and hook-ups happen on line, having a set of really amazing photos of yourself looking attractive and with it, is a highly worthwhile investment. As well as dating you can use these on your facebook age, or linked in profile to make yourself pop out of the page more. I would highly recommend this as a choice. Warning: Do not photo shop too much or you will look too much “under” what you look like in your photo! Advice: Google “actors head shot photographer”. This will get you a higher quality picture at a lower cost as they are pricing it for professionals.

So there are some top tips for you to be getting on with. Don’t forget to message a few people as well. Doesn’t matter how attractive you are if no one knows you exist.

The main things you are judged on as a man

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Apr 2017 17:46:53 +0000

28 Apr 2017 - 18:46 | Tags: being alpha, being attractive

There are many steps to having lots of sex, many things that any man must do if he wants to get laid a lot. No man is judged on just one aspect of his being. Like a good recipe, and man has many ingredients which come together to make him either attractive or unattractive to members of the opposite (or perhaps even the same) sex. Many of these we already know and we pay attention to.

The physical body

This is the most obvious. Are you good looking or not? Are you in good shape or not? Are you fit and healthy, or do you weigh in at 150kg and have type 2 diabetes? This is something that you can affect and change, so bear it in mind. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt, but it does help if there is nothing obviously wrong with you

Your finances

No matter how much people deny it, if you have good wealth you can buy nice cars, wear good clothes, and afford to wine and dine people into sleeping with you. You can also afford a nice place to take her back to – that always helps! This is not the be all and end all however, so don’t get too hung up about it.

Your confidence

This is a huge factor! If you are shy and timid, it is very hard to get anywhere with women! You may not even have the ability to talk to a woman – and that means you are never going to be able to sleep with one! It is really important to work on this aspect of your personality, to get it up to speed. The more confident you are in yourself and your belief system, the better you will be able to manifest your life into what you want it to be. The affects not just women, but where you live, how you live, what job you have, the friends that you surround yourself with. This is the big one boys, if you work on one aspect it is this.

Your intelligence

This is looked at, but for most people it is small. You don’t have to be smart to get laid, not if you have confidence which makes up for it.

Status / Power

Status and power are intrinsically attractive traits, and if you are a man with power you can be ugly as sin, rude, even an out right bad guy and you will get laid. Look at Donald Trump, the things he says about women and he still gets laid!

So that is the breakdown. If you have to pick one to work on, go confidence every time.

Throwing her against a wall is still sexy

EdBennett — Thu, 20 Apr 2017 18:42:35 +0000

20 Apr 2017 - 19:42 | Tags: being alpha, being attractive, being sexy

When dating there are so many things that you want, but the one thing that remains consistent is that you want to be sexy. When with a fuck buddy there are many tastes and desires you may have, but again the one thing that remains true is that you want to be sexy! This is true on both sides. For the purposes of this article I am going to be talking about a man and a woman, but equally this could be 2 girls or another combination where one basically takes a more dominant role – because between two people no matter where they both sit on the spectrum of dominant to submissive, one person is always more dominant than the other person. Again for the purposes of this exercise I am also going to presume that it is the girl that is the more submissive in the sexual encounter. Why? Well statistically speaking it is far more likely. There are more submissive women in the world than there are dominant women, so this is the most likely set up.

As a man, there is nothing more sexy feeling than really taking a girl. I mean really taking her. Seeing a girl, deciding you want her, then taking her. It is as simple as that. It is the sequence of base instinctual action:

See
Want
Take

It is so powerful, and it makes us feel sexy, I mean really sexy. It puts us in a controlling position, makes us feel like we can bend reality to our will. That feeling fills us with confidence, and this is a self fulfilling prophecy, because the sexier we feel the more attractive we are to another person! So this is just great for the man doing the throwing... and there is no better expression of this than throwing a girl against a wall and kissing her. It is the ultimate see, want, take, and can be deployed in an instant.

The girl loves it even more

The best part is that the girl loves it even more! She becomes the object of that primal desire, the sexy being that is so attractive that you as a man have lost control and just thrown her against a wall because you want her that much. There is nothing sexier, and it is something that remains sexy even now.

So if you haven’t done it in a while, throw a girl against a wall and kiss her. Damn, you will both love it.

Know what you want – don’t be afraid to choose it

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Aug 2016 16:58:47 +0000

28 Aug 2016 - 17:58 | Tags: being attractive, being alpha, getting laid

This article is a relationship management article – it presumes that you already have a girl/boy that is either a long / short term relationship, a fuck buddy, a part timer or even someone you are just starting to date. This advice will not help you find someone – it will however help you get laid / be attractive / keep that person in your life for as long as you want them in your life.

This is about being attractive. No there are many things that will make someone attractive. The obvious one is the way they look, and there are some things you can do about this. Watch what you eat, get some exercise on a regular basis, and develop some fashion sense! Genetics gives you what you have, it is up to you how you present that to the world.

Other things will affect your attractiveness based on the other person – it really does depend on what you are looking for in someone and what they are looking for in you. It is not worth thinking too hard about these elements, focus on finding someone who likes however you are built in this way – not changing those things to meet with the expectations of someone else. So what is the one of the big things that you can do that will keep you attractive to someone of the opposite sex?

