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Want to be a god in bed? Top sex advice for men (part 4)

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Dec 2021 23:58:23 +0000

31 Dec 2021 - 23:58 | Tags: British sex advice, how to avoid bad sex, getting good in bed

Welcome to the fuck buddy website. Here at the f-buddy website, we not only want to help you meet the perfect hook up, we also want to ensure that when you do meet the perfect person for some casual dating, that you have a great time in bed. Before we start with the advice I think it is helpful to set the context. Everyone can have sex. It is hard wired into us and in my view no one is “bad” at sex. Yes of course we can better at pleasing ourselves and our fuck buddy over time, but I think it is important to remember that the best sex is the sex that you are having right now. The past sex is gone and the future sex is yet to be, so no matter how it “compares” with other times, the sex you are having is always the best! Now that is established, I would like to share some top tips on how to improve things for you and your fuck buddy. As started in our earlier articles on how to be a god in bed, here are some more top tips for men on how to be better in bed.

Begin foreplay outside the bedroom

We often can think that the sex and the foreplay all happen in the bedroom. If you are doing this, you are missing a great opportunity to start your foreplay where it can really begin, which is almost at any time. It can start from when you first get up on the morning with some flirting. It can continue through the day with a well-placed text message or two. It can certainly happen over dinner or what ever activity proceeds making it to the sex venue. So start early so that by the time you make it to the bedroom your fuck buddy is gagging for it.

Use lubricant

If you are not using lubricant, then this is an easy win. Adding this to the mix makes everything smoother and more lush. Popping some on the side of the bed is a really quick way to make the sex better for both of you.

Consider different orgasms

Both men and women can orgasm from ways other than penile penetration. For women this is more widely known, but for men they can also orgasm from stimulation to the prostate. If you have not experimented with this, consider trying it.

Reasons your fuck buddy may not enjoy sex

EdBennett — Wed, 29 Apr 2020 16:16:00 +0000

29 Apr 2020 - 17:16 | Tags: how to avoid bad sex, better sex guide, reasons for affairs

For most people, sex is generally really good. Whilst you may get better at sex over time, sex is not something that most people have to work at in order to enjoy doing it. They might want to enjoy it more, so they make work at it for that reason, but for many people, it comes quite naturally. For a few people, however, sex is not that enjoyable. That is not to say it is unenjoyable all of the time, but they may have periods of time where it is unenjoyable, or they may have certain obstacles that they need to overcome in order to open the door to the boundless pleasures that sex can bring. So if you have a fuck buddy that does not seem to be enjoying themselves in bed with you, whilst your instinct may be to blame yourself which would take you down quite a negative neural pathway, instead I would urge you to talk to your fuck buddy about it. If you approach it in a non-judgemental, open way, you might find that the conversation takes you to places where you can find solutions to the problems and overcome them together. Helping a fuck buddy enjoy sex more will forever enshrine you in their mind as the person who opened their pleasure centers… if you have the opportunity to be that person you need to take it! It makes you feel like a sexual god!

Natural pain

Around 75% of women have reported feeling or experiencing pain during sex at some point in their lives. Note the “some point.” This is not regular, this is something that can happen sometimes. It could be caused by all sorts of things, lack of lubrication, becoming accustomed to the size of a man's member, some kind of health issue. If your fuck buddy is having pain, be really open to talking about it and help find the solution. They will fuck you forever for it!

Infections

Vaginal infections such as yeast infections are common enough to be considered normal should they occur. If they do occur, the solution is taking medical advice and following the guidance till it is cured. Being patient with your fuck buddy whilst they are dealing with this will pay its dividends in bed once it is sorted. Hormonal changes can also cause dryness in the vagina, and for the lubricant is the perfect quick fix.

Male pain

Men can also have pain during sex, and if they do it could also be caused by an infection, the solution to which can be found with your local doctor. Problems with the prostate can also cause pain and this ought to be checked out quickly. There could also be, ahem, what one might describe as structural abnormalities in the penis. Again, if your fuck buddy is experiencing all or any of this, being supportive will pay itself back in the long term.

Psychological holdbacks

Stress and anxiety are orgasm killers. It is very hard to reach a good climax if there is a lot going on, especially in terms of stressful situations. There are also some people who identify in a certain way which can affect their sexual experiences. People who are demisexual may only experience sexual pleasure in very few situations, such as when they feel in love with a partner. In this case, it will take time and investment to be able to help with this, and only you can make the decision to whether you feel you want to follow through.

So if you are finding that you or your current hook up are not enjoying the sex, it is well worth addressing it. Finding and fixing the problem will open the sexual doors of delight.

The nightmare that is a bad sexual partner

EdBennett — Sat, 23 Jun 2018 13:14:42 +0000

23 Jun 2018 - 14:14 | Tags: how to avoid bad sex, being dumped, sex is important

Not everyone is compatible with everyone else. It is not about how “good” you are in bed, it is about whether you are good for each other. Sexual compatibility is a key factor in your sex life, and 80% of this takes place at the selection phase. Have you selected someone who is compatible with you? If you haven’t, no amount of work, alterations, changes and growth will be able to fix your sex life, leaving you with two options: Accept that the sex will never be good, end it with them. I would always be a proponent of the latter, because I understand what a nightmare having a bad sexual partner can be. If you have never experienced it, here are some of the things that you have never had to deal with. For those of you who have had a fuck buddy or friend with benefits that has been sexually incompatible, all of this will sound very familiar to you.

They don’t want to do the same things as you in the bedroom

Different people want to do different things in the bedroom. This can take a variety of forms. It can be wanting to use different sexual positions, it can be wanting to use toys or not use toys. It can be wanting to dominate or be dominated, or it could be a specific fetish or desire that the person knows will really help them to be turned on. For some people it can simply be the time of day – some people only want sex at night, others only want it in the mornings.
When you want very different things, if the partner is not willing to even give it a try, this is a totally knightmare! You want them, you want to be turned on by them, but if they are unwilling to even get involved and try things out, you are stuck being unable to express yourself sexually with them. It is the equivalent of being told to “shut up”. It is awful.

You are left unsatisfied

You are sexually unsatisfied. They may be amazing in other areas, but you are left wanting in the bedroom. If this is an open relationship then this is not a problem as you can get your kicks elsewhere. However, if this is a monogamous relationship this is a knightmare to deal with. Dumping them purely on the sex seems so shallow… yet you cannot sleep with anyone else, so if you stay with them you are signing up to a life of sad sex. It is an awful place to be in.

You feel like a horrible person for ending it

If you do end it, you feel horrible that this is the reason. You can never tell them that it is because they are bad in bed, for this would crush them, but this is the reason and you know it. You have to carry that with you afterwards.

It is a real shame when you are incompatible. If you are, the best thing you can do is to end it fast. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be.