F Buddy - being better in bed

Understand your fuck buddy: why people lie about what they want in bed

EdBennett — Sun, 31 Jul 2022 14:36:38 +0000

31 Jul 2022 - 15:36 | Tags: sex and lies, sex fantasies, being better in bed

Sex is a natural process and, frankly, everyone should be having more of it. I have said it before and I will say it again, if more people were having more sex, we would all be in a happier place! One way of increasing the quality of your sex is to understand it better. If you can understand your fuck buddy better, the better you can work to please each other more and more. Sex, whilst it really is a natural process, is also a complicated thing! Some people have studied it for a lifetime and never managed to learn everything about it. It has a complex science behind it… but when actioned best it is often approached as an art (with creativity). It is a powerful force as well. Let us not forget that ultimately Helen of Troy “the face that launched a thousand ships” to war was done so because one man wanted to have sex with a woman. To help you with this, here is something that you probably didn’t know about sex.

Ever wondered why people lie about what they really want in bed? Here is why.

Most people, during some points in their life (sometimes more), think that they are weird in regards to their sexual desires and wants. We all think that we are special snowflakes, that we are unusual. This is in the deep recesses of our hearts and you may need to dig really deep to discover it. It is there. This means that, if we think we are weird, that we can develop guilt about the fact that we are not normal when in reality we are universally deviant. To be abnormal is the norm. We are left in a place where to communicate what we want is to risk what the other person thinks of us. So we hold back for in truth the fear is justified and founded in reality. Nothing erotic is so with someone who isn’t “into it”. With the wrong person it is simple disgusting, horrible, detestible… and thus our sexual partner comes to detest us and even the most hardened of us will find pain and rejection in that. This is why it is hard to tell people what we really want…

…but if we can tell them we may find the solace that is sought. With two people coming together with an acceptance of the act, what can ensue is beautiful travesty. As both parties accept each other with their sexual desires as deviant as they may feel they are, and even more enact and embrace them, true extasy is found.

So if you wonder why you do not share even with your fuck buddy with whom you should be able to be open with sexually, this is why. This is also the reason to take the leap and do it anyway.

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How to be a sex god. Top sex advice for men (part 6)

EdBennett — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 20:48:30 +0000

31 Jan 2022 - 20:48 | Tags: how to be a sex god, being better in bed, British sex advice

Welcome to the fuck buddy website. If you are looking for a fuck buddy then you have come to the right place. We help our members meet other like-minded individuals in order to adult date. Adult dating has become bigger than ever in recent years. More and more people have a friends with benefits relationship set up, or another no strings attached relationship. Being able to “booty call” someone when you want to is the best. Everyone loves sex. If we were all having more of it, I think that there may finally be world peace!

Here we take it further though. We would like to help in ways beyond finding a fuck buddy. We would like to help you be a sex god. The better sex that you are having, the better sex your partner is having and ultimately the better time for all. Getting better in bed is a win-win. We have already run a series of articles on how to be a sex god. This is part 6 of the series. We will be exploring one key piece of advice that can take your sex to the next level.

Explore all erogenous zones, not just the obvious

It is natural to focus on the genitals when having sex and seeking to stimulate our fuck buddy. There is nothing wrong with this at all and it should be encouraged. That is a way to have good sex, maybe great sex, but if you want to be a sex god you have to expand your horizons. There are other erogenous zones that you can play with other than the genitals. Perhaps your fuck buddy might enjoy having their ear nibbles, or their neck stroked. Some people love the brush of a breast against a particular place, maybe an arm. Some women find nipple stimulation so arousing that it can literally bring them to orgasm! The key here is to learn what your fuck buddy likes, because it is different for different people. You can find this out in different ways. The trial and error approach is a good one. Try something and see what the results are. Make a mental note of what they like then repeat that! The other way is to just ask them. My personal approach is to combine the two. Do something (like stroke their neck) and ask at the same time “how does that feel” or “do you like that”.

So I urge you to expand your horizons and a sex god you will be!

Sex and sleep

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 22:29:28 +0000

28 Sep 2021 - 23:29 | Tags: being better in bed, sex health, better sex guide

When we use the word “sleep” and the word “sex” in the same sentence, it usually has very little to do with sleeping! This is especially true when you are sending time with a fuck buddy. The reasons to meet up and hang out have very little to do with catching 30 winks! In fact, for many people, when they start sleeping with a fuck buddy for the first time the number of hours spent sleep dramatically drops! This is not a problem in the short term of course. It is very normal, and is something that we all go through. Having periods of time where we sleep less in our lives is something that the human body can cope quite well with. If you go out and hook up, I think the person you hook up with is going to be rather disappointed if you end up sending your time asleep! They are looking for something more and I expect that you were looking for the same! So what is the issue with the reduction in sleep that having a fuck buddy can cause?

According to the NHS website, “Everyone's experienced the fatigue, short temper and lack of focus that often follow a poor night's sleep.” This is likely true. Everyone has pulled an overnighter at some point, and we all suffer the next day from it. We experience a depression in cognitive functions, our body responses are slowed by the reduction in response time that is caused by the lack of sleep, our coordination and balance are also upset. If the sleep deprivation continues for a few days, the effects can become more serious. According to the NHS website, “…your brain will fog, making it difficult to concentrate and make decisions. You'll start to feel down, and may fall asleep during the day. Your risk of injury and accidents at home, work and on the road also increases.” The depression on happiness is a tangible one. If you are having sex with a fuck buddy a big part of that is about being happier as a person. Any gain you get from the sex could ben offset by the lack of sleep, resulting in a net zero, or worse, a loss rather a gain. You are also worse in bed if you are tired, as having sex is a physical act. So what is the advice here?

