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How to have amazing sex part 8: Competition brings out the best in us

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 18:56:00 +0000

20 Mar 2017 - 18:56 | Tags: how to have amazing sex

As humans we are naturally competitive. It is sown into our very nature. Our very existence is based on being competitive enough to be able to “win” ie survive! Those that lost this or lacked the competitive nature to push hard enough to survive, well, died! This means that for a long time many with zero competitive nature simply did not live long enough to have kids with the same nature as them. That is not to say that we are all the same, that we are all clones! We have this nature to different degrees and strengths, and they can also manifest in very different ways. Someone who seems very non competitive when you first meet them may just have a certain area of his or her life where that really comes up. Some people are really relaxed at work, but put them in a kitchen to cook a dinner and suddenly it *has* to be the best meal that anyone has ever tasted in their life. So how can competition help your sex life you wonder. Well allow me to elaborate on this in order to hep you have amazing sex.

In our previous articles on how to have amazing sex, we covered everything from emotional release through to why you should sweat for sex. Here I would like to share with you the addition a bit of competition can make to your sex life. We all want it, why not get it.

It turns out that according to science, competition between couples can quickly help their sex lives on an actual chemical level. It can physically change and alter how the body is reacting in order to make them more attracted to each other, and therefore have better sex.

Competition increases libido-boosting testosterone and the feel-good chemical dopamine - both of which fuel arousal and spark interest in your spouse - says Scott Haltzman, M.D.

So how can you take advantage of this? Easy – just make up reasons to have a little competitive edge before going to have sex! Have a race down the street to see who can make it home first. If you are watching TV, watch a quiz and keep personal scores to see who gets the most answers correctly before the end of the show. Play a game of thumb war, with a forfeit for the looser. Strip poker is a classic game that both uses the competition principle, but also acts to remove clothing from the person ready for them to have sex.

You don’t even have to pick from the above. Anything at all that you think you might want to try out, any excuse or fun thing where you pit yourself against each other can quickly help get that chemical spike that Scott Haltzman talks about, and help boost your sex life.

So want to have amazing sex? Then get a little competition going. See who can take their clothes off first. You won’t regret it.

How to have amazing sex part 7 - Sweat for Sex!

EdBennett — Mon, 27 Feb 2017 20:22:54 +0000

27 Feb 2017 - 20:22 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex fitness

We all want to be having the hottest most exciting sex that we possibly can! Why wouldn’t you? Want to know how to have amazing sex? Read on! There are many barriers to achieving this of course, the biggest one being trying to find a likeminded individual that you like the look of to have sex with! Luckily that’s where the f-buddy team come in of course. We help people connect. So once you have connected – how else can you ensure that you are going to have amazing sex with the person (or persons!) that you are sleeping with?

Heat and sex

We talk about things “heating up in the bedroom” all the time, or we will refer to a girl as being “hot”, “hot thing”, or “hot stuff”. We associate heat and sex all the time. Why is this? I think it is because there is a direct correlation between the two, for all sorts of reasons.

We like being naked when it is warm, but not when it is cold, so why would you have sex when it is freezing? As things heat up however, you start to get your mojo on a little!
When we get turned on, our blood starts moving in preparation for having sex, thus we physically start to feel warmer, hence she is hot = she is making me feel a little hot under the collar
Pheromones – we will talk more about this in a moment.

Sweat for sex

Most people want to sleep with someone who is physically clean, so showering regularly and keeping yourself tidy downstairs is going to help you get laid. However do not confuse this to think sweat is a bad thing! If you turn up smelling terrible from 2 hours of running, yes that is going to be a bit of a turn off for many people, however the act of getting hot and sweaty as you are having sex is a totally different story! Your own body heats up ready for sex, your sweat contains all important pheromones that can work to help turn the other person on! We are very visually focused these days, how we look is considered important, yet how we smell is completely forgotten about. The smells we produce whilst getting down and dirty are really key to a great sex life.

