Stress can affect your sex drive

EdBennett — Wed, 10 Dec 2014 11:52:51 +0000

10 Dec 2014 - 11:52 | Tags: stress, sex drive

Christmas is coming. Kisses under the mistletoe and illicit meet ups could be on the cards for you. The idea of an open fire, roasted chestnuts and snow covered rooftops conjure up relaxing images. However as we all know, Christmas is often a lead cause for stress. Shopping for presents at the last minute, trying to make sure all your work is done before everyone leaves for the holidays and getting paid…it’s enough to make you want to just wave a white flag. Christmas is one of the busiest times of the year and often one of the most stressful. Stress can really hurt your sex life.

1. Stress leads to a negative body image
When we feel stressed we tend to notice our physical appearance more than we do when relaxed. Suddenly our muscles look flabby, our arses seem huge and our bellies look massive. It’s all in our heads but when we’re stressed the perceived flaws are a big deal. When we feel fat or unattractive the last thing we want to do is strip off and have sex.

2. Stress affects the libido
This has been confirmed by countless medical experts. The more stressed we feel, the lower our sex drive becomes. Hormones in our bodies take on terrifyingly effective levels when we’re not feeling ourselves. Cortisol is one hormone produced by stress and it floods our body making us irritable, alert and on edge. When was the last time you wanted or enjoyed sex when you felt this way?

3. Stress can make us paranoid
When we’re stressed we question everything, even things that were perfectly reasonable and normal before. Our relationships with our partners (casual or otherwise), families, friends and colleagues are all thrown into doubt. We begin seeing conspiracies everywhere and feel that people are plotting against us. Sex is the farthest thing on your mind when you feel this way.

4. Stress leads to bad excess
Poor diet, heavy drinking and interrupted sleep are all part of feeling low. Instead of exercising and trying to do the right things to perk ourselves up we do the opposite. We drink heavy amounts of wine and beer to cheer ourselves up but alcohol causes erectile dysfunction and a lack of lubrication. When was the last time you had an orgasm when drinking heavily? Eating badly also affects our health and our sex drive. A kebab or burger might sound good at the time, but it does nothing for your sex life.

5. Stress leads to poor decisions on sex
Stress causes us to make terrible decisions when having sex. A late night out drinking can see us going home with the wrong people. Even in a causal relationship you need to choose partners carefully. Stress affects both sides and having sex with the wrong person can cause a lot of emotional damage. Think carefully before opening a bottle or can when choosing a fuck buddy.

Bottom line: sex is great, stress is bad. Stress leads to bad sex or no sex. So if you’re stressed this Christmas think about the ways you can relieve it before jumping into bed with someone. Ironically sex is a great stress reliever, but you won’t be able to enjoy it when you’re stressed.

Sex Drive: Whose is higher?

jeni — Fri, 24 May 2013 08:42:09 +0000

24 May 2013 - 09:42 | Tags: sex drive, whose sex drive is higher

Who has the higher sex drive? Men or Women?

Looking at the number of both male and female members on this site it would be safe to say that both have an equally large appetite for sex. The question is; does one gender want it more than the other?

We did a little investigating to find out.

The Stereotypes

Myth 1: Men want sex more than women.
Reality: Women want sex just as much as men do.

It has long been established that men want sex all the time and according to Edward O Laumann (who holds a PhD in Sociology at the University of Chicago) the majority of men under 60 in the world think about sex at least once a day.

However women think about sex at least several times a day according to surveys conducted by the Huffington Post and hundreds of online magazines. Back to the drawing board Doctor Laumann.

Myth 2: Men enjoy sex more than women.
Reality: Women enjoy sex more than men.

We suspected this all along but it was nice to see our theory backed up with solid facts from several dozen articles in Vogue and other women’s magazines and hundreds of confessions from women online citing longer and more pleasurable orgasms derived from sex. Also lots of women like to have sex more frequently because they simply crave the body of another person and the feeling of a man inside them.

Myth 3: Women are more likely to turn down sex
Reality: Men are more likely to turn down sex

Another stereotype debunked. New research and survey results show that men are now more likely to turn down sex then women citing ‘stress’, ‘dissatisfaction with own body’ and ‘low libido’.

Myth 4: Women’s sex drive decreases with age
Reality: Women’s sex drive increases with age

Worldwide studies from the past decade show that women between the ages of 27 through to 45 have more sex and more frequent and intense sexual fantasies then those of 27 and under. Contrary to social conditioning – women’s sex drive races ahead of men’s the older they get.

Welcome to reality
Both sexes enjoy…sex, but it is women who currently appear to have a higher sex drive then men. The sheer weight of female members on our site would seem to back that up alone.

However at the end of the day both sexes should feel secure that there are at least an equal amount of people out there all thinking about and doing the same thing. Having a fuck buddy no longer seems quite the stigma it once was.

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Stress can affect your sex drive

Sex Drive: Whose is higher?