F Buddy - getting laid

Seek sex, and you will find

EdBennett — Mon, 28 May 2018 14:48:04 +0000

In life they say seek, and you will find. Sure, this works when you are looking for groceries, or a light. Does this really work for sex? In short, yes. Yes it does. If you can accept that, then you can stop reading this now and go get laid. If you need a little more convincing, then read on and I’ll explain this in a little more detail.

We see what we look for

Try an experiment. Have a look around the room. Go on, try it right. Take 30 seconds to look at where you are right now. Done? Now close your eyes and count in your mind the number of red things you can think of. NO CHEATING! Do it now!!! Done? Okay, how many did you get? Now look around the room and count how many red things there are around you. There are a lot more than you thought right? This is because your mind looks for that which we tell it to. Now that you are looking for red things, you notice more of them, but before you were looking for them, you saw hardly any of them. This is the way that it works. Have you ever decided to buy a motorbike, and suddenly all you can see is motorbikes everywhere? The number of bikes on the road have not increased, but now that your brain knows that this is what you are looking for, you are more attuned to be able to find it.

Recognise that you want sex, and you will see ways to get it

The same works for getting laid. If you can recognise that you want to get laid, then you will start to notice people that you can sleep with everywhere that you go. The greater the number of opportunites you can see, the more likely you are to be able to make something happen. Finding a fuck buddy or getting a hook up is a numbers game. You have to be willing to try and hit on a lot more people than you want to sleep with in order to make it work. It’s just the way it is. Maybe people in the movies sleep with everyone that they want to, but that is simply not the way that works in real life.

Embrace it

You have to really embrace it to make it work. Know that you want sex, and you will increase your chances of finding it. Seek sex, and you will find.

How to hook up with a Student for a flirty fling!

EdBennett — Fri, 27 Apr 2018 16:16:13 +0000

27 Apr 2018 - 17:16 | Tags: student sex, how to get sex, getting laid

If you have ever wanted a quick hook up, I can highly recommend having one with a student at some point. It is fun, easy, nearly always comes with no strings attached as standard issue, and can lead to a really nice fuck buddy set up if you find the right person. They are also really easy to set up. So here are some top tips on how to have sex with a student, by getting a quick hook up with one!

Why students are great

They are usually in a town that they do not live in, and will not stay in. This means that it simulates the being on holiday vibe a little, what goes on holiday stays on holiday. It means that they are able to potentially do things that they wouldn’t normally do, and push past their comfort zone. This includes having sex more easily. They are only there at term time, so the hook up has a guaranteed sell by date, which means they are more likely to go with what they have now, and there is a feeling of seize the day. They are in the learning phase, so still very open to all sorts of exciting adventures including… you!

Get in the right environment

This is the most important thing. Get into the right environment. Go to where ever students go and hang out. This is 50% of the work, and it is not even work! Go to a couple of student nights, or join a student club, it doesn’t matter how, you just want the exposure.

Find an in

The easiest “in” is if you have a mate who is studying. This gives you a legitimate reason to be there and to hang out. This is the in that I would recommend. An even better one, but takes much more work, is to put yourself in a position of authority or knowledge. For example, go run a workshop, or start a club and lead it. Something like this makes you very attractive, and at that point you are the leader of the pack. This is a great thing to do, and if you have the time to put in, you should do this. It is also really fun, as you can run the thing that you are most interested in doing anyway, and thus meet people who are into the same things as you.

Go for it!

Go for it! Take action, ask for numbers, go on dates and kiss people. This is the most important part of it, and without this you will get nowhere. So remember that fortune favours the bold!

Up your admin skills to get laid more

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Jul 2017 20:32:03 +0000

28 Jul 2017 - 21:32 | Tags: getting laid, how to get more sex, finding hookups

I wrote an article here about how to appear more attractive to the opposite sex. In it I outlined the many ways in which you can change your appearance in order to make people want you more on a surface level. Whilst to some people this may appear to be shallow, dating and sex is a shallow thing, so let’s just accept this and move on! The bottom line is that when someone is looking for a fuck buddy, the thing that they are going to look at first above and beyond anything else it, well, how you look. That is the gateway. After that there may be many other things as well, such as whether you are sexually compatible, do you share a similar taste of things you like to do in the bedroom, is the physical attraction strong enough to make you want to pursue the other person for more than just the first hookup that you have? All these things are things you can only find out once you have been sleeping with the other person, they can not be worked out before the hook up itself, so don’t let this hold you back.

What can hold you back however is lack of admin skills. What am I talking about you ask? Allow me to elaborate on this.

Good Admin plays a huge role in the early days

The first step to making someone into your fuck buddy is to get them into bed with you. This can not be done online, the only way is to meet up with them physically. So the first major barrier is that first meet up... and this is where good admin skills can come into play.

You want to cultivate a feeling of trust and desire in the run up to the meeting to ensure that it happens. Keeping timely text messaging can play a big part of this, and there are tools that you can use to help this:

Alarms on phones as a reminder to call
Use text message schedualing in order to ensure that a text message is sent the next day without you having to think about it.
Use google calenders or other time schedualling methods to keep track of when you have made contact, how many days it has been, and thus optimise the gaps between messaging to strike the perfect balance between messaging too much like a stalker and just leaving so big a gap that you seem uninterested.

