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How to overcome sexual performance anxiety

EdBennett — Sat, 28 May 2022 22:50:54 +0000

28 May 2022 - 23:50 | Tags: sex anxiety, sex health

In our last article, we talked about what sexual performance anxiety is. To briefly recap, it is where someone experiences worry, stress, nervousness or anxiety triggered by the thought or action of having sex. The difference between it verse something that is a passing feeling rather than a problem, is that these feelings are strong enough to manifest symptoms to the person experiencing them. They can result in a reduced sex drive, increased heart rate and difficulty in having sex through a number of other symptoms. In this article, we are going to look more closely at what causes sexual performance anxiety and how to overcome it.

What causes sexual performance anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety generally stems from psychological issues. These can be varied in form and manifest in a variety of ways. These can also trigger in both men and women, and there is no data that I have found that suggests that one gender over the other suffers more acutely or more commonly from sexual performance anxiety. As such both genders need to be aware of it. Causes of sexual performance anxiety include the following:

Issues with ones body image, how one looks or other appearance perception issues
Temporary or acute stress
A single strong negative sexual experience (or several) can cause sexual performance anxiety
The fear of being rejected is a very common cause. Many woman purport this as a cause, and it is a widespread issue even among people who do not suffer from sexual performance anxiety. Being scared of being pushed away can even manifest with a fuck buddy. Even where you have made an agreement that it is without strings attached, there can still be a fear of being rejected by the fuck buddy for a future encounter.
Generally low sense of self-esteem and confidence can be the cause
The fear of not being able to deliver, perform or otherwise engage in sex can be the root cause of sexual performance anxiety

How to overcome sexual performance anxiety

If you are suffering, consider the following.

Talk to your fuck buddy about it. Explaining what you are feeling and going through can often be a huge step. Once they understand the pressure it off. You can then act with less stress and an understanding person, which can help you make the journey to defeating it.
Therapy. Having counselling, ABS or other therapy can be very helpful.
Medication. We cannot on this website suggest specific drugs, but they are available and talking to your doctor about it could lead to you getting the help that you need.

So, if you have this issue, take some steps. Your future self will be grateful to you for solving the issue.

What is sexual performance anxiety?

EdBennett — Fri, 20 May 2022 22:47:54 +0000

20 May 2022 - 23:47 | Tags: sex health, sex anxiety

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find a like minded adults for some no strings attached fun. Or job is to help you find a friends with benefits, a casual hook up or someone to have some evening fun with, minus the attachments and complications that come with a traditional relationship. For many of our members, they are ready and raring to go, but for some of our members, it may have been a while since they last had sex. For these individuals they may find that they are suffering from performance anxiety. Performance anxiety, what is that I hear you ask. Well, allow me to explain.

What is sexual performance anxiety?

Sexual performance anxiety is where you feel nervous, worried, stressed or otherwise anxious about having sex. Many of us experience these feels at some point in our lives, perhaps it is not to do with our time in the bedroom, but we have felt these feels about something. For some people, the thought of sex or the act of going to have sex is what triggers these feelings. If you are finding that you are being triggered by sex, the you may have performance anxiety.

What are the symptoms of sexual performance anxiety?

Many people get nervous, but for most nervous is just excitement without the breath. For people with sexual performance anxiety however they experience more. Symptoms include:

Difficulty getting hard or being turned on
A reduction in the desire to have sex
Tension forming and staying the body and the muscles
Heart rate increasing beyond what is normal from being excited
In some cases, it can lead to panic attacks
Hesitation or an unwillingness to have sex (where they would otherwise do so)
In very extreme cases, it can stop a man from being able to gain an erection

What are the causes of sexual performance anxiety?

Sexual performance anxiety can be caused by all sorts of things, but ironically it can also be caused by the very things that the symptoms of sexual performance anxiety result in. Foe example, for a man they may be worried or anxious about being able to gain and maintain an erection for a period of time. This can in turn cause sexual performance anxiety which then inhibits that man getting an erection. It can be quite a conundrum!

So that is what sexual performance anxiety is. In a future article I will deal with how to overcome sexual performance anxiety.

Sex and sleep

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 22:29:28 +0000

28 Sep 2021 - 23:29 | Tags: being better in bed, sex health, better sex guide

When we use the word “sleep” and the word “sex” in the same sentence, it usually has very little to do with sleeping! This is especially true when you are sending time with a fuck buddy. The reasons to meet up and hang out have very little to do with catching 30 winks! In fact, for many people, when they start sleeping with a fuck buddy for the first time the number of hours spent sleep dramatically drops! This is not a problem in the short term of course. It is very normal, and is something that we all go through. Having periods of time where we sleep less in our lives is something that the human body can cope quite well with. If you go out and hook up, I think the person you hook up with is going to be rather disappointed if you end up sending your time asleep! They are looking for something more and I expect that you were looking for the same! So what is the issue with the reduction in sleep that having a fuck buddy can cause?

