Have standards to hold a woman

EdBennett — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 09:56:38 +0000

12 Feb 2016 - 09:56 | Tags: sexual double standards, relationship advice

When we find a woman that we like, we might go over and talk to her. After some time we might ask them out on a date. For some people this is 5 minutes for others 5 months! Eventually we get there and a courtship ensues. Again the speed at which this progresses is completely dependent on you and the other person. I know a couple that slept together on the first night and ended up getting married, I also know people that would court for months and months, ultimately getting nowhere with the relationship.

Once you move into having sex everything gets easier. The door has been opened, you have put your sexual cards on the table and that gives space for everything else to start opening up and growing. Where that goes again is down to who you are, however there is a sure fire way of killing any possibility of something growing into the medium term. Have no standards... for yourself.

Many people hold standards of the way they live their work lives or their home lives, but when it comes to a relationship I have seen people drop their standards so quickly without even realising that they are doing it. They want to make the other person happy, and inadvertently they find themselves crossing lines they have drawn for themselves, or capitulating on points that previously they would never have let go.

They do it out of a desire to keep the woman that they are with – but actually ultimately it causes the woman to leave them. Let me give you an example. Man is working hard at a job – long hours. Woman complains that he doesn’t spend enough time with her. Man cuts down job in order to spend more time with her, ceasing to be the high flying powerful business man that the girl fell for in the first place. She stops fancying him, attraction dies and ultimately she leaves him to be alone and in a worse position that when he met her without the position he once held to see him through. How did this happen? The man dropped his standards.

When in a relationship whether a short fuck buddy style set up or a more medium or long term relationship, remember this and do not drop your standards in order to try and “keep” or “please” the woman. Remember that ultimately she liked you for the person you were when she met you, changing that in any major way is going to get your ass dumped.

Fuck Buddies: The Sexual Double Standard

jeni — Sat, 29 Jun 2013 20:32:41 +0000

29 Jun 2013 - 21:32 | Tags: sexual double standards

This is a continuation of our discussion started in our earlier post (Embarrassed about having a fuck buddy?) and something that is frustrating men and everywhere.

We have already talked about the reasons people are embarrassed about having a fuck buddy or to be more accurate; embarrassed to consider having a fuck buddy or talk about having a fuck buddy to a friend or family member. Yet when you put all the reasoning for why such a large stigma has been attached to casual sex, you soon discover a number of sexual double standards.

Sexual Double Standard? Fuck it!
Research published by Rutgers University in New Brunswick, Canada has concluded that both men and women are equally as likely to promote double standards when it comes to the subject of casual sex. The traditional view is that ‘Men are Heroes’ if they sleep with as many women as possible and ‘Women are Sluts’ if they sleep with as many men as possible.

Both views have found to be in error according to the research.

Male Control Vs. Female Control
Researchers asked an equal number of men and women whether they gave advice designed to keep a balance of control in sexual standards. For example; men would look down on women who slept around, yet championed other men who looked for casual sex. Similarly women who engaged in casual sex or considered engaging in casual sex were discouraged from doing so by their peer groups despite traditional feminist principles dictating that women should feel liberated by their sexuality.

Yet whilst the results seemed to show that there was a greater level of male control, both genders were found equally responsible for sexual double standards given that both used rape risk and social stigma as reasons to discourage women from having casual sex.
What does this mean for fuck buddies?
In short: that you have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

The Rutger study and others like it found that men and women are equally as likely to accept offers of casual sex from people they have just met. The reasons are similar, though there are small differences. Women are more likely to assess a potential fuck buddy based on the person’s ability to provide sexual gratification. Men are less choosey.

Be Safe…but get your fuck on with no shame!
We encourage all our members to play it safe whilst having fun, but based on the results of the Rutger study and our own experience we would also encourage all our member and any potential new ones, not to feel ashamed or embarrassed about having a fuck buddy.

As evidence shows; there is no reason for it.

F Buddy - sexual double standards

Have standards to hold a woman

Fuck Buddies: The Sexual Double Standard