The nightmare that is a bad sexual partner

EdBennett — Sat, 23 Jun 2018 13:14:42 +0000

23 Jun 2018 - 14:14 | Tags: how to avoid bad sex, being dumped, sex is important

Not everyone is compatible with everyone else. It is not about how “good” you are in bed, it is about whether you are good for each other. Sexual compatibility is a key factor in your sex life, and 80% of this takes place at the selection phase. Have you selected someone who is compatible with you? If you haven’t, no amount of work, alterations, changes and growth will be able to fix your sex life, leaving you with two options: Accept that the sex will never be good, end it with them. I would always be a proponent of the latter, because I understand what a nightmare having a bad sexual partner can be. If you have never experienced it, here are some of the things that you have never had to deal with. For those of you who have had a fuck buddy or friend with benefits that has been sexually incompatible, all of this will sound very familiar to you.

They don’t want to do the same things as you in the bedroom

Different people want to do different things in the bedroom. This can take a variety of forms. It can be wanting to use different sexual positions, it can be wanting to use toys or not use toys. It can be wanting to dominate or be dominated, or it could be a specific fetish or desire that the person knows will really help them to be turned on. For some people it can simply be the time of day – some people only want sex at night, others only want it in the mornings.
When you want very different things, if the partner is not willing to even give it a try, this is a totally knightmare! You want them, you want to be turned on by them, but if they are unwilling to even get involved and try things out, you are stuck being unable to express yourself sexually with them. It is the equivalent of being told to “shut up”. It is awful.

You are left unsatisfied

You are sexually unsatisfied. They may be amazing in other areas, but you are left wanting in the bedroom. If this is an open relationship then this is not a problem as you can get your kicks elsewhere. However, if this is a monogamous relationship this is a knightmare to deal with. Dumping them purely on the sex seems so shallow… yet you cannot sleep with anyone else, so if you stay with them you are signing up to a life of sad sex. It is an awful place to be in.

You feel like a horrible person for ending it

If you do end it, you feel horrible that this is the reason. You can never tell them that it is because they are bad in bed, for this would crush them, but this is the reason and you know it. You have to carry that with you afterwards.

It is a real shame when you are incompatible. If you are, the best thing you can do is to end it fast. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be.

The reasons that she broke up with you are lies

EdBennett — Sun, 12 Mar 2017 19:02:41 +0000

12 Mar 2017 - 19:02 | Tags: sex and lies, being dumped

You have just been dumped. I mean you have had the proverbial kick to the nuts that we all get at some point, and you have had your ass handed to you. You have been dumped big time, and damn it hurt. Firstly I would like to offer my condolences. We have all been there, but that does not help you right now. Not with your issues, just know that there is a lot of brotherly love coming at you right now from all of us. Now let us get on to the reasons that she told you when she broke up with you, why they are all complete lies, and why you need to completely ignore everything that she told you immediately.

She doesn’t really know why she dated you in the first place

If you ask a woman after a seduction, why she had sex with that guy, what was it he said or did that made her want to fuck him, she will give you a list of reasons. She might talk about how charming he was, or manly, or she has a thing for beards... I mean the list is endless. It is also all nonsense. It is post fact logic, it is all post justification for a decision that she made without logic. You see the reason she slept with you in the first place was not logical, it was emotional. Asking a girl why she slept with you after a seduction is like asking a drunk guy how he lost in a fight - the whole thing was out of his control in the first place and he can’t really remember any way so he just says some words so that he feels he answered the question. She is the same. She does not have a clue.

She does not know why she is dumping you – it is just all false data.

So when she breaks up with you, the same is true. It is an emotional decision, not a logical one, so any logic that is used to explain it is all bollocks. It is meaningless. Anything that she tells you about why she has broken up with you is false data, and needs to be ignored. If you try and change your life, alter your habits and action based on what she says in order to avoid a future break up with another girl you are going down the wrong path my friend! You are wasting your energy! She has just spoken total horse shit, so you must discard her words immediately.

So remember – her reasons for the breakup are all lies, even if she is striving hard for honesty, she is incapable of it.