Understand your fuck buddy: why sex is harder to talk about in this era

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:38:24 +0000

30 Jul 2022 - 00:38 | Tags: understanding women, dirty talk, sex talk

We live in the liberated modern age of sexual enlightenment. Adult dating has become something that more and more people have embraced. We are more open to those who wish to have alternative arrangements and partnerships. This can be simple such as people who hook up or only have one night stands. This could be people who chose to have fuck buddies but od not want any of the strings that are usually attached to relationships. This could be the more classic friends with benefits set up or booty call buddy. However, the modern age has taken this even further. Non-monogamous long-term relationships have become more normal. “Polyamorous” is now an accepted and understood word in more parts and in more circles. People are finding their own way, working out what sexually works for them and setting up relationships that fit around those needs and desires. So, despite all of this, why is it that sex is harder to talk about in this era than previously?

Despite all of our progressive views and advancements in sexual structures, we still can feel uncomfortable around sex. Ironically some of this is actually to do with how we perceive things should be in the modern age! We think that we ought to be having an easy time talking about sex, whether that is with a friend or a fuck buddy, but we find it is not. This exacerbates the issue because there is a stark reality underneath this. Sex is unlikely to be something that will ever be something that is easy to talk about. It is difficult, we expose ourselves when we do so, we leave ourselves vulnerable when that occurs. The way sex functions is not always helpful, nice or kind. Sex can be hard, tough and unforgiving. The way that sex, the lack of it or the results of it can leave us feeling is not always pleasant… and because we live in a world and a society where we think that we should be able to talk about sex comfortably, it actually makes it worse! We feel worse and we put up more barriers because we, incorrectly, think it “ought” to be easy. Sometimes this means that we give up, it often means we hold back from our fuck buddies on this front.

So cut yourself a break and be kinder to yourself when you find it difficult. It is and always has been.

If you could become a woman for a day, what would you do?

EdBennett — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 10:41:54 +0000

8 Aug 2018 - 11:41 | Tags: sex fantasy, understanding women

We are all born in a certain way, and we have to live our lives with that. We play the cards that we are dealt. This brings with it certain insight, depending on how you were born. For example, if you were born a man, you know what it feels like to have a penis, to have penetrative sex, to come as a man. You also know all the sexual interactions with your fuck buddy from the man’s point of view. So for example, you know what it is to caress a breast, you know how it feels to spend time tantalising and tickling a girls clitoris with your tongue. This is a wonderful thing.

What does it feel like from the other side though? I think every man has wondered what it would be like to be a woman for a day, to have that experience. If you were a woman for a day, the only way to use that to come to an understanding, would be to do stuff whilst in female form. So if you were a woman for a day, what would you do? Here are the things that men have said they would do.

Play with their own breasts, a lot

As a man it sometimes feels like a war. Breasts belong to us, and its up to us to seduce women into letting us have them back! I joke of course. As a man, I think the first thing that most men would do would be to play with their breasts. You have the on tap, best to take advantage!

Take naked selfies

You want something to remember the experience by!

Masturbate

This is a huge one! This would be for two main reasons. Most men want to know what it feels like when a woman comes, but as a woman for a day may not want to actually have sex with a guy. By Masturbating, they get to do so without having to sleep with a man.
The second reason is for technique. If you know exactly how it feels, you can quickly hone your hand to being the most valuable and sought after sexual tool in the fuck buddy marketplace!

Go out on a night looking hot

Many men wouldn’t actually want to have sex, but to know what it is like to do a girl night out in a club, to see what it feels like to have all the men having to hit on you for a change, now that would be really fun.

If they ever invent a way of trying it, I know I’ll be one of the first to sign up!