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Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom, it just ends there

EdBennett — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 15:46:12 +0000

13 Oct 2015 - 16:46 | Tags: Sex, turn on techniques, hot stuff

Sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It usually happens in the bedroom, but good sex doesn't start in the bedroom. It starts in the minds of the two people that are about to have sex. The anticipation that leads up to the act, the planning, the time that is spent desiring it, wanting it, waiting for it...

The build up is as important to a good session as the session itself. Everyone loves a decent main course, but when you go out for the experience of having dinner, you go out not just to satisfy your carnal desire to consume, but to be able to enjoy the time spent on the eating. There is the choosing of the restaurant, the sitting down and pre chat, the looking over the menu, the ordering of drinks, then three courses of the meal before the meal is done. People enjoy their starters as much as their mains... and they enjoy the desert even more because it was preceded by the starter and the main course. It is the whole experience that they enjoy – not just the quelling of their hunger. If they simply wanted to not be hungry they could have more easily stayed at home and eaten an oven pizza.

Sex is the same. It is not just the act of coming that makes it the amazing experience that everyone desires so much. It is everything in the run up to it that really makes it. It is the anticipation, the wanting of it, the enforced waiting for it, the build up to it.

So how can you enhance this for both yourself and your f-buddy? Play to the anticipation. Rather than focus on the actual act of having sex, make time, effort and head space to think about and take action *doing* the stuff in the run up to the sex. So text your partner the night before assuring them that the following night they are not going to want to go to sleep. Message them again in the morning something with a little tease for the evening. Make sure that they spend the day thinking about what is going to happen that night.

If you meet them in a restaurant or do something before going back to yours/theirs, make sure you flirt. Make lots of physical contact without doing anything, tease them and allow yourself to be teased. The occasional brush of your arm or body against an inappropriate part of their body can do wonders if done then ignored by yourself.

Make sure the run up to the sex has the sub-text of the coming sex planted in it. If you do, you will have a much more electric night for it – which is something that will be good for the both of you.

Selection is 90% of what makes it work – so start with sex

EdBennett — Wed, 07 Oct 2015 18:18:57 +0000

7 Oct 2015 - 19:18 | Tags: Sex, success stories

True Story: Last week I met a girl I hadn't seen in a literally years. It was great to see and have a proper catch up – from what I could tell she seemed both well and happy – and truth be told as good looking as ever! So after 5 minutes she wheels out her boyfriend, and after talking for a bit it transpires that the boyfriend is in fact the fiancé. I asked the inevitable question of where they had met, and the answer was Tinder.

Now the main thing that tinder has going for it is that it is based on photos – physical attraction is the primary tool with which you “select” the person you are going to meet up with. It all starts/stems from whether you like the look of the person. For many people they presume that this means that the interaction is unlikely to develop into a relationship, and that it is at best fleeting because it is so aimed at people looking for sex as a primary – much like what we do here at F-buddy. We are looking to match people based on a great sexual chemistry.

Here’s where it gets interesting. Given that people don’t change easily, starting out with someone with good sexual chemistry from the outset can save you years of sexual frustration! Selecting the right person for you, someone you are genuinely attracted to, that wants to do the same things in bed as you, that clothe rippingly fancies you as much as you fancy them can guarantee spending loads of time with someone with whom you have a fantastic sex life with! So... my suggestion here is to start with the sex and do the relationship (if you choose to have one) later.

What happened with my old female friend is that she met someone through a hook up website and then, well, hooked up. This went on to lead to much more in this particular case, and whilst it doesn’t always do that or indeed need to do that to make it worthwhile, what she can be 100% sure of is that she is guaranteed to have a great sex life for years to come because that is where she started out.

So my advice to you – start with the sex, and let the other stuff come later in its own time.