Then book a date!

Again this is admin. Take the hard work out of it by being the one to suggest a time and place to meet. If you take care of this, the date is so much more likely to happen as there is a specific time and place. When you dream it, it may happen. When you schedule it, it does happen!

So get on top of your admin and get laid more! This is an easy way to up your sex game, so just do it. Why not send a few messages right no to start as you mean to go on?

Getting laid at conventions

EdBennett — Fri, 30 Jun 2017 08:03:58 +0000

30 Jun 2017 - 09:03 | Tags: getting laid, pulling, getting sex

The world of conventions is both niche and vast! I am completely new to them, and have only just attended my first ever convention this month. They are filled with activities, talks, opportunities to bag yourself some free stuff... all of which are great if you are interested in the subject. If you are not interested in the conventions theme in some way, you are going to hate it. Don’t go.

Like any large gathering there are of course going to be women there! You may find that the ratio of men to women is somewhat uneven, however there are girls. So if you go to a convention and want to get laid, what are the ways of increasing your chances of doing this?

Get there on time or even early

When people first arrive they don’t know anyone. They are excited to be there so their emotions are heightened, and they have yet to meet new interesting people or align themselves with any particular group or clique. This is the perfect time to say hello. They will want to meet you, want to enthuse about being there, and this makes forming connection super easy because the emotion is already heightened, and they are going to do most of the work for you. So get there early, and get meeting people.

Stay in the same hotel

Conventions seem to generally run in hotels, and there is usually accommodation in the actual hotel for guests as well as the people running the sessions. Logistics can be the difference between getting laid, and not getting laid, so do your groundwork and make sure that you have somewhere to stay preferably on location, if not as close as possible. To clarify, you need somewhere private to drag your lovely pretty thing once you have found them.

Attend the Adult sessions

There are sometimes “adult” themed sessions later in the evening where you can getan intro into something kinky, learn a little rope play, or something of that nature. Go to these sessions, if there is someone single there, they are perfect and want sex. A good example is there is usually some kind of shibari or rope play workshop. If you turn up with your own rope thus showing you know what you are doing, you will be more attractive!

Get a costume

A great costume is an easy way to buy status in that environment as well as make friends. It works as a great opener as you will find that girls are coming up and talking to you, making the whole thing much easier.

If you have never been to a convention, I highly recommend them. Geeky girls make great bed fellows!

Stop procrastinating and come and get laid!

EdBennett — Wed, 28 Sep 2016 19:37:56 +0000

28 Sep 2016 - 20:37 | Tags: how to get sex, how to get laid, getting laid

You want to have sex. You know you want to get laid, and you are super keen on finding someone you can fuck... but you have done nothing about it for some reason. Why? You ask yourself? Well you have all the reasons to hand. You haven’t gotten around to signing up to an online dating site, or you mean to book into a dating event or singles night, but you are going to do it next month rather than this month as you are busy with work. There are a string of quick to quote reasons why you are currently not having sex, but the real reason is simpler. You are procrastinating from taking action. If you are doing this right now, let me talk you through what is going on in your head, because we have all been there and it is time to get out the woods and get laid.

So its been a bit since you had sex, and you decide to be smart and do something about it. No one else can do anything about it for you, you know this, so you are going to sort it out yourself like everyone else has. You go online and make the smart decision to do some online hook ups. SO far you are doing great – meeting someone online is one of the smartest fastest ways to meet someone these days. The systems are great, the girls are hot and actually real, and its worked for a bunch of other people so you know it can also work for you. You make it as far as f-buddy and so far so good, you maybe even set up a profile... but you never get to the stage where you start messaging people, and without this crucial last step you have zero chance of meeting someone. So why not?

The procrastination monkey has come and kicked in. It doesn’t want you to do anything but play and do things that bring instant gratification – things that make you feel good now. It can not see into the future at all. So it distracts you, makes you do other things, tells you that your profile isn’t ready yet, or better to do it next week, or no one ever responds to a message sent on a Friday. It will say anything to keep you from taking action. In other parts of your life like work, you have a deadline to force you to do something. You may take action and do something only just before the deadline looms in a panic, but you take action. With this there is no deadline – and here in lies your issue! There will never be a deadline to get laid.

So recognise this and take action now. The way to get over it is to take a small step. Send one message, one message is all it takes. That becomes 2, then 3 and before you know you have a naked girl in your bedroom bent over in front of you and you are fucking her from behind... but it all starts with a first step. Send a message, stop procrastinating. Do it now.

Know what you want – don’t be afraid to choose it

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Aug 2016 16:58:47 +0000

28 Aug 2016 - 17:58 | Tags: being attractive, being alpha, getting laid

This article is a relationship management article – it presumes that you already have a girl/boy that is either a long / short term relationship, a fuck buddy, a part timer or even someone you are just starting to date. This advice will not help you find someone – it will however help you get laid / be attractive / keep that person in your life for as long as you want them in your life.