So don’t keep the A/C turned up if you have it, and don’t feel you need to keep yourself from getting sweaty. Allow your natural smells and sweat help you have an amazing sex life!

How to have amazing sex part 6: Make it a great story

EdBennett — Sun, 27 Nov 2016 13:56:15 +0000

27 Nov 2016 - 13:56 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex tips

As humans we communicate through stories – and whilst this may be an odd opening to an article about how to have amazing sex – bear with me on this, because this one is a doozy. We live our lives seeking all sorts of things, money, experience, pleasure, for some people they even seek pain. Whatever it is we seek, it is rooted in emotion, rooted in how we feel about certain things. We are ultimately seeking a **feeling** - and we have learned through our own experience and conditioning that this feeling that we seek can be found through certain actions, and certain ways of doing things. When we have those experiences, we then go on to tell our friends about them, we relate the story of what happened, what we did, what the outcome was... and of course how we felt during the journey. So how does this relate to sex you ask? Well make it a good story, and the sex will be better.

The story of “I met this guy in a club and we had sex” isn’t very exciting. The first time you do it, this story is enough, if you have never met someone and just gone and had sex with them without really knowing who they are, then this *is* exciting, and to you it is a good story. Your friends may be slightly shocked, and you certainly shocked yourself a little! Once it is in your comfort zone, once this is normal however, this ceases to be an exciting prospect, and the story stops being one that is a good one to you.

Now you know this – all you have to think about doing, is to make the story exciting! Mix it up, keep it real. If the story instead is “I met this guy in a club, he was a great dancer, there was instant connection, we ended up in the back alley fucking like animals it was so electric...” Now that is a story that is great. That is a story that makes the sex better.

Remember, the sex happens in the moment, but how we feel about the sex afterwards is actually as important, as it changes how good the sex was in out memories. A good story will ensure that the sex stays in the persons mind as a night of ultimate passion... and may leave them gagging for more.

How to have amazing sex part 5: Change something to make sex better or rekindle a dying fire

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Nov 2016 19:50:18 +0000

20 Nov 2016 - 19:50 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, good sex guide, sex advice

Okay so we all love sex. Even the people that say they don’t are lying. They do like sex, they just don’t want to say it. This could be for a number of reasons. Some people have real trouble getting laid so they want to lie to themselves about not wanting it in the first place, that way they are not a failure because they “didn’t want it anyway”. This is a little like being back in the playground at school when you didn’t want the ball anyway - just after someone stole the ball you were really enjoying playing with. It is a lie, but you go with it because it is better than the reality.

Some people have a partner, and the sex has gotten boring or worse still it is no longer even happening because things have gotten mundane. They have gotten so boring you both gave up. When this happens people are trapped in their situation, and they start to feel like maybe they didn’t really want to have sex anyway. Same lie, different reason. When this happens you have 3 choices:

Fix the problem somehow and start having great sex together

Start sleeping with someone else, either as an affair or you can be open about it and get a fuck buddy or another no strings attached relationship. If you take this route, I would go for the later of these two options. It always works out better in the longer term.

Break up.

What you can not do is stay where you are. Do not, under any circumstances stay still. That is ot a good place for either of you to be, so man up and do something about it, even though what you have to do may be one of the hardest things you have done in your life.

How to rekindle the fire / have better sex

So one of the top tips to have better sex – which can also be used to re kindle a dying fire, is change something. We all like stuff to be different, to change. We all like new things and variation. It is amazing what a difference even the smallest change can make. Buy a new outfit – don’t let her see – then take her out to dinner before fucking her brains out. Even you looking different to how she is used to can help you to stir things up. Making her look at you differently in any way will do the same thing – because it is different, it shakes things up. Don’t worry about the change being too small – anything will have an effect. The bigger the change, the larger it will stoke the sexual heat.

So go ahead and mix it up a little, you won’t regret it. More articles on how to have amazing sex here.

