F Buddy - how to get more sex

Hooking up on a train

EdBennett — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 23:31:39 +0000

30 Mar 2022 - 00:31 | Tags: how to hook up, pulling in unusual places, how to get more sex

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we can help like-minded individuals find other adults for adult dating and adult fun. There are many places that you can find or meet a potential friends with benefits, hook up or other no strings attached relationships. For most of us, the two readily available places are bars and the internet. These are both excellent places to find someone. They are efficient, fun to be on and the other people there are generally looking for the same thing so you are in the right place. This can be a bit of a numbers game, so playing the numbers is a really good idea if you can do it. However, there are other places that take advantage of the NET time theory, which I will now explain.

NET stands for “No Extra Time”. This is where you do a task or activity that takes “no extra time” away from another activity that you were certainly going to do. The obvious example of this that we all do is travel. If I get on a train, tube or bus and then read a book, listen to music or even watch a film or tv show on your phone, that activity takes no extra time up. You were always going to have to spend an hour on that train, so watching something is like doing it for free! It is different to watching it at home when you could be doing something else. Watching or reading things on trains is completely guilt-free as you were always going to have to be on the train anyway! The same can be applied to when you are trying to hookup.

Without a doubt, a bar is a better place to hook up with someone than a train… but when you go to a bar you have to make the time to do it. Whilst when you are on a train, you were always going to be there anyway, so why not take advantage of being there by using the free time to hit on someone? This is especially true if you see someone that you actually like. When you see someone you fancy, you should definitely move on that!!! Remember, it is like a “free” action taking no extra resource up, so you may as well spend it. The success ratio will be lower than a bar, but over the course of a month, you can definitely do it enough to get some success. Remember, it is a numbers game!

How to have more sex – make an effort

EdBennett — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 09:08:41 +0000

22 Nov 2020 - 09:08 | Tags: Coronavirus and sex, how to get more sex

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find like-minded individuals to have no strings attached fun with. Today I want to talk about how to have more sex. The most obvious way is to just put yourself out there more. Sex, romance, relationships… to a degree there are a numbers game. The more people that you meet the more likely you are to meet someone that you vibe with. This is true whether you are looking for a hookup, a friends with benefits or a long term relationship. We don’t always know why we fancy someone, only that we do, so the more people we meet the more likely that we will meet someone that we want to have sex with that also wants to have sex with us back. When that happens it is a win-win on both sides!

I stumbled across this article on the guardian website which asked the question would like be better if I made more effort? The article goes into quite a discussion, but the simple answer is yes! I am not talking about the impossible here, not that you need to be born into a different body entirely or to go and have plastic surgery in order to significantly change how you look… but the reality is that most people’s lives would be better if they made more effort. For most people they don’t because they set the bar too high. They incorrectly think that making more effort involves going to the gym 5 times a week, giving up all the things that they like to eat and becoming a vegan. This is simply not true. There are some simple and non-life-changing steps that everyone can make to make their lives better, and it does not involve a major life upheaval.

Move

You do not need to ‘exercise’ that is a word that is filled with the feeling of hard work and difficulty. Instead, just move every day. You don’t have to do much, just get your 10,000 steps in a day and you are done.

Buy less junk food

Trying to eat less junk is hard. Not buying it in the first place is much easier and once it is not in the house you then can’t eat it! Simple!

Dress nice even when on video calls

How you look does change how people treat you. Making sure that your top half is looking good will make people treat you in a nicer way… and the best part? You can be sitting in shorts or even just your boxers on the bottom half and no one will ever know!

All of this will help you as the world treats you that little bit more nicely and this translates directly to having sex. So if you want to get laid a little more, consider just taking these three easy steps to have more sex.