Good sex is the foundation stone of any relationship whether casual or serious

EdBennett — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:40:02 +0000

28 Sep 2015 - 18:40 | Tags: Sex, online dating britain's only hope

In Britain we have always struggled with discussing the issue of sex. This has been part of the culture since well before I was born, and can clearly be seen in our art – the most clearly defined being the long running west end hit “No Sex Please, We’re British” which ran for almost a decade playing to full houses the whole way. The influence of American films and television have sensationalised sex, delivering to us footage of long standing sex scenes that seem to go on for hours... something which rarely happens in real life.

So we are presented with 2 options, never talk about sex at all, or reach for easy access to internet porn and learn what we can about it in that environment. This also can lead us to bad places, an over abundance of porn for free can lead to over use, and this can be damaging to your sexual happiness in the long term. This is one of the reasons I applaud you for coming to this site. You are going to be far happier and healthier by having real sex with another actual human being than gratifying your needs by yourself on a computer. I want to be clear, in more normal dose’s this is fine, it is on in the long term that this can start to cause you problems.

So what we never talk about in a free and comfortable way is that sex is not only a normal natural part of a relationship, but that actually it is an important cornerstone of that relationship. For us to lead full and fulfilled lives most of us want to be in a partnership with someone of the gender that we are attracted to. Within that partnership many people will share and take joy in sharing different parts of their lives:

• Success at work
• Their interactions with their family
• Evenings out for dinner
• Invites to birthdays, weddings, funerals and other important events
• Moments of sadness
• Their greatest victories

For all their sharing and the success of that however, when you move into a monogamous relationship you cut off the ability to sleep with anyone else... and at that point if the sex isn’t good, you are stuck with it. If you are not gratified in bed, if the girl/guy you are with does not make you want to take them in your arms and make them groan in pleasure, or if they are unable to make you loose yourself in the moment when all layers are stripped away, there is going to be no replacing that.

No matter what the nature of your sexual relationship, good sex is an important cornerstone element, and if it is not good, then you are never – NEVER – going to be truly happy in that relationship. So I my suggestion is this: start with the sex. If it is good then you can potentially build from there. If it is not good, then things were never going to be able to work out.

Which Country Has the Highest Libido?

EdBennett — Wed, 20 May 2015 12:51:11 +0000

20 May 2015 - 13:51 | Tags: libido, Sex, casual sex

To be honest this had never even occurred to me before as a blog post. It was only because someone asked me when I was having a drink at my local pub that I started to ponder the answer. Surely it has to be one of the South American Latino countries right? In many areas of Brazil and Argentina the women wear virtually nothing, and every bloke looks like he should be on the cover of GQ. They must be at it like rabbits all the time! Well it turns out I and many others like me were wrong. Whilst there are sites that rank Brazil and Portugal as the top 2 countries for the highest libido levels, other sites have Iceland and Sweden hitting the top 10. The UK unfortunately is nowhere to be seen in these charts, though that may be more due to the fact that we’re less likely to talk about our sex drives in public as other countries do. So which country is it?

Answer: No one.
That’s right! According to all my research, the country with the highest libido levels is no one. There are so many conflicting charts, graphs and tables littered on the internet that it is impossible to get an accurate count of who has the highest sex drive. One minute it’s Brazil, the next month it’s Italy, the next month it’s Russia…and so on and so on.

What about the UK?
Well this depends on where you live in the UK. In more rural areas, sex is more prevalent (mostly because there’s not much else to do), whereas in busy Metropolitan areas like London or Manchester, sex is less. That’s not to say that you can’t ever find any number of opportunities to have sex in the city (do you like what I did there?), because you can. London alone has a thriving dating and online hook up circuit. There are clubs for every desire and taste, and Soho is still known for offering things that would turn a Catholic priest’s head.

The Happy Truth
But the good news is that there really is nothing to worry about. No one country holds the record for the highest libido. Sex drives vary all year round and everyone is different. My advice is to just get out there and enjoy yourself!

