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An introduction to using rope to have kinky sex

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Jun 2017 10:29:36 +0000

12 Jun 2017 - 11:29 | Tags: BDSM, kinky sex

Kinky sex has started to become a little more main stream – in many ways it feels like in a few decades time what is currently considered a little taboo and “naughty” might end up becoming just normal playing between adults! This does beg the question, how much of the enjoyment comes from the element of it being outside of the norm, of it being about pushing boundaries and being naughty. If it became normal would it a get a little boring, a little normal and therefore not that fun? From what I have experienced, I do not think that this is the case, I think that the act of being restrained is intrinstically powerful, and for a woman who is into it, will remain sexy regardless of how we start to view it as a society.

A beginners guide to tying up a girl

If you are new to the act of kicky sex, but are thinking about having a go, before jumping in there are a few things that are worth know. I am going to try and take you through a few basics here.

The rope: There are different types of rope, and it is really worth knowing this. Until you start thinking about it a rope is a rope, but there is a big difference between a nylon rope which feels a little smooth and plastic against the skin (which isn’t that nice) verses a good hemp rope that feels rough and real (much better!). Choose your rope well.
Learn some knots first: There are some great videos online, it is really worth learning a few knots before you get in and try it. I would advise learning one knot really well, rather than 5 badly. Actually you really only need one! So master one first, and expand your ability as you get more into it.
Safety – buy a pair of surgeon scissors: There is a very small chance of something going wrong, and in that event you want to be able to immediately release everything. A pair of surgeon scissors are the exact thing to have on hand. They cut through everything, and cost less than a cup of coffee on Ebay, so pick some up so that you never have to use them.
Get a safety word: This is important because it allows you to not worry about pushing things too far. If you do, they can stop it quickly and easily. This is a real must.
Try it! This is the most important step!!! Get in there and give it a go, it is the only way to learn, and trust me, learning is really fun!!!!

Have fun – stay safe – be experimental!

Using Candles during sex – and for more than just lighting!

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Aug 2016 19:55:31 +0000

20 Aug 2016 - 20:55 | Tags: kinky sex, candles in sex, play in the bedroom

Candles are brilliant, like really really great. They have a whole load of really positive effects on your sex life at such little cost and effort! In my earlier article that I wrote about using candles during sex I covered all the great reasons that you should be getting and lighting up some flame before you rip the clothes from your eagerly awaiting fuck buddy and show her a great time. I covered the more vanilla elements of it. The heat that it gives off, the way you look better in good lighting and how you will be more turned on because your fuck buddy will also look better in the flattery setting that candles provide. I even talked about how cheap they are! What I did not cover as one f-buddy member wrote in and pointed out, is there during sex as a sex toy. I would like to correct this immediately by covering this now.

Candles are an amazingly fun thing to play around with during sex. There is something really primeval about having sex, there is something base and almost caveman about having a really good fuck. When you really take someone, there is nothing like it for both of you. Flame and fire is the same. There is something primordial, base and powerful about fire and flame. It taps into that same unstoppable power that isn’t created by man – it existed before we did and will be around after we are gone. It taps into that same powerful nature, and as such it an excellent complimentary element to have in your space when you want to have really great sex.

So how would you use them? Well firstly you can use the heat. The skin responds to the touch of the other person, and varying that can be very powerful. If you hold your hand above a candle for a few seconds your hand will quickly heat up. Apply that warmed hand or fingers to a nipple and see the reaction, put your fingers somewhere more sensitive and you will get an even more powerful response!

You can also use the wax to “burn” your partner. The thing about wax is that it feels really hot – burning hot – but it cools so quickly on the skin that actually it leaves almost no marks and actually does no damage to the skin. Thus you can “burn” your partner without actually hurting them at all. It is really fun – for both of you.

So grab some candles and get them (and your sex life) burning!