Know what you want, and ask for it. Once you are with someone in some capacity, and it really doesn’t matter if you are married or if it is a fuck buddy, the same rule of strength applies. The other person wants to be with someone who knows what they want and goes for it. Someone with some strength, some metal to their character. Now I am not saying you have to be a high flyer business person, I am just saying don’t be a push over. One way to express this is to know what you want, and to ask for it.

If you are going out and you want to have pizza, they ask where do you want to eat, you have 2 choices of response:

I don’t mind – where do you want to go?
I really want pizza. I know a great local place that does the best dough balls as starter, fancy that?

The first one is limp and unattractive. The second one is strong, attractive and the other person will be grateful for being with someone who has an opinion. They will like you more for it, and the best part is you also get to eat what you want – pizza! Bonus, right?

This applies across the board to all sorts of stuff, and in fact in all areas of your life. You aren’t always going to know what you actually want, so you can’t implement it all the time like this, but when you do, ask for it. You get what you want, and the other person will want to fuck you more for it, not less.

How to better in Bed as a man

EdBennett — Sun, 27 Mar 2016 18:10:40 +0000

27 Mar 2016 - 19:10 | Tags: sex advice, better in bed, being attractive

You want an amazing sex life, and you have most of the hard work already. You have gotten your act together, fought through your nerves etc and got on this site and messaged some women. You then realised that you weren’t getting as good a response as you would like to, so you improved your profile. You got some great pictures taken, got a mate to re write your description, and things got better. You still had to message quite a few people before starting to meet people, and it didn’t quite end there! The first few people you met, it just wasn’t there. I mean this is f-buddy not some hippy website ike e-harmony, so you still slept with them and had sex. It just you didn’t like them enough to meet up and do it again. So you kept going... and then it happened! You met the perfect fuck buddy.

The new fuck buddy was pretty in your eyes. She had all the things in the right places, and there was actual vibe between you. She was someone you could get behind, I mean that literally as well as metaphorically! You started having sex, you started booty calling each other, it’s all great! Then you woke up one morning and decided it was so good, that you wanted more. You wanted to be better in bed, and you did it from a strong place. You decided you wanted to do it for you more than for her. So where do you go from here? There is a ton of information on the internet about this – and a lot of it is a bunch of baloney. Here are my top tips to making permanent sustainable change to how you have sex.

Kegel exercises

These are an absolute must. They take so little effort for the results that they can bring. They are a foundation stone for being great in bed. Kegel exercises strengthen the core muscles that you need in order to come harder, and also control when you come. Without strong muscles it doesn’t matter how good your technique is, you won’t have the strength to follow though. More on this in another article. For now, just do them.

Take your focus away from you to the other person

When we are focused on ourselves, as men we tend to come quicker. There is an old joke that if you feel yourself coming to fast to think of something non sexy – Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day. However this also pulls you out of the moment and is not good for long term presence. So instead focus on the other person. This brings you away from yourself whilst keeping you present in the moment. If they are having a good time, you will have a better time. Trust me on this.

Consider using stimulants

I am not talking about illegal ones, I am talking about legal ones. Read more about his here and get involved.

Show me a man with a project, and I will show you a man women will fight to fuck

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Mar 2016 13:06:35 +0000

20 Mar 2016 - 13:06 | Tags: too many fuck buddies, being attractive, how to be hot

As men, when we look to increase our attractiveness to the opposite sex, the first thing that springs to our mind is always physical appearance. How do I look? Am I handsome? Am I muscled? If I am over weight then can I loose the fat? Now I have to be careful here, physical attractiveness plays its part in the dating market place for sure. If you are so over weight you need a fork lift truck to leave the house you aren’t going to be very attractive and ought to do something about it. However, spending time and effort to get a six pack is just not worth it – unless you are doing it purely for yourself of course. Once you are looking lets say reasonable, the best thing you can do is find a project.

As a man in the sexual market place, as long as you look “alright” or above, the big thing that is going to make you attractive to women is if you have agency. If you are someone who can make things happen, someone who appears to be in control of their life, is pursuing the things that they want to pursue and is driving towards a goal of their choosing. The best way of doing this is to have a project.

A modern day philosopher once said “show me a man with a project, and there I will show you a happy man”. The act of having a project does a multitude of positive things for your life and your sex life. When you have a project, you are someone who is driving towards something. You become a man that knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to pursue it. When you have a project you often end up finding friends through it either because you approach them to help you, or because you have joined a bigger team to make the project happen. It brings a social group with it, and that makes you more attractive. You often may meet people through this that because they specifically also share a love for the project, will be even more gagging to jump your bones because you embody this. Having a project fends of depression, inactivity, laziness and a whole host of unwanted qualities that could other wise illuminate your eligibility as a fuck buddy in the eyes of a potential suitor. It is the rudder with which you can use to guide yourself through bad times, the foundation that gives you something solid to stand on during your inevitable life storms.

If you want to have women banging at your door – consider finding a project, if you don’t already have one. It will genuinely make your life better as well as make you more attractive.