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Your hotness level matters less with a fuck buddy, not more

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 23:47:26 +0000

30 Apr 2021 - 00:47 | Tags: how to be hot, how to get laid, looks and sex

When it comes to the adult dating world and the selection of a fuck buddy, looks matter. The first thing that we do is look at the other person and wonder to ourselves – do I want to have sex with that person? How we look is the main driving factor for this superficial level of sexual desire and attractiveness. So do looks make a difference? Of course they do! If you are super hot, you are going to have more people who want to sleep with you than if you are not. There are also studies that have shown that we associate attractiveness with people being “better” or “nicer” and this leads more attractive people to having better jobs, earning more money, even getting better interest rates on loans. The list is endless in that respect. However, there is an important distinction to make here, not being hot does not reduce your chances of having sex with a fuck buddy. Allow me to explain.

With a long term relationship, there are so many things that are being considered. Do I want to be with this person long term? Can I have kids with this person? Do I want to love, support and invest in this person? Can I introduce this person to my friends and family? Due to all of this, how the person looks makes a much bigger difference on your choice to sleep with them. With a fuck buddy none of this matters. You are not going to introduce this person to your friends and family, you do not have to love and support them for years to come. You are not going to grow old with them, nor are you going to pass on their genetic seed to any children you may have. This means that when it comes to looks, it is not about being super hot, it is actually more about not being super unattractive!

As long as you are over a certain threshold of looks by that person’s standards, you can have sex. For a lot of people that bar is actually set quite low due to the low investment and pressure of the fuck buddy relationship agreement. During times of sexual drought, that bar is lowered even further.

So if you are not a super model, if you are not a 10/10 and you do not have a 6 pack, don’t worry about it. Nor do the millions of other people that are going to have sex this very day, and it has not gotten in their way! So set aside your fears, get out there and go and get what you want.

Things to say to guarantee your male fuck buddy keeps coming back for more!

EdBennett — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 00:59:04 +0000

19 Jan 2021 - 00:59 | Tags: how to be hot, can you have a long term fuck buddy, keeping your man

There are times in our lives when we are rich in some areas and poor in others. With the global coronavirus pandemic, it has become much harder to find a fuck buddy during times of lockdown and reduced social contact. This has meant that when we do have a fuck buddy it has become more important to have them come back for second helpings! Well, if your fuck buddy is a man, there are some things that you can say when in bed with them to ensure that they come begging for more each time!

Ready for round 2?!

This phrase works so hard! It tells your fuck buddy that you had a great time and that you want more. It tells them that you want them now. It also suggest, subtley, that there are more than 2 rounds. “Ready for round 2” suggests that there is a round 3 and 4! This is a great phrase – try it.

Spank me!

Getting the odd spank across the naked buttocks stimulates blood flow and has been shown to increase arousal levels. Inviting your fuck buddy to do so is giving them permission to take an intimate step that is great for both of you. So help your fuck buddy be, and feel, sexy with this little invitation.

I give you permission to wake me up if you are horny.

What a wonderful thing to say to a fuck buddy. It tells them that as their friends with benefits, you are going to be there for them. Even if they don’t take you up on it, the invitation will make them want to be hard and horny for you.

I want you to choke me with your dick

Men love getting blow jobs. A quality fuck buddy will give them, whether they are into them or not. So if you are going to give them, why not enhance the experience for the man by really making him feel that you really want to give him one? Whether you really want the full choking part, saying this will drive him wild for you.

That, was, perfect

If you had a good time, tell your fuck buddy. They are not a mind reader, and even if you expressed it physically whilst you were together, it never hurts to be explicit that you enjoyed yourself. Even if they knew already, they will glow with pleasure from being told.

Show me a man with a project, and I will show you a man women will fight to fuck

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Mar 2016 13:06:35 +0000

20 Mar 2016 - 13:06 | Tags: too many fuck buddies, being attractive, how to be hot

As men, when we look to increase our attractiveness to the opposite sex, the first thing that springs to our mind is always physical appearance. How do I look? Am I handsome? Am I muscled? If I am over weight then can I loose the fat? Now I have to be careful here, physical attractiveness plays its part in the dating market place for sure. If you are so over weight you need a fork lift truck to leave the house you aren’t going to be very attractive and ought to do something about it. However, spending time and effort to get a six pack is just not worth it – unless you are doing it purely for yourself of course. Once you are looking lets say reasonable, the best thing you can do is find a project.

As a man in the sexual market place, as long as you look “alright” or above, the big thing that is going to make you attractive to women is if you have agency. If you are someone who can make things happen, someone who appears to be in control of their life, is pursuing the things that they want to pursue and is driving towards a goal of their choosing. The best way of doing this is to have a project.

A modern day philosopher once said “show me a man with a project, and there I will show you a happy man”. The act of having a project does a multitude of positive things for your life and your sex life. When you have a project, you are someone who is driving towards something. You become a man that knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to pursue it. When you have a project you often end up finding friends through it either because you approach them to help you, or because you have joined a bigger team to make the project happen. It brings a social group with it, and that makes you more attractive. You often may meet people through this that because they specifically also share a love for the project, will be even more gagging to jump your bones because you embody this. Having a project fends of depression, inactivity, laziness and a whole host of unwanted qualities that could other wise illuminate your eligibility as a fuck buddy in the eyes of a potential suitor. It is the rudder with which you can use to guide yourself through bad times, the foundation that gives you something solid to stand on during your inevitable life storms.

If you want to have women banging at your door – consider finding a project, if you don’t already have one. It will genuinely make your life better as well as make you more attractive.