What Women Want in Bed

EdBennett — Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:04:50 +0000

24 Apr 2015 - 12:04 | Tags: what women want, Sex, different types of casual sex

Sex for guys is relatively straightforward: we see a woman we fancy and we want to shag her. It sounds primeval and caveman like, and it is. Yet you might be surprised to know that women can be almost as primeval and cavewoman like about sex as men are. Following several surveys that were conducted by numerous publications including Cosmopolitan, Ask Men and many more, it turns out that what women want in bed actually fulfils a lot of male desires and fantasies. This makes sense when you think about it as otherwise men and women would have stopped having sex for fun a long long time ago. So what do women want exactly?

More Aggression
All that bullshit you read about women wanting a nice sensitive partner in the bedroom is actually bullshit. Nearly 80% of women surveyed admitted that they liked their partner to take charge and be more aggressive in the bedroom. Anything from lightly pulling her hair, to spanking her arse are all wanted by women. We’re not saying to go out and smack your bitch up, but it might be worth taking more control in the bedroom and seeing how your fuck buddy reacts.

Go Down More
A top complaint from many women is that men don’t go down on them enough during sex. I’ve forgotten how often we’ve talked about this, but I know I’ve written about it before a lot. Come on guys! Going down on a woman is fun! Not only does it get her wetter than the Niagra falls, it makes her want you to fuck her even more after you’ve given her an orgasm.

Dirty Nasty Filthy Talk
Yep – women want you to not only talk dirty; they want you to be absolutely filthy about it too. The worse your cursing the better. Colourful language isn’t an adequate enough description for what women want.

Treat Me Like A Whore
I admit that this one surprised me, but a lot of women want a man to not always be so gentle and loving in the bedroom. Sometimes they just want you to treat them like someone they just want to fuck. This one will take some getting used to as many men don’t feel comfortable treating their partners – even casual partners – like a prostitute.

Focus On Me
A top complaint from women is that not enough men focus on them during sex. A lack of eye contact and kissing and touching are often cited by women. Simple way to solve this guys – focus totally on your lady and she will focus totally on you in return.

Do you masturbate enough?

EdBennett — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 11:35:17 +0000

26 Mar 2015 - 11:35 | Tags: masturbation, how much should you masturbate, mutual masturbation, Sex, casual sex

For some reason everyone is always embarrassed to talk about this aspect of sexual health. Masturbation is almost always good for your sex life. Men and women have been doing it for centuries. It’s only recently that the subject has become a bit less awkward to talk about, but even now it seems that many avert their gaze. Fact: Masturbation is normal, masturbation can be healthy, and masturbation is practised by both sexes. We’re going to dispel a few myths that should help you decide whether or not you’re jacking off too much or not enough.

1. Relieves stress and anxiety
The negative side to masturbation is that it is often used as a way to relieve the daily tension that builds up from work and life. It gets unhealthy when it interferes with your life. However if you’re doing it and leading a normal life you have nothing to worry about.

2. It doesn’t reflect on your relationships
People masturbate. It’s a simple as that. It doesn’t mean you don’t want to have sex any less, nor does it mean you’re rubbish at sex. It’s just something that men and women do to feel good when they’re alone sometimes.

3. It can be very good for your sex life
Knowing how to turn your-self on is helpful when it comes to getting someone else to do it. If you don’t know what you like than how the hell is someone else supposed to know? Wank away until you know your hots and nots.

4. There’s no ‘set’ or ‘recommended level’ of masturbation
Some people jack off several times a day and lead a normal life. Others maybe only have a wank once a month and lead a normal life. There are no set levels. You’re all normal. Don’t feel weird or strange about your masturbation.

5. You can do it together
Masturbation as you well know can and is often used as foreplay. Try it with your fuck buddy and see if it turns you both on. Masturbation is a great way to initiate sex and enjoy the experience even more.