According to the NHS website, “Everyone's experienced the fatigue, short temper and lack of focus that often follow a poor night's sleep.” This is likely true. Everyone has pulled an overnighter at some point, and we all suffer the next day from it. We experience a depression in cognitive functions, our body responses are slowed by the reduction in response time that is caused by the lack of sleep, our coordination and balance are also upset. If the sleep deprivation continues for a few days, the effects can become more serious. According to the NHS website, “…your brain will fog, making it difficult to concentrate and make decisions. You'll start to feel down, and may fall asleep during the day. Your risk of injury and accidents at home, work and on the road also increases.” The depression on happiness is a tangible one. If you are having sex with a fuck buddy a big part of that is about being happier as a person. Any gain you get from the sex could ben offset by the lack of sleep, resulting in a net zero, or worse, a loss rather a gain. You are also worse in bed if you are tired, as having sex is a physical act. So what is the advice here?

If you want to have great sex with your fuck buddy and have a happier life, get enough sleep. A lack of sleep affects everything that you do and that you are. It changes how you react, subtly, in all circumstances. So whilst you are sleeping with someone, do also make sure that you sleep!

Preparing yourself for fuck buddy sex

EdBennett — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 23:47:48 +0000

30 Jun 2021 - 00:47 | Tags: being better in bed, Fuck Buddy, sex health

We all want to be having the very best sex that we can be having. We all want to reach the highest heights of ecstasy, and the longest and deepest orgasms, have sex like a rock star. We spend a lot of time thinking about the ways that this is affected by external factors. Are we with the right fuck buddy? Is the setting good? Are there better combinations? What we sometimes forget is that we also have to prepare ourselves for sex. If we are in a good place, then the sex really will be better. After a year of the static lives that the coronavirus has given us, this is more important than ever before. So, with that it mind, here are my top tips for you to prepare yourself for fuck buddy sex.

Understand your own body as a sexual animal

No one is a mind reader, least of all your fuck buddy. The best way to have great sex is to start by understanding what it is your body needs and wants. If you can do that, you can start to guide your partner towards it, but you really do have to understand it for yourself first. So know what turns you on, where you liked to be stroked, touched, how you like to be brought to come. This is the starting point.

Know what turns you off

So many people know what turns them on, but knowing what throws a metaphorical bucket of water over your sexual desire is really important. Once you know you can work to avoid it, or better yet, remove it from your life. If someone or something crushes your sexual desire, deal with it.

Tell your partner what you want

So many people expect their partner to interpret exactly what they want when the explain it not with words, but with a combination of groans, grunts and head gestures! This was never a good way to explain things, so do not do this. Instead tell your fuck buddy what you want and how you want it, and I am sure that they will oblige, especially since they know you will return the favour.

Exercise

Sex is a physical activity and you need to have a certain level of fitness to be able to enjoy it, so get fit. You do not have to be an athlete, but take some exercise regularly and you will be better prepared for sex.

So prepare yourself and your sexual experiences will be better for it.

Biohacking for better sex

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Feb 2019 15:38:15 +0000

22 Feb 2019 - 15:38 | Tags: better sex guide, sex health, biohacking sex

Once you have found a fuck buddy and you are generally having hook ups on a regular basis, most people turn their focus and energy away from seeking more partners and towards increasing the fun that is to be had with those said partners. Makes sense, once you have the quantity, you want to start making sure that you improve the quality of your time together. When it comes to being better in bed, there is a ton of information out there. Books, videos, advice columns… everyone seems to have an opinion on the subject. There are also a number of approaches that you can take to improving you and your fuck buddy’s time in bed together. You can look at technique, you can work on your “inner game” better described as your own psychology surrounding sex, you can also choose to explore personal fantasy for both of you which is a great way to boost your sex life. You can also take it from two angles, making your fuck buddy have a better time whilst having sex, or making yourself have a better time. Whilst the two are linked, most actions tend to improve one side more than the other. The one thing that people often neglect to talk about is the biology.

It is widely accepted that “we are what we eat.” Your body is ultimately made up of the matter from food that has been processed and reconstituted to grow your various parts. We know that if we eat badly we look and feel differently, so why should this not be true of how we do in bed? Well, it is true we just generally don’t really think about it that much. We can alter our sex lives and performance in bed by changing the chemicals that we put into our bodies. This is called biohacking.

There are extreme examples of biohacking out there in the field of sexual enjoyment and performance. Dave Asprey, the founder of Bulletproof Coffee and the man that most people attribute the term “biohacking” to has taken some rather extreme steps. Dave regularly injects his penis with stem cells. He says that this is a perfect cure for erectile disfunction, but he also claims that he has no problems with erectile disfunction so go figure. Regardless, he still does it, and whilst I am not suggesting that you go to such extreme lengths, unless of course you do have erectile disfunction issues in which case go and try it, I am saying that you should think about what you put into your body in order to have better sex.

For now I will leave you to think about it. You can even talk to your fuck buddy about it, doing something like this with someone else is an excellent way to ensure that you both go the distance. I will follow this up with a more details article on the subject. For now, look after yourself and have fun!