Fabricated Fornication: Rubber, Latex and Leather

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Jul 2016 16:05:13 +0000

22 Jul 2016 - 17:05 | Tags: kinky sex, BDSM, dressing up

So you have done the usual sexy clothes. If you are a guy you have been out with your best pressed shirt and shined shoes, you have also been out looking “casual” like you threw on some jeans and a t-shirt whilst in the back of your heading know that you actually spent an hour agonising over what to wear and if the jeans looked casual enough or not! If you are a girl you have experienced all the attention one gets when you go out in a boob tube and a short skirt, as well as the attention you can also wield in a long dress depending on the setting you are in. So you know what it is like to get some attention, and for most of you, you enjoyed it. Have you ever done this in a much less vanilla way however?

Going off the tracks a little you have a whole world waiting for you filled with material you have never tried. For those of you who have, I applaud your adventurous nature! For those of you who haven’t, I am here to tell you why you should be considering a step into wearing something a little more racy.

Rubber, Latex and leather have always been associated with anything from unstoppable sexiness to slutty and smuttiness. It is the realm of naughty sex, of hard fucking, of pushing the boundaries of what is acceptable in the bedroom to area’s where were the two adults not consenting, then one would almost certainly face jail time. It is about accessing your primal urges of see want take, of fucking like an animal – something that both men and women enjoy equally. So why do it?

When you put on rubber or latex, it acts like a costume. It is a material you never otherwise wear, and look you never otherwise have. This alteration of look and feel combined, allows you to step into being another version of yourself. You are still you, but you can be a different side of you. Perhaps that side is super dominant, or perhaps that side of you is submissive. Perhaps that ‘you’ wants to be thrown around, or punished, or taken ‘against’ your will, or perhaps that side of you wants to be the one to throw someone around, punish them or take them ‘against’ their will. I put the word ‘against’ in quotation marks because of course in the same way that the clothing acts as a costume to allow you to play a version of yourself, it remains play. Both people of course must be into it, and so no one is really ever taken against their actual will, they have consented to be taken in the first place. See the article on consent.

So if you want to try and step into another side of yourself, a way to do this would be to wear some material that you have never worn before. Rubber, Latex and Leather all come with a history and association of pushing the boundaries in the bedroom, so I highly recommend that you give them a go!

Using candles to make things hotter in the bedroom

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:28:36 +0000

12 Jul 2016 - 18:28 | Tags: sex games, better sex guide, kinky sex

So you have a fuck buddy and everything is great. You are having a really time with her/him, you think they are hot, they think you are hot, you have brilliant sex together, all in well in the world. You have gotten past the first fuck stage (the first time is never great – too many nerves and being unsure of the other persons lines and positions etc etc) and you are into the have great sex section. You have started to mix up the sex positions, you haven’t only done missionary, you have found a real love of doggy style, or the reverse cowgirl or another position that just seems to work really well for the two of you. Things are going brilliantly... but you still would like to hot things up in the bedroom a little more. Well I have a really nice solution for you... candles.

Candles are brilliant for all sorts of reasons. Their affect on sex is largely underrated, and there it is about more than just lighting – thought that is important and makes a really big difference. Allow me to take you through their uses.

Everyone looks better in mood lighting

How the other person looks makes a big difference to how turned on you get – and the same is true for them. The better that you look the more turned on they get. Candles are brilliant for this. They give off a natural soft mood lighting that makes everyone look sexier! Lines, wrinkles, even large amounts of fat deposits all vanish under the warming soft glow of a candle. So go light a candle.

They heat the room ready for being naked

The cold can be a real mood killer. If you undress and get cold you immediately regret getting rid of your warming jumper. Being cold can really kill the libido, it is easier to come when comfortable and relaxed, and being cold brings tension into the body. Candles give off heat, and if you have a number of them lit, they can really heat the room up to a high temperature.... making the room a perfect place to get yoru kit off and get down and dirty!

They show preparation and effort – without having to make an effort

How hard is it to put some candles and light them? It is piss easy is what it is. Yet it still tells the other person that you have made an effort! It is a huge EASY win!

They are cheap

Night lights are super cheap – they cost bugger all. Pick some up from Ikea and you are ready to go!

So get some candles going in your bedroom and get that heat turned up for a fucking good night. Literally.