6. It won’t make you go blind
This was one of the most ridiculous myths ever whispered. Masturbation does not affect your eyesight (unless you count any orgasm it brings on). It will not affect your ability to see and do things. Just don’t over-do it and your health will be fine.

New Year’s Sex Resolutions

EdBennett — Mon, 05 Jan 2015 15:29:42 +0000

5 Jan 2015 - 15:29 | Tags: new year, Sex, new year resolutions

Christmas is over and everyone has stumbled back into work yawning and rubbing their eyes. It’s cold in the UK at the moment and I have a feeling most of the office would have rather stayed in bed this morning. That got us thinking though about what to do in January. The first few months of the year are always a bit of a chore. The weather’s bad, the days are still short and the summer seems a long way off. More people are depressed in the winter months than at any other time in the year. Sex is the best solution to this problem and whatever your status (single, married, divorced, separated) it is in your best interest to have as much sex as possible. So here are some resolutions we want all our members new and old to commit to.

1. Try harder
If you haven’t been getting enough sex the only person to blame is yourself. There is always a good match for everyone. Try a bit harder on your searching and don’t give up.

2. Exercise more
It’s clinically proven that increased exercise = an increased sex drive. In the winter it is more important to keep your metabolism stable and your hormone levels balanced as the bad weather can affect your moods badly.

3. Sleep in more with a partner
Morning sex (especially in the winter) is great. Your body is already naturally relaxed before the day’s stresses kick in and having a romp before work is the best way to start. You’ll be more productive trust me.

4. Try new positions
If you’ve become stuck in the same old routine then now is the time to try something new. Be spontaneous and try a few new positions to get your motor revving.

5. Masturbate More
Bet you never thought you’d hear a blog recommend masturbating more frequently, but it’s proven to help reduce stress and calm your demeanour. If you’re horny and home alone give it a go and remember to give yourself time with your body.

6. Take the ‘Every Day’ Challenge
Reckon you can have sex every day for a month? Put it on your to do list for the coming month and see how far you can get.

7. Talk more sex
By this I mean start flirting and being more suggestive with your partners and/or any potential partners. It’s time to let your brain take control and guide you towards the best sex in 2015

8. Explore Fantasies
It’s time to explore your imagination and try out any fantasies that have been brewing in your head. Don’t be afraid to explore your desires with another partner.

Is the Office Affair Always Off Limits?

EdBennett — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 17:23:27 +0000

7 Mar 2014 - 17:23 | Tags: affair, office, Sex

People working a normal 9-5 office job will spend on average more time in work than socialising outside work. Based on this fact it is hardly surprising that more time is spend with colleagues than other people and the more time they spend getting to know these colleagues well…sometimes intimately well. The office affair has been and still is common place due to this work focused lifestyle most people are in. But is it ever a good idea?

“Sex with my boss is amazing! Unlike my girlfriend where sex is considered an inconvenience and disruption to life, my office lover doesn't consider it a chore to be gotten out of the way. Taking her and changing the power dynamic from the work norm is amazingly hot. We're both in stale but loving relationships so all we want is sex from each other. Has it put a strain on our work relationship? A little bit sometimes, it can be very...distracting! But as far as emotions go we're solid because we were clear about our intentions from the start. It can sometimes be stressful if we think someone else knows but we're quite good at being secretive.”

Mike, 34

For Mike, an affair at work has given him a much needed sexual release which has been missing from his relationship with his long term partner for some time now. Do all affairs work so well though?

As Andrew found out when you do not make it clear early on that you are looking for the same thing real trouble and heartache can occur:

“I was in need of someone new that I could connect to and thought I’d found that in my secretary. She was always very flirty and I found her very attractive so I made a move one night after a long work day together. The sex was amazing and all the hotter thanks to the forbidden feeling of fucking at work. But the problem was that because she was single and not attached at all it was just some fun for her and nothing serious, but for me it was so much more. This led to me losing both my wife and lover and being left ashamed and alone.”