How to have amazing sex part 4: Emotional Release

EdBennett — Sun, 13 Nov 2016 11:45:38 +0000

13 Nov 2016 - 11:45 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex advice

We all want to have amazing sex. I mean really, really great sex.... and the reason is that it is so good to start with. Even what one might consider to be “bad” sex is actually quite good in comparison to other activities because sex itself is great! We were born to have sex, the way we have evolved is to help us have more sex. If someone had a trait that meant they were going to get laid less, then that would quickly be bread out of the human race... because that person wouldn’t get laid and so they would have no kids! Even the way that we build the world we live in today is partly sex driven. The earning of money, the desire for cool clothes, the fast cars, the nice watches... all of it serves to allow people to show how valuable they are – and therefore get laid! Now we live in a more enlightened society, the introduction of the contraceptive pill along with the acceptance of sex outside of marriage means that we can now get laid whenever we like with little to no negative repercussions. In fact, most people have a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits on the side in cases of sexual emergency already! If they don’t then they come here and grab one. So since sex is so easily available now, here is top tip number 4 on how to have amazing sex.

Go for the emotional release

Sex is great for a lot of things. It is good for your health, releases happy hormones; it even burns calories which helps you loose weight! Included in this is a release of tension. In our day to day lives we can get filled up with tension, muscles can tighten, heads get stressed out, emotions get bound up into a tight knotted ball. How can we release this? Why have sex of course. Here’s the best part – it makes the sex better!

The emotional build makes it better

It’s not just about using the sex as a vehicle to release emotional tension; it is also about using the tension as a vehicle to make the sex better! This really does work! All the tension balled up inside inspires a driving desire for the sex, which means that when it actually happens, the sex is amazing! Water to a thirsty man always tastes better than to a man who has drunk his fill.

So next time you are feeing stressed out, het up, frustrated – consider using that and getting laid immediately! You might find it not only helps the issues, but that the sex is brilliant.

How to have amazing sex: Part 3 Their joy is your joy

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Oct 2016 16:08:14 +0000

28 Oct 2016 - 17:08 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, great sex, being better in bed

Welcome to the f-buddy blog, where we make sure that when you find your friend with benefits and you come to fuck them, that you not only fuck them good, you have an amazing time yourself! We understand here at f-buddy that it’s not only about quantity; it’s about quality as well. There is something to be said for having lots of sex with lots of different women, and I am all for it! In fact many people here on this site take that exact approach, with the blessings and encouragement of each of the women that they are sleeping with. We are not anti that at all, and there is no reason you cannot have quantity and quality, as many of the men here stand as evidence that this is all too possible. So how can you make sure that you have not just good sex, but great sex?

In part’s 1 and part 2 we talked about the importance of trying to find the things that are usually around / happening when you have great sex. Once you identify these things, just work to bring them into the mix again each time you go on to have more sex and you are more likely to go from good to great sex pretty quickly. Given that each person is different, it stands to reason that for each person a different thing will make them have great sex. However there are some common things that most people say work for them, and that’s what we cover here. In parts 1 and 2 we spoke about emotion and horniness. Here’s the next step:

Make them come hard – and you will come harder!

The altruistic thing of “your joy is my joy” is a romantic notion that is not really appropriate for the fuck buddy field... or is it? Well here is the thing, it seems that one of the keys to amazing sex for most people is that the other person is having an amazing time. When the other person is really turned on, that makes you in turn more turned on making it better for you. It is also way more than even that! When the other person is really coming hard, and you know that they are going to come hard, that is when you can really relax. That is the moment you can truly and deeply let go of everything and really orgasm yourself. You know that the other person is sorted, that they are having a great time, so that leaves space for YOU to relax and have a great time.

Turn them on, work on making sure they are loving it, and damn you will love it even more as a result.