If you want to have great sex with your fuck buddy and have a happier life, get enough sleep. A lack of sleep affects everything that you do and that you are. It changes how you react, subtly, in all circumstances. So whilst you are sleeping with someone, do also make sure that you sleep!

Top sex tips to be a better fuck buddy

EdBennett — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 20:32:54 +0000

22 Sep 2021 - 21:32 | Tags: top tips for being sexy, being better in bed, better sex guide

In the world of adult dating, one of the biggest thing we focus on is finding and keeping a fuck buddy. This makes a lot of sense. Sometimes finding someone to have a hook up with can take time and effort. This can often be the biggest barrier to a great sex life. Once you have a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits relationship set up and in place, it can be that the rest slots into place. You also have someone else who is helping you get there too! With that in mind we often spend a lot of time focusing on the external. How we look, what other people think of us, how to get to the close. We often neglect to spend time or effort thinking about ourselves and how we can be better fuck buddies. When I say this, I do not only mean a better fuck for the other person, I also mean a better fuck buddy for ourselves. Having a good time in bed is as import for us as for the person we are hooking up with, so a little time and effort working on ourselves can be a great thing. With that in mind, here are my top tips for how to be a better fuck buddy.

Learn about your body

Take some time to explore your own body. This applies whether you are a man or a woman. Understanding your own body and how it works is key to having great sex. Your fuck buddy can’t read your mind, so if you know your body, you can better guide them to the ultimate pleasure of you both.

Know your turn offs

If you know what turns you off, you can simply eliminate them from the sexual encounter. It is easy to get rid of them, knowing exactly what they are can take time though. Once you spot a turn-off, make a mental note and then be sure to mention it to your fuck buddy.

Exercise

Keep in great shape will lead to great sex. I would particularly recommend that you do kegel exercises which will help to grow and tone key internal muscles that are used during sex. A good set of kegels with some other body toning exercises every week will make all the difference!

So there are three top tips to being a better fuck buddy. Have fun!

Preparing yourself for fuck buddy sex

EdBennett — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 23:47:48 +0000

30 Jun 2021 - 00:47 | Tags: being better in bed, Fuck Buddy, sex health

We all want to be having the very best sex that we can be having. We all want to reach the highest heights of ecstasy, and the longest and deepest orgasms, have sex like a rock star. We spend a lot of time thinking about the ways that this is affected by external factors. Are we with the right fuck buddy? Is the setting good? Are there better combinations? What we sometimes forget is that we also have to prepare ourselves for sex. If we are in a good place, then the sex really will be better. After a year of the static lives that the coronavirus has given us, this is more important than ever before. So, with that it mind, here are my top tips for you to prepare yourself for fuck buddy sex.

Understand your own body as a sexual animal

No one is a mind reader, least of all your fuck buddy. The best way to have great sex is to start by understanding what it is your body needs and wants. If you can do that, you can start to guide your partner towards it, but you really do have to understand it for yourself first. So know what turns you on, where you liked to be stroked, touched, how you like to be brought to come. This is the starting point.

Know what turns you off

So many people know what turns them on, but knowing what throws a metaphorical bucket of water over your sexual desire is really important. Once you know you can work to avoid it, or better yet, remove it from your life. If someone or something crushes your sexual desire, deal with it.

Tell your partner what you want

So many people expect their partner to interpret exactly what they want when the explain it not with words, but with a combination of groans, grunts and head gestures! This was never a good way to explain things, so do not do this. Instead tell your fuck buddy what you want and how you want it, and I am sure that they will oblige, especially since they know you will return the favour.

Exercise

Sex is a physical activity and you need to have a certain level of fitness to be able to enjoy it, so get fit. You do not have to be an athlete, but take some exercise regularly and you will be better prepared for sex.

So prepare yourself and your sexual experiences will be better for it.

How to have amazing sex: Part 3 Their joy is your joy

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Oct 2016 16:08:14 +0000

28 Oct 2016 - 17:08 | Tags: how to have amazing sex, great sex, being better in bed

Welcome to the f-buddy blog, where we make sure that when you find your friend with benefits and you come to fuck them, that you not only fuck them good, you have an amazing time yourself! We understand here at f-buddy that it’s not only about quantity; it’s about quality as well. There is something to be said for having lots of sex with lots of different women, and I am all for it! In fact many people here on this site take that exact approach, with the blessings and encouragement of each of the women that they are sleeping with. We are not anti that at all, and there is no reason you cannot have quantity and quality, as many of the men here stand as evidence that this is all too possible. So how can you make sure that you have not just good sex, but great sex?

In part’s 1 and part 2 we talked about the importance of trying to find the things that are usually around / happening when you have great sex. Once you identify these things, just work to bring them into the mix again each time you go on to have more sex and you are more likely to go from good to great sex pretty quickly. Given that each person is different, it stands to reason that for each person a different thing will make them have great sex. However there are some common things that most people say work for them, and that’s what we cover here. In parts 1 and 2 we spoke about emotion and horniness. Here’s the next step:

Make them come hard – and you will come harder!

The altruistic thing of “your joy is my joy” is a romantic notion that is not really appropriate for the fuck buddy field... or is it? Well here is the thing, it seems that one of the keys to amazing sex for most people is that the other person is having an amazing time. When the other person is really turned on, that makes you in turn more turned on making it better for you. It is also way more than even that! When the other person is really coming hard, and you know that they are going to come hard, that is when you can really relax. That is the moment you can truly and deeply let go of everything and really orgasm yourself. You know that the other person is sorted, that they are having a great time, so that leaves space for YOU to relax and have a great time.

Turn them on, work on making sure they are loving it, and damn you will love it even more as a result.