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The Rules of Casual Sex?

EdBennett — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 11:27:08 +0000

21 Feb 2015 - 11:27 | Tags: casual sex rules, F-buddy, casual sex

One thing I’ve learned about sex, is that each encounter is different to the next. Oh sure I get to have sex with a new person every now and then, but the build up is usually different and the actual sex different. Both physically and emotionally, casual sex means different things for me at different times. It got me to thinking about the rules of casual sex and if they are rigid or are in any way flexible. Let’s take a look.

Rules of Casual Sex
1. Try new things
Yes it’s true that with casual sex there is less worry about a new position not being liked by your partner. However just because you want to ride the rodeo and go to town with your fuck buddy doesn’t mean you always should. It totally depends on how your partner feels. Don’t be afraid to try new positions and new techniques and fetishes, but be sure to discuss some of the more extreme tastes before trying them.

2. Don’t act like a boyfriend
This is true. You shouldn’t mislead a fuck buddy into thinking that you want more than sex from the relationship. If you do it can really hurt feelings (yours included). That said, don’t treat your partners like disposable pleasure toys. These are human beings – like you – that you’re dealing with. Would you like to be treated as a disposable play thing? Show respect and you’ll earn respect in return.

3. Engage in Fantasy
Casual sex is indeed the perfect place to indulge in fantasy, but you need to let your partner know of any specific fantasies before engaging in them. You don’t want your wild side to leave a fuck buddy feeling awkward or nervous. Just be upfront about what it is you want to try and remember that your partner has fantasies too.

4. Don’t meet friends
This is casual sex you’re into, not ‘Meet the Parents’ or ‘friends’ of your f-buddy. The moment you start to get involved with your buddy’s life is the moment you’ve become more than a fuck buddy. Avoid friends and family, but remember to be polite in your refusal if it’s offered.

The Sexting Do’s & Don’ts in 2015

EdBennett — Thu, 15 Jan 2015 11:26:40 +0000

15 Jan 2015 - 11:26 | Tags: sexting, dirty texting, casual sex rules

It’s something that everyone has been doing or tried at least once since mobile phones became common place. Sexting is something that can go incredibly right, or outrageously wrong depending on your point of view. To be successful at sexting (text messaging with a sexual undertone in case you’re new to this term), you need to be realistic about the type of relationship you’re in. As we are a site dedicated to the more casual relationship, we will focus on the do’s and don’ts of sexting in this context.

DO
Be Coy at first
Nothing screams ‘Desperate!’ more than blatant sexual overtures before you’ve even met the person you’re trying to get into bed. Be a little coy when you try sexting a new person for the first time.

DON’T
Send a picture of your genitals
Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! For some reason a lot of guys think that apping a picture of their penis to a potential fuck buddy is a huge turn on. Some women think that sending a picture of their vagina will have guys gagging for it. Clue: both are a huge turn off. The most powerful sexual organ of the body is the brain. Try using it a bit before sexting someone.

DO
Send provocative pics
Remember how we said that sending pics of your willy or pussy is wrong? Well sending pics of you in some sexy underwear or with your shirt of can be a little more alluring. The clue is in the word ‘allure’. You’re teasing at this point. That can be more a turn on then any dick or vag shot that you think might work.

DON’T
Text anything you don’t want other people to see
If the idea of a date’s friends seeing you in the nude or in your skimpies has your blood running cold then don’t send the pic. If the idea of someone other than your man/woman reading messages that would have you blushing in public, don’t send them. Sexting is as much of a modern art form as poetry. The idea is to arouse the intended recipient, not their friends.

DO
Share your fantasies
There are many ways of sharing your sexual fantasies and texting them to your fuck buddy is the way to get you both sexually simmering for one another.

DON’T
Sext before you’ve actually had sex
Before you’ve actually slept with them, don’t sext your partner. Again premature sexting will usually lead to absolutely no sex. Wait a little before you start doing it.

Casual Sex Rules

jeni — Wed, 08 May 2013 13:42:37 +0000

8 May 2013 - 14:42 | Tags: casual sex, casual sex rules

Having been asked so many times what you should and shouldn’t do in a fuck buddy situation, we decided to put together some general advice and guidance. These ‘rules’ (and we use that term loosely) are intended to guide both newbies and veterans in the casual sex arena.

1. This is not love
It’s easy to forget that everyone likes to feel a warm body next to their own whether or not they’re in a relationship. Casual sex – the key is in the title – is intended to be just that; a casual connection designed to give both parties something they want physically and nothing more.

2. Avoid detailed after sex talk
You’ll be so satisfied and content after a decent fuck that it’s easy to get verbal diarrhoea and end up sharing things like ‘how many kids you want to have one day’ with your sex partner. This can lead to problems such as a) they’ll get bored and won’t want to sleep with you again, and b) if you start talking about kids etc. they might think that you want more than just a casual fling. Keep your foot out of your mouth by keeping chatting to a minimum after sex.

3. Don’t buy gifts for each other
This is a dead giveaway that you care about them more than just ‘casually’. If you do…great! (and you’ll need to discuss that with them). If you don’t, avoid gift giving like the plague.

4. Don’t stop dating
You’re here for a casual hook up, not to find your long term life partner (although if you do, who are we to do anything but cheer and say congratulations). You want sex, they want sex. You should still go out and meet other people. You never know what might happen.

5. The meaning of sex
Most people don’t realise it but sex can get pretty dull and crusty quickly when just lust is involved. Don’t let it get to that stage. Only meet up on a semi regular basis to keep the passion alive.

6. Don’t fall into traps
If one party is trying to manoeuvre the other into a ‘committed’ situation by doing things like crying or accusing you of using them…exit quickly. You’re here for casual sex, not a drama starring you.

7. Keep living your life
Don’t forget that you have things to do away from your fuck buddy. Don’t sacrifice other important areas of your life for casual sex.

8. Always protect against pregnancy and STDs
Sounds stupid, but the number of people who engage in unprotected sex with different partners is mind blowing. Be smart and wear a condom, take the pill or use whatever other method you choose to protect yourself from unfortunate consequences.

9. Have fun!
This is casual sex, not nervous preparation for a date with Beyonce or George Clooney. Enjoy it!