How to have amazing sex: Part 2 – Horniness

EdBennett — Thu, 20 Oct 2016 17:03:14 +0000

20 Oct 2016 - 18:03 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, great sex, getting good in bed

If you didn’t read part 1 of this series of articles on how to have amazing sex, you can read it by clicking on the link to the article. Welcome back to the f-buddy blog, where we cover all sorts of topics about sex and how to fuck like a porn star so that you can make sure you make the most of your time in bed when you pick up your f-buddy though this website. What’s the point in having found a friend with benefits if you then can’t really enjoy your time together?

We are here talking about ways of making sure you have more of your amazing sex sessions, rather than simply the good sex sessions. In part 1 of this series we spoke about the key being to identify the key elements that appear in all of your great sex sessions. If you can work out what it is that is making your sex great, what seems to always be in the mix when you have the best sex that you can have, you can then try and make sure that these things are around every time that you get laid, thus increasing the amount of times that you have amazing sex! Simple really... well it is simple once you know what it is that really works for you. It is different for everyone, but here we are covering the more common ones, the things that seem to crop up for most people. In the last article we talked about emotion. Let’s crack into another one here in part 2.

Your horniness levels:

If you are a man, you could probably have sex most of the time. I mean no matter where you are or what time of day it is or even night, if a bunch of sexy girls in bikini’s came running in to where ever you are, sat on your lap, stroked your head, generally giggled a lot around you whilst touching you, it wouldn’t take long before you were ready and more than willing to have sex with one or all of them... I would estimate around 40seconds (and only that long because I think that’s how long it would take you to acclimatise to that fact that this is happening and you are not asleep dreaming this whole thing!). So you can have sex almost any time... but are you really turned on? Do your really want it? The same as food to a hungry man tastes better, sex to a super horney man is the same. There are 2 obvious ways of doing this:

Abstain for a time:

This will leave you gaging for it. I would not recommend this as a tactic, but it does work.

Really want to fuck the other person

Fuck someone that you really want to fuck, I mean properly. Don’t pick the girl that you think is easy, pick the girl that makes you really want to rip all her clothes off and put her against a wall there and then, the girl that makes you want to bend her over and take her from behind without any warning what so ever. That is the better approach.

How to have amazing sex: Part 1 – emotion

EdBennett — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 18:59:13 +0000

11 Oct 2016 - 19:59 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, sex is great, great sex, getting good at sex

When we think about sex, we generally think of it in physical terms. You meet someone, you get hard, you start to think that you really want to fuck them... then hopefully you end up fucking them. I mean that’s certainly what generally happens here at f-buddy, because everyone is here for the same thing, they all want to get laid, it generally results in everyone, well, getting laid!

So when people think about the times they have great sex, they remember it being good, but they rarely think about why it was good. What made it really good sex, as opposed to the times when sex was simply just alright, okay, or felling good but not great. This is what I am going to be talking about right now.

So let’s think back to the times that the sex was really good, and I mean better than good, I am talking the times you had great sex. What are the consistent regular factors? What are the elements that are the same every time, the things that are always there... because these are the ingredients that make up great sex for you. They are different for everyone, however there are some really common ones that cross over to many people. So here are some of the common things:

Emotion

This is the biggest one. There was a strong emotion at the time that you had the sex. I say this carefully, because it does not have to be an emotion that is on the theoretical list of “good” emotions. Most people think only “good emotions” build connections, important memories, strong experiences that we crave... actually this is incorrect. It is not good emotions that build it, it is more simply strong emotions. If when you have sex there is a strong emotion of *any* kind, this will make the sex feel stronger – and therefore contribute towards having great sex. For some people this can mean the emotion is “love” or extreme “lust” or any other more positive emotion. However it can equally be angry, pain driven, or even a desire to hurt or whilst feeling hurt by the other person. This is one of the reasons break up sex can be so amazing. The emotions are so high, the strength of feeling is so strong, that the sex is inevitably more likely to be great sex. When the emotion is high, the sex is likely to be better.

Want to know more? Read the other parts of this series of articles on this blog!