When it comes to knowing when to text or call after you’ve been out on a date that’s ended up with sex, forget what you’ve read in all the magazines or heard from dating coaches: there are no set rules.
Fuck the rules, Enjoy the moment
For years we have heard thousands of stories from men and women who worry over when they should call or text their date even after they’ve had sex. Should it be 1 day? 1 hour? 3 Days? Do I want to seem keen and text right after, or would it seem desperate and clingy?
These questions are understandable…but they are also ridiculous.
Male and Female dating coaches haven’t helped the situation by actually providing specific guides on when and how to text or call.
“Some friends of mine recently had a big discussion over when we would like a guy to text or call us and we came up with the following: If the guy really liked us then we would expect a text telling us how much he enjoyed the date on the same night. However we don’t want to be bombarded with texts. If the guy wasn’t sure about the date then we would expect a text maybe 1-3 days afterward. If the guy didn’t like us at all, then we wouldn’t expect to hear anything from him.”
Monica Fe’Vevder
Dating Coach, UK
Advice like this can be empathised with, but it doesn’t actually help either party. Fortunately there are some coaches who provide advice that in our view hits the mark far more.
“A simple text after the date to tell us you had a great time? Works. A call a couple of days later to chat? Perfect. Be genuine. The right type of woman will love you for it.”
Claire Austen
Freelance Writer
Claire’s advice over when to text or call is mirrored by hundreds of women who post on web forums discussing this very issue over and over. But when should you call or text once you’ve slept with someone?
When to text after first fuck
For the purpose of our site, we would recommend Claire’s advice every time. Be genuine about whether you enjoyed the experience or not. Having a good fuck buddy relationship requires both parties to be completely upfront about things. If the sex is good or great then you should text or call your buddy shortly after to let them know. It will most likely to lead to a second meeting if that’s what you both want. If you don’t hear back then you can move on assuming that the buddy didn’t feel the same way. If this happens don’t feel down – there are thousands of other people to choose from. Just because you didn’t click with one fuck buddy doesn’t mean you won’t click with another.
Only one rule: Be Genuine and Honest
It makes us smile when we hear from people who simply can’t believe we advocate trust and honesty on this site more than anything else.
The simple truth of any relationship, sexual or otherwise, is that it will not be productive or hold any meaning or longevity (if that’s what you’re after) if neither party is open and honest about what they want.
You want to have sex? Great…be honest about it. You didn’t enjoy your meet up with a fuck buddy? Fine, let them know, but don’t crush their libido. Just because you didn’t enjoy having sex with them, doesn’t mean someone else won’t. If you did enjoy your meet up, let them know!
Life is short and no one should be wasting time on asking stupid questions like ‘When should I text or call?’
Add new comment