Put away the smart phone to have more sex

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 21:32:58 +0000

31 Jan 2020 - 21:32 | Tags: having more sex, tips for casual sex, how to get more sex

We are now in the year 2020. The new decade has arrived and things have permanently changed in the way that we communicate in comparison to a couple of decades ago. The number of phone calls that we make has dropped dramatically, replaced by other forms of communication. The number of emails we send has jumped. Easy access to data now means that the number of SMS messages that are sent have also dropped having been replaced by messaging via apps such as Facebook messenger or WhatsApp (which is also owned by Facebook). People are reaching out to other services, such as Telegram or Signal, but essentially these are simply a more secure form of WhatApp.

The expectations of these forms of messaging has also changed. We are now connected 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to all our digital forms of communication via our smart phones. This means that people always expect a prompt reply… which always pushes us to also feel obliged to give a prompt reply. This is particularly difficult when it comes to work emails, which leaves us checking work emails even at weekends and evenings. Work emails generally come alongside a certain amount of pressure and stress. Depending on your work, this could be just a very small amount of stress, or if you are in a fast paced high pressure city job, this could be a lot more. Stress is one of the things that supress out libido and desire for sex, so regularly dosing yourself with stress in this way is not helpful to your sex life.

More that this, using your phone takes you away from being in the moment and with the people that you are with. You may be flirting with someone and things are all going well. Checking your phone regularly tells the person that someone who isn’t even there is more interesting than them. It is not a good way to build rapport!

Even in a long-term relationship or with an established fuck buddy, pulling out your phone pulls your consciousness to another place, to somewhere else. It is hard to build up a sexy vibe with someone when you are checking Facebook every few minutes.

So, try putting your phone away if you want to have more sex. Pressing the off button on your phone for an evening is a great way to bring you back into the moment. The more you are truly present with the other person, the more you can and will build intimacy with them and the more likely you are to have sex.

Have sex like its your last night on earth

EdBennett — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 19:49:02 +0000

29 Jul 2019 - 20:49 | Tags: sex and death, how to get more sex, sex is great

What if you had a serious illness? Something incurable, degenerative and something that was ultimately going to kill you? How would you change your life? Different people react very differently to this. Some people go on a “Fuck it” style spending spree. They throw all caution to the wind, they quit their jobs, they give their stuff away and they focus solely on having a great time. Fair play I say. Other people go the other way. They drive really hard at work to make money fast whilst they have time, they set up their money in funds and structure things so that when they die, they have a legacy that gets passed on. They become super sensible about everything, and their ambition, compressed into a shorter time, causes their trajectory to become somewhat off the charts. The third category of people are those that deny it. They ignore it and live like it is not happening. I think that this is the only choice that is a poor one.
There is something that we can learn from these people, regardless of whether they take the fuck it option or the grown-up option. They all have better sex lives. Let us talk about this now.

The limited life span drives them to have better sex, now. In life we put so many things off. We think we want to change something and we think that we will do it later or another time. What illness brings is an awareness that you time is limited, so you have to do it now. So they set aside their inhibitions and they embrace their sexuality in a way that few of us do. If they have a fuck buddy they are brave and bold with that person. If they do not have a fuck buddy and want one, they just take the step to go and do it. The illness lends them a courage and bravery to do the things that they want to do because they have nothing to lose. Is this not the same for us in reality? The talk to their fuck buddy partners about their sexual fantasies and they try them out. The listen to their hook up’s fantasies and give that a go too! If they are feeling like spontaneous sex, they go for it, and spontaneous sex is some of the best sex that can be had!

When the have sex, they have it like it could be the last time, which lends them a passion and reckless release that drives the sex to a whole new level. What if we could capture and replicate this? Well, we can.

The brain can not tell the difference between imagination and reality in terms of its chemical reactions. Watching sport makes the brain release the same chemicals as doing sport. So if you think, in your mind, what if this was the last time, it can help you make the same decisions and take the same steps.

The proof is easy. Try is with your fuck buddy. You can tell them you are doing it or you can keep it to yourself, but you will find it gives you that playful reckless edge that will kick the sex up a notch.

Top three tips to upskill your sex life!