This is about being attractive. No there are many things that will make someone attractive. The obvious one is the way they look, and there are some things you can do about this. Watch what you eat, get some exercise on a regular basis, and develop some fashion sense! Genetics gives you what you have, it is up to you how you present that to the world.

Other things will affect your attractiveness based on the other person – it really does depend on what you are looking for in someone and what they are looking for in you. It is not worth thinking too hard about these elements, focus on finding someone who likes however you are built in this way – not changing those things to meet with the expectations of someone else. So what is the one of the big things that you can do that will keep you attractive to someone of the opposite sex?

Know what you want, and ask for it. Once you are with someone in some capacity, and it really doesn’t matter if you are married or if it is a fuck buddy, the same rule of strength applies. The other person wants to be with someone who knows what they want and goes for it. Someone with some strength, some metal to their character. Now I am not saying you have to be a high flyer business person, I am just saying don’t be a push over. One way to express this is to know what you want, and to ask for it.

If you are going out and you want to have pizza, they ask where do you want to eat, you have 2 choices of response:

I don’t mind – where do you want to go?
I really want pizza. I know a great local place that does the best dough balls as starter, fancy that?

The first one is limp and unattractive. The second one is strong, attractive and the other person will be grateful for being with someone who has an opinion. They will like you more for it, and the best part is you also get to eat what you want – pizza! Bonus, right?

This applies across the board to all sorts of stuff, and in fact in all areas of your life. You aren’t always going to know what you actually want, so you can’t implement it all the time like this, but when you do, ask for it. You get what you want, and the other person will want to fuck you more for it, not less.

Multiple Venues – the golden rule of a night out to end with Sex

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 18:29:50 +0000

28 Jun 2016 - 19:29 | Tags: getting laid, how to have sex on the first date

There is a lot of rubbish that you don’t have to deal with when it comes to having an f-buddy. You don’t have to lie about anything – you have a clear agreement that means you can be super honest with each other about everything. You don’t have the commitment, which means you can spend your time and resource wherever you want to regardless of the other person. You haven’t close the door on anything, if you go on holiday and meet someone you are free and able to do whatever you want. As there is no long term commitment in place you also don’t actually stop making an effort. When you are married you are locked in, so if you are a bit shit to the other person they have to stick around. When you are a fuck buddy, if you are a bit shit then the other person will leave. This ensures that both sides are good to each other. The set up is fantastic.

One of things you don’t have to mess about with if you don’t want to is the whole dating thing. There is a whole lot of uncertainty and smoke and mirrors with dating. You never know how it is going to end, how it pans out, and you certainly don’t know if sex is waiting for you on the other side of things. So in a situation where you are on a night out and you want to get laid, how can you make this happen? There are lots of really good things you can do to help ensure this – but there is one golden rule that I swear by.

Multiple venues – 3 is the charm
Whether you are out in a traditional dating set up, or you are meeting an old or new potential fuck buddy, you know you want to have sex at the end of the night. The one thing you can do is do 3 venues. See everytime you change venue, the brain sees it as a new experience. The new place brings with it a sense of a new day, a new thing, a new experience. Even moving from one pub to the next has this effect. What that leaves you with is a change to make one night out feel like 3 nights out, and everyone knows what happens on the third date... right?!

Always do 3 venues, and your chances of ending the night in bed are more than tripled.

Winners have sex – is it really the case?

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 10:25:43 +0000

20 Jun 2016 - 11:25 | Tags: sex and money, guys not getting the casual sex is their own fault, getting laid

There is a huge connection between being a “winner” and getting laid. We all know this to be true, and in fact a surprisingly large proportion of our society is actually based around this fact. Whether our world is set up to drive the connection between winning and getting laid, or if indeed getting laid and winner have always been connected and our community moulded itself around this after the fact is something that I cannot answer in this article. All I can talk about it how it effects us NOW – which is frankly also the more useful thing to cover.

There are some exceptions of course, but for most of us if we had no job, no money, just spent our time lying around watching Netflix and doing no actual work at all, most people would look on us as losers. We would be looked down upon, people would think us useless and worthy of no respect for our life choices. We certainly would have trouble getting laid!

Take the opposite now. Someone has a high flying all consuming city job. They rise at 6am – get in a suit and work 12 hour days. They make a ton of money, drive a flash car, eat at expensive restaurants and spend without considering the costs (as to them the cost is minimal). They spend little to no time with their friends and families, their lives are consumed by the rat race. Now that person IS getting laid a lot – or so we are told. They are seen as desirable, attractive, a person that is a “catch”. They are “winners” and they get sex.

This is what we are told, and this is the way that our world is structured. It is set up to try and reward the productive working drones and punish those that contribute nothing. On the face of it this is true, and most people agree that the above is true. That “winning” gets you laid. I would like to point out one (and only one) simple flaw in this.

The person with the 12 hour working day has no time to spend his money. He doesn’t have the space to capitalise in on it and enjoy a high quality of life!

The person with no job may have no money, but so much if free these days he can have a really high quality of day to day life and enjoyment that he doesn’t need the money. He also has the time to get laid! The other guy doesn’t – but this guy does.

So this begs the question – are the winners really getting laid more that the other guys, or are they just doing it less but in more expensive beds?