Andrew, 29

This story from Andrew is a cautionary tale that we should always make sure of one thing: Both partners wanting the same thing from the affair. You need trust also so that you can be sure they will not change their mind later.

In Mike’s case both he and his lover have the same perspective and so with the ground rules laid out from the start they both got something that they weren't getting from their significant others without losing it all.

Ground rules

Here are some wise lessons to be learnt if you wish to conduct an affair with someone at work.

1. Firstly you must lay out the ground rules from the start. Make sure both of you know what you want from the affair and that those desires are compatible.

2. Be aware of your work culture: the office is a gossip space. You might think you’re being clandestine when you’re actually the talk of the office body.

3. Someone will get hurt: Be it you, or your lover or significant other there will be tears. Unless you are in a polyamorous relationship (which if you are it’s not an affair) there will be complications. Don’t be fooled and don’t fool yourself. This is a key point. If you are unhappy the best thing to do might be to leave your partner and then seek a new sexy fuck buddy on F-Buddy. Having a high sex drive is not a crime, but think about the best way to satisfy that craving first.

I will leave it to you my loyal readers to decide whether having an affair is ever right or always a bad idea.

Let us know what you think in the comments!

Sex In the Summer

jeni — Tue, 16 Jul 2013 19:55:00 +0000

16 Jul 2013 - 20:55 | Tags: Sex, summer sex

Walking around at the moment the amount of flesh on display is almost unbelievable. As Brits, it’s rare that we get the opportunity to enjoy the sunshine so the moment a break in the clouds happens we strip off.

Bikinis, thongs, hot pants, short shorts…you name it, it’s probably already been displayed peacock style down the road by your neighbours. Taking a stroll through the park the other day, we were amazed at the sheer numbers of people walking around next to naked…which for randy horny fuck buddies is brilliant.

Sex In The Sun
Fucking indoors is fine – it’s private, uninhibited and generally the most common setting for sex. However the second you take the party outdoors things get amped up so much more and the sex can be ten levels of excitement above what you’re used to.

Dogging and other public sex acts are causing more people to get busted by the police every year. Why?

The risk factor.

How To Do It Outdoors…Without Getting Caught
Risk is an aphrodisiac. This was proven centuries ago when man first went to war and after battle went at with his woman like a true soldier. Having sex outdoors may not be the same as cutting your way through the enemy before shagging your fuck buddy senseless, but the increased endorphin levels swimming around your body will make you horny as hell.

So how can you do it without getting caught?

The risk of getting caught is part of the fun, but if you’d rather not spend a night in the charming company of the police, then follow some of our tips:

1. Private Residence = Semi-Private Shag
You or your fuck buddy can have risky fun in the comfort of your own back garden. As it’s classed as private property there is precious little the neighbours can do about it. BUT…do remember that they could still register a complaint with the police. So if you want the risk, but don’t want to annoy your neighbours, maybe pick a spot in the garden that isn’t easily viewable from next door. Behind the shed, under a tree or surrounded by a few bushes might just be enough to run the risk.

2. Public Shag…Choose your spot wisely
If a garden session isn’t enough for you then you need to think carefully about where you want to take your fun. We do not advocate breaking the law so be aware of the trouble you can get into if you’re caught having sex by a member of the public. The best way to reduce the risk of getting caught is to pick a remote spot that you know very few people go to. A field, an abandoned barn, the middle of a forest…basically anywhere you know there are few people about. The risk is still there, but you’re less likely to get in trouble.

Outdoor Fun In The Sun
With the mercury set to climb even higher over the coming months, outdoor sex will become more and more viable and easier to achieve. Plan it accordingly and you can enjoy some exciting fun in the sun with your fuck buddy.

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jeni — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 09:18:00 +0000

29 Apr 2013 - 10:18 | Tags: adult chat, adult dating, F-buddy, friends with benefits, Fuck Buddy, hot girls, No strings attached, nsa, Sex, sexy

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