EdBennett — Tue, 07 May 2019 16:58:04 +0000

7 May 2019 - 17:58 | Tags: better sex guide, how to get more sex, top tips for being sexy

Adult dating has become very normal in the modern western world, and what a relief it is that this has happened. Sex is something that makes everyone healthier and happier. It is good for the brain as it stimulates blood flow, it is good for the body as it is a legitimate calorie burning exercise, it is good for the soul as it releases happy hormones into the body that raise a sense of well being and, well, happiness! Sex is excellent, and we should all be having more of it.

Once you have a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits, you might be thinking about wanting to improve your sex life. This is a good thing! Upskilling your sex is a great way to make the experience better for both of you. Better sex means more of the good stuff listed above. Better sex also leads to more sex! If you both have a good time, you will find that your fuck buddy comes running back for more frequently. So how can you upskill you sex life? Here are my three top tips!

Look after your little man

Most people pay attention to how they look. They wash their clothes, they keep their hair looking nice and trimmed, they pay attention to how they smell… the one thing that many en neglect is how they are doing down under. This is such an easy thing to address and will upskill you in the bedroom. Think about getting a trimmer and trimming some of the hair around your ball sack and scrotum. Keep the whole area super clean… a clean penis is one that a woman is more likely to want to put inside her. Consider moisturising, there are huge benefits from having a soft cock, your fuck buddy will love it. In the event that something happens, go to a doctor immediately and get it checked out. It is worth getting over the temporary embarrassment in return for long term sexual performance.

Play games: no hands

Playing games in the bedroom is a great way to upskill! Things that are fun but teasing are perfect. Try having sex with your fuck buddy but you are not allowed to use your hands. This is such a good one. Another variation is to go down on her, but the second she uses her hands to do anything you stop!

Practice makes perfect

Have more sex. They say practice makes perfect, and it really does! The more sex you have, the better you can become… IF you reflect afterwards. Each time, think about something that you want to focus on doing during that sex session. This could be spend longer going down on your friends with benefits, or it could be to make sure your fuck buddy is completely relaxed before getting to it. Reflection then practice is the key.

So good luck, and have fun!

Up your admin skills to get laid more

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Jul 2017 20:32:03 +0000

28 Jul 2017 - 21:32 | Tags: getting laid, how to get more sex, finding hookups

I wrote an article here about how to appear more attractive to the opposite sex. In it I outlined the many ways in which you can change your appearance in order to make people want you more on a surface level. Whilst to some people this may appear to be shallow, dating and sex is a shallow thing, so let’s just accept this and move on! The bottom line is that when someone is looking for a fuck buddy, the thing that they are going to look at first above and beyond anything else it, well, how you look. That is the gateway. After that there may be many other things as well, such as whether you are sexually compatible, do you share a similar taste of things you like to do in the bedroom, is the physical attraction strong enough to make you want to pursue the other person for more than just the first hookup that you have? All these things are things you can only find out once you have been sleeping with the other person, they can not be worked out before the hook up itself, so don’t let this hold you back.

What can hold you back however is lack of admin skills. What am I talking about you ask? Allow me to elaborate on this.

Good Admin plays a huge role in the early days

The first step to making someone into your fuck buddy is to get them into bed with you. This can not be done online, the only way is to meet up with them physically. So the first major barrier is that first meet up... and this is where good admin skills can come into play.

You want to cultivate a feeling of trust and desire in the run up to the meeting to ensure that it happens. Keeping timely text messaging can play a big part of this, and there are tools that you can use to help this:

Alarms on phones as a reminder to call
Use text message schedualing in order to ensure that a text message is sent the next day without you having to think about it.
Use google calenders or other time schedualling methods to keep track of when you have made contact, how many days it has been, and thus optimise the gaps between messaging to strike the perfect balance between messaging too much like a stalker and just leaving so big a gap that you seem uninterested.

Then book a date!

Again this is admin. Take the hard work out of it by being the one to suggest a time and place to meet. If you take care of this, the date is so much more likely to happen as there is a specific time and place. When you dream it, it may happen. When you schedule it, it does happen!

So get on top of your admin and get laid more! This is an easy way to up your sex game, so just do it. Why not send a few messages right no to start as